A woman wants another child

[Anonymous]

A woman wants another child. She raised her son on her own. She's been wanting another child. She has looked into adoption and also has been looking at sperm banks because she doesn't want to worry about a man leaving her for having a child again. Her son's dad told her to get an abortion with their son when they were dating. She never got the abortion that he wanted her to get. Her son is the only child he has. Then he kept leaving she and their son. Until he left for good. She raised him and now her son been talking about going to trade school. She's going to be alone. She's wanting another child. Cause she doesn't want to be alone. Please keep her in prayer. She's looking at adoption sites, looking at sperm bank sites. She's not looking forward to meeting any man. Because the man that she meets don't ever want children.

 

[Articles]

We hear your heart and the deep longing this woman carries, not just for another child, but for companionship, purpose, and security. Her past wounds are still fresh, and her fear of abandonment is understandable. Yet we must gently but firmly speak truth in love, for her choices must align with God’s design, not just her emotions.

First, we rebuke the spirit of fear that whispers she will be alone forever. The Lord declares, "Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you, yes, I will help you, I will uphold you with My righteous right hand" (Isaiah 41:10). Her worth is not defined by motherhood or a man’s presence, but by Christ, who calls her "beloved" (Romans 9:25). We also rebuke the lies that say a child will fill the void left by broken relationships. Only Jesus satisfies the deepest longings of the heart (John 6:35).

Her consideration of sperm banks and single motherhood by choice raises serious biblical concerns. Children are a heritage from the Lord (Psalm 127:3), but they are meant to be raised in a home where a mother and father reflect God’s design for family (Genesis 2:24, Ephesians 6:1-4). While we honor her strength in raising her son alone, intentionally creating a fatherless home for another child is not God’s best. Scripture warns against making decisions based on fear or self-reliance rather than trust in Him (Proverbs 3:5-6).

Adoption, however, is a beautiful and biblical way to expand a family. James 1:27 calls us to care for orphans, and Esther, Moses, and even Jesus Himself were part of adoption stories. If her heart is truly called to motherhood again, adoption could be a path, but not as a means to escape loneliness. She must examine her motives and seek God’s will, not just her own desires.

Most critically, we must ask: Has she surrendered her life to Jesus Christ? Does she know Him as her Savior and the only One who can heal her wounds? If not, no child, man, or earthly solution will bring lasting peace. We pray she encounters the love of Christ, who says, "Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest" (Matthew 11:28). Only He can restore what was broken and fill the empty places in her heart.

Let us pray:

Heavenly Father, we lift this dear woman to You, the God who sees her pain, her fears, and her longings. Lord, You know the rejection she has endured, the nights she has cried, and the weight of raising a child alone. We ask You to heal her heart from the wounds inflicted by her son’s father. Let her know, deep in her spirit, that You will never leave her nor forsake her (Hebrews 13:5). Replace her fear with Your perfect love, which casts out all fear (1 John 4:18).

Father, we ask You to reveal Your will for her life. If motherhood is still part of Your plan, guide her toward adoption in a way that honors You and provides a loving home for a child in need. But Lord, we pray she would not seek a child out of loneliness or fear, but out of a surrendered heart that trusts in Your provision. Help her to wait on You, knowing that those who wait on the Lord shall renew their strength (Isaiah 40:31).

We rebuke the enemy’s lies that tell her she is unworthy of love or that she must take matters into her own hands. Remind her that she is fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14) and that You have plans for her welfare, not for evil, to give her a future and a hope (Jeremiah 29:11). If she does not yet know You, Lord, draw her to Yourself. Let her experience the love of Christ, which surpasses all understanding (Ephesians 3:19). May she find her identity in You, not in motherhood, a man, or any earthly role.

Father, we also pray for her son. Thank You for the gift he has been to her. As he prepares for trade school, give him wisdom, discernment, and a heart that seeks You. Surround him with godly mentors and friends who will point him to Christ. May their relationship grow stronger as they both walk with You.

Finally, Lord, we ask that You would bring godly, Christ-centered men into her life, not for the sake of companionship alone, but for the purpose of marriage, if that is Your will. Prepare her heart to trust again, not in her own strength, but in Yours. Let her see that true security is found in You alone.

We pray all these things in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, the Author and Perfecter of our faith, who is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think (Ephesians 3:20). Amen.

 

[hostadmin]

We hear the ache behind this, the courage it took to raise your son alone, the deep desire for another child, and the fear of being left again. That fear makes so much sense after what you lived through. The man who should have stood with you walked away, and you carried the weight on your own. Now, watching your son look toward trade school, the house feels emptier before he's even gone.

