Abusive former "friends"
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We understand the deep pain and betrayal you’ve experienced at the hands of those you once considered friends. It is heartbreaking when kindness is repaid with cruelty, and we grieve with you over the wounds this has left. The Scriptures speak clearly to such situations, reminding us that God sees all things and will bring justice in His perfect timing. Proverbs 26:24-26 warns, *"A malicious man disguises himself with his lips, but he harbors evil in his heart. Though his speech is charming, don’t believe him; for seven abominations are in his heart. His malice may be concealed by deception, but his wickedness will be exposed in the assembly."* These former "friends" revealed their true nature through their actions, and while it is painful, you are now free from their deception.
The Lord also tells us in Romans 12:19, *"Don’t seek revenge yourselves, beloved, but give place to God’s wrath. For it is written, ‘Vengeance belongs to me; I will repay, says the Lord.’"* Your desire for vindication is not wrong—it is a cry for justice, and God hears it. He is the righteous Judge who will set all things right. In the meantime, He calls you to release this burden into His hands, trusting that His justice is far greater than any retribution you could seek. Psalm 37:5-6 encourages us, *"Commit your way to Yahweh. Trust also in him, and he will do this: he will bring out your righteousness as the light, and your justice as the noonday."*
We also urge you to guard your heart against bitterness. Ephesians 4:31-32 commands, *"Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, outcry, and slander be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you."* Forgiveness does not mean what they did was acceptable or that you must reconcile with them—it means releasing them to God’s judgment so that *you* are not held captive by resentment. Jesus Himself, while being betrayed and abused, prayed, *"Father, forgive them, for they don’t know what they are doing"* (Luke 23:34). His example shows us that even in the face of evil, we can entrust ourselves to the One who judges righteously (1 Peter 2:23).
Let us pray for you now:
Heavenly Father, we lift up our brother/sister before You, asking for Your comfort and healing over the deep wounds caused by those who betrayed their trust. Lord, You see the pain they’ve endured—the kindness repaid with evil, the love met with abuse. We ask that You would vindicate them, not for their sake alone, but for the sake of Your righteousness. Expose the deeds of darkness and bring Your justice, for You are a God who defends the oppressed and executes justice for the fatherless and the widow (Deuteronomy 10:18).
Father, we pray too for protection over their heart. Guard them from bitterness, from the temptation to dwell on revenge, or from the lie that they were at fault for the cruelty of others. Fill them with Your peace, which surpasses all understanding, and remind them that their worth is found in You alone. Help them to forgive, not because these people deserve it, but because You have called us to walk in freedom.
Surround them with godly friends—true brothers and sisters in Christ who will love them as You do, without manipulation or harm. Restore their trust in Your goodness, even when people fail them. And Lord, if there are lessons to be learned from this pain, reveal them gently by Your Spirit. May this season draw them closer to You, their ultimate Defender and Redeemer.
We ask all this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Advocate and Just Judge. Amen.
Finally, we encourage you to cling to the truth that God is your refuge. Psalm 9:9-10 declares, *"Yahweh will also be a high tower for the oppressed; a high tower in times of trouble. Those who know your name will put their trust in you, for you, Yahweh, have not forsaken those who seek you."* Keep seeking Him, and He will be your strength. If these individuals attempt to re-enter your life, pray for wisdom and discernment. Set firm boundaries, for Proverbs 22:24-25 warns, *"Don’t befriend a hot-tempered man, and don’t associate with one who harbors anger, lest you learn his ways, and ensnare your soul."* Trust that God will guide you in how to respond—or not respond—with His wisdom.
You are not alone in this. We stand with you in prayer, believing that God will bring beauty from these ashes (Isaiah 61:3). Stay steadfast in Him.
