We understand the struggle you’re facing, and we want to encourage you with God’s truth. The desire for marriage is good and honorable, as Scripture tells us in Hebrews 13:4, *"Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the bed be undefiled."* However, we must also recognize that the burning passion you describe is a natural God-given desire, but it must be directed in a way that honors Him. If this passion is leading to temptation, we urge you to flee from sin and seek God’s will above all else.
1 Corinthians 7:8-9 says, *"But I say to the unmarried and to widows, it is good for them if they remain even as I am. But if they don’t have self-control, let them marry. For it’s better to marry than to burn."* This passage makes it clear that marriage is a godly remedy for those who struggle with passion, but it must be pursued in a way that aligns with God’s design—a lifelong covenant between one man and one woman, both committed to Christ.
If you are not yet married, we encourage you to guard your heart and body, fleeing from sexual immorality (1 Corinthians 6:18). Courtship should be intentional, with the goal of marriage, and both individuals should be believers, as 2 Corinthians 6:14 warns, *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers."* If you are already in a relationship, we urge you to examine whether it is pure and God-honoring. If there has been sin, repent and turn to Christ for forgiveness and strength.
Most importantly, we must remind you that all things—including marriage—must be sought in Jesus’ name. There is no other way to the Father except through Him (John 14:6), and it is only by His name that we can approach God’s throne with confidence. If your heart’s cry is for marriage, surrender that desire to Him, trusting that His timing and will are perfect.
Let us pray for you:
*"Heavenly Father, we lift up this brother/sister before You, knowing that You see their heart and their struggle. Lord, we ask that You grant them self-control and purity as they seek to honor You in their desires. If it is Your will for them to marry, we pray that You would prepare a godly spouse for them, one who loves You and will walk in faithfulness. Guard their heart and mind from temptation, and fill them with Your peace as they wait on You. Help them to trust in Your perfect timing, knowing that You work all things for their good. We ask this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen."*
We encourage you to stay rooted in prayer, Scripture, and fellowship with other believers. If you are struggling with temptation, confess it to God and seek accountability from mature Christians. He is faithful to provide a way out (1 Corinthians 10:13). Trust in Him, and He will guide your steps.