We grieve with you over the deep wounds you are carrying, and we stand with you in the name of Jesus to declare that the Lord sees your suffering and hears your cry. The betrayal, deception, and violence you have endured are not God’s will for your life, and we must first speak truth over this situation: what your husband is doing is sinful, destructive, and an abomination before the Lord. Scripture is clear that a husband is to love his wife as Christ loved the church—sacrificially, faithfully, and with reverence (Ephesians 5:25-29). Instead, your husband’s actions reflect the works of the flesh: "idolatry, sorcery, hatred, strife, jealousies, outbursts of anger, rivalries, divisions, heresies, envy, murders, drunkenness, orgies, and things like these" (Galatians 5:19-21). His behavior is not only breaking your heart but also grieving the Holy Spirit, and it must be confronted with the truth of God’s Word.
The Lord hates violence and deceit. Proverbs 6:16-19 tells us, "There are six things which Yahweh hates; yes, seven which are an abomination to him: arrogant eyes, a lying tongue, hands that shed innocent blood, a heart that devises wicked schemes, feet that are swift in running to mischief, a false witness who utters lies, and he who sows discord among brothers." Your husband’s actions align with these abominations, and we must pray not only for your protection and healing but also for his repentance—for the Lord to break his heart of stone and give him a heart of flesh (Ezekiel 36:26). However, your safety and well-being must come first. Scripture does not require you to remain in a situation where you are being harmed. In 1 Corinthians 7:15, Paul writes, "Yet if the unbeliever departs, let there be separation. The brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God has called us in peace." While we pray for reconciliation if it is possible, we also recognize that your husband’s unrepentant sin may require you to take steps to protect yourself, even if that means separation. You are not obligated to endure abuse in the name of "submission." God calls us to peace, not to suffering at the hands of the wicked.
We also want to address the financial deception you’ve mentioned. The Bible warns against those who "defraud laborers of their wages" (James 5:4) and who act secretly to harm their own household. Proverbs 13:11 says, "Wealth gained dishonestly dwindles, but he who gathers by hand makes it grow." Your husband’s hidden finances are not only a betrayal of you but also an invitation for God’s discipline. We pray that the Lord will expose every hidden thing and restore what has been stolen from you. He is your Provider, and He sees your need. Philippians 4:19 declares, "My God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus." Trust that the Lord will make a way where there seems to be no way. He can turn what the enemy meant for harm into a testimony of His faithfulness.
As for your healing—mind, soul, and body—we stand in agreement that the Lord is your Healer. The trauma you’ve endured has left deep scars, but Jesus is the Balm of Gilead (Jeremiah 8:22). He binds up the brokenhearted and sets the captives free (Isaiah 61:1). You may feel shattered, but Psalm 34:18 assures us, "Yahweh is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit." Lean into Him, sister. Let Him restore what has been broken. If you haven’t already, we strongly encourage you to seek godly counseling and a safe community of believers who can walk with you through this valley. You do not have to carry this alone.
Now, let us pray over you with the authority of Jesus Christ:
Heavenly Father, we come before You on behalf of our sister, who has endured so much pain and betrayal. Lord, You see every tear she has cried, every wound inflicted upon her, and every lie that has pierced her heart. We ask You to be her Defender, her Shield, and her Strong Tower. Psalm 9:9 says, "Yahweh will also be a high tower for the oppressed; a high tower in times of trouble." Father, rise up as her Protector and deliver her from this oppression.
We rebuke the spirit of deceit, violence, and adultery that has taken root in her husband’s life. Lord, convict him deeply of his sin. Bring him to true repentance, or if he hardens his heart, expose his deeds and break the chains he has placed upon this marriage. If separation is necessary for her safety, give her the wisdom and courage to take those steps. Surround her with godly counsel and provide for her every need—financially, emotionally, and spiritually.
Father, we ask for a victorious financial miracle. You own the cattle on a thousand hills (Psalm 50:10), and You are able to open the windows of heaven and pour out a blessing she cannot contain (Malachi 3:10). Restore what has been stolen. Provide for her in ways that leave no doubt it was Your hand at work.
Lord, heal her mind, soul, and body. Cast out every spirit of fear, anxiety, and shame. Renew her strength like the eagle’s (Isaiah 40:31). Let her find her identity in You alone, as a daughter of the Most High, redeemed and beloved. Fill her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7).
We declare that no weapon formed against her will prosper (Isaiah 54:17). The enemy has sought to destroy her, but You, Lord, will turn this situation around for her good and Your glory (Romans 8:28). Give her the grace to forgive, not because her husband deserves it, but because You have forgiven her. And Father, if this marriage is beyond repair, give her the strength to walk away in peace, knowing You have a plan for her future—a future filled with hope (Jeremiah 29:11).
We pray all these things in the mighty and matchless name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
Finally, sister, we urge you to stay rooted in the Word of God and in prayer. Do not isolate yourself—reach out to your church leadership or a trusted Christian counselor who can help you navigate this season. If you are in immediate danger, please seek help from local authorities or a shelter. You are precious to God, and He has not forgotten you. Keep your eyes fixed on Jesus, the Author and Perfecter of your faith (Hebrews 12:2). He will lead you through this storm into His marvelous light.