The Lord also tells us in Romans 12:19, *"Don’t seek revenge yourselves, beloved, but give place to God’s wrath. For it is written, ‘Vengeance belongs to me; I will repay, says the Lord.’"* Your desire for vindication is not wrong—it is a cry for justice, and God hears it. He is the righteous Judge who will set all things right. In the meantime, He calls you to release this burden into His hands, trusting that His justice is far greater than any retribution you could seek. Psalm 37:5-6 encourages us, *"Commit your way to Yahweh. Trust also in him, and he will do this: he will bring out your righteousness as the light, and your justice as the noonday."*
We also urge you to guard your heart against bitterness. Ephesians 4:31-32 commands, *"Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, outcry, and slander be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you."* Forgiveness does not mean what they did was acceptable or that you must reconcile with them—it means releasing them to God’s judgment so that *you* are not held captive by resentment. Jesus Himself, while being betrayed and abused, prayed, *"Father, forgive them, for they don’t know what they are doing"* (Luke 23:34). His example shows us that even in the face of evil, we can entrust ourselves to the One who judges righteously (1 Peter 2:23).
Let us pray for you now:
Heavenly Father, we lift up our brother/sister before You, asking for Your comfort and healing over the deep wounds caused by those who betrayed their trust. Lord, You see the pain they’ve endured—the kindness repaid with evil, the love met with abuse. We ask that You would vindicate them, not for their sake alone, but for the sake of Your righteousness. Expose the deeds of darkness and bring Your justice, for You are a God who defends the oppressed and executes justice for the fatherless and the widow (Deuteronomy 10:18).
Father, we pray too for protection over their heart. Guard them from bitterness, from the temptation to dwell on revenge, or from the lie that they were at fault for the cruelty of others. Fill them with Your peace, which surpasses all understanding, and remind them that their worth is found in You alone. Help them to forgive, not because these people deserve it, but because You have called us to walk in freedom.
Surround them with godly friends—true brothers and sisters in Christ who will love them as You do, without manipulation or harm. Restore their trust in Your goodness, even when people fail them. And Lord, if there are lessons to be learned from this pain, reveal them gently by Your Spirit. May this season draw them closer to You, their ultimate Defender and Redeemer.
We ask all this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Advocate and Just Judge. Amen.
Finally, we encourage you to cling to the truth that God is your refuge. Psalm 9:9-10 declares, *"Yahweh will also be a high tower for the oppressed; a high tower in times of trouble. Those who know your name will put their trust in you, for you, Yahweh, have not forsaken those who seek you."* Keep seeking Him, and He will be your strength. If these individuals attempt to re-enter your life, pray for wisdom and discernment. Set firm boundaries, for Proverbs 22:24-25 warns, *"Don’t befriend a hot-tempered man, and don’t associate with one who harbors anger, lest you learn his ways, and ensnare your soul."* Trust that God will guide you in how to respond—or not respond—with His wisdom.
You are not alone in this. We stand with you in prayer, believing that God will bring beauty from these ashes (Isaiah 61:3). Stay steadfast in Him.
We're right here with you, friend. We've felt the sting of betrayal too, and it's a bitter pill to swallow. But remember, God sees all. He knows every hurt, every tear. He's the ultimate Judge, and He's got this. In His time, He'll make all things right.
We've been thinking about that verse in 2 Corinthians 1:3-4, "Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God." We've received comfort, and we want to pass that on to you.
Let's pray together, shall we? "Dear Lord, we lift up our friend to You. We ask for Your healing balm on their wounds. Help them to trust in Your justice, knowing that You see all and will make all things right. Give them strength to forgive, not because it's easy, but because You've forgiven us so much. Surround them with Your peace, and help them to find joy again. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen."
We've been thinking about that verse in 2 Corinthians 1:3-4, "Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God." We've received comfort, and we want to pass that on to you.
Let's pray together, shall we? "Dear Lord, we lift up our friend to You. We ask for Your healing balm on their wounds. Help them to trust in Your justice, knowing that You see all and will make all things right. Give them strength to forgive, not because it's easy, but because You've forgiven us so much. Surround them with Your peace, and help them to find joy again. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen."
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Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.
God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net
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Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net
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"May the Lord bless you and protect you. May the Lord smile on you and be gracious to you. May the Lord show you his favor and give you his peace." Numbers 6:24-26
"May the Lord bless you and protect you. May the Lord smile on you and be gracious to you. May the Lord show you his favor and give you his peace." Numbers 6:24-26
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