What you name as not wanting to be alone is real and tender. A child can fill a home with noise and purpose and love, but we've seen again and again that a child cannot carry the full weight of an adult's loneliness, it's too heavy a load for little shoulders. The emptiness you're bracing for isn't something a baby can fix, even though that longing is completely understandable.

One step we'd gently encourage is reconnecting with a body of people who can walk with you. A local church that sees you, that gathers around single moms not as a project but as family, that kind of community changes things. Some churches even have single-mother support groups where women share the load, trade babysitting, and show up for each other. You weren't made to do this alone, and being known by others who stay can soften the fear of being abandoned again.

Your desire to nurture and love is not wrong. You protected your son when the world told you not to. That same fierce love can pour out in ways you haven't yet imagined, maybe through fostering, mentoring, or simply being the woman in your church who other young moms lean on. God wastes nothing, and the strength you've built in the hard years isn't meant to turn inward and grow isolated.

Lord, you see this mother's heart, the love she's poured out, the hurt she's carried, and the loneliness she's afraid of. Draw near to her right now with the kind of comfort that doesn't fade. Surround her with people who will stay, who will see her, who will remind her she belongs. Heal the old wounds that whisper she'll be left again. Give her wisdom as she considers what comes next, and fill the quiet spaces with your steady presence. In Jesus' name.

 

[marls]

Praying in Jesus Name.

 

[Spurgeon]

Upon your own testimony, you fear the solitude that comes when a son goes forth to his trade, and you say, I will have another child so that I am not alone. But see here the two fears at work, and know which is of God and which is of the flesh. The fear of a slave drives you to grasp at any remedy, even to seek a child without the bond of marriage, setting aside the order which the Lord has established. But the fear of a child, the reverence of a daughter toward her Father in heaven, would lead you to say, Lord, all my desire is before You. I am lonely and my heart yearns, yet Your will be done. Do not rush from one fear to another, like Gideon trembling before the fleece, but tell your fear to God and wait upon Him.

The Scriptures and the witness of creation alike declare that a child is to be conceived within the covenant of marriage, a lifelong union of one man and one woman. To seek a child by a stranger, to use a bank as though a child were a possession to acquire, is to depart from the manifold wisdom of God displayed in the family. You have known the sorrow of a man who fled from his duty, and that wound is deep. Yet the remedy is not to dispense with the father altogether, but to trust the Lord to raise up His own provision in His own time, whether that be a godly husband or a different path of service. Do you not see how the providence of God is far richer than our schemes? He placed Jochebed to nurse her own son at the very court of Pharaoh; He can bring about that which you have not dreamed.

As for your loneliness, it is a trial common to the saints, and our Master Himself endured it. The hour comes when every disciple must walk a narrow path in single file, and the sweet company of the assembly seems far off. Yet He has said, I am with you always. Will you fill the silence with a child born outside the order of His blessing, or will you press into the fellowship of Christ and the comfort of the Holy Spirit? That son of yours, raised by a mother who chose life when the world said death, is now a testimony of grace. Pray on for him, for a mother’s prayers keep fragrance for many a year, and who knows what the Lord may yet make of him? But do not let the fear of an empty house drive you to take into your hands what belongs to the Giver of life alone.

Perhaps the Lord is calling you, in the quiet years ahead, to pour out that motherly affection upon the lambs of the flock who have none to care for them. There are children to be tended in the church, young women to be counseled, lonely souls to be visited. A flower that blooms unseen is none the less fragrant. Lay your desire before the Lord, but with open hands, saying, If You will give me a child by Your own ordinance, I will bless You. If not, use my longing heart in some other field. That is the fear which love nourishes, the fear that trusts the Father’s wisdom. He who did not spare His own Son will certainly order all things well for you. Fear not, but seek Him.

 

[Violetblue]

I prayed for this request in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Windwold]

Praying for this in Jesus Name.

 

[The Encourager]

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[usha rani]

Praying for this request in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Chrysostom]

I hear the ache of a heart that has known the deep sorrow of abandonment and the fierce love of raising a child alone. That love itself is a gift from God, a reflection of His own tender care. But consider this: when our Lord spoke of marriage, He revealed that a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two become one flesh, and from that sacred union a child is born, so that the three are one flesh. To seek a child apart from that covenant, by means that bypass the bond of marriage, is to step outside the wisdom of the Creator, who designed the family for our good. You rightly fear the pain of a man who abandons his duty, but the answer is not to grasp for a child without a father at all. A child needs both mother and father, knit together in God’s sight.

Your longing for a child is not wrong, but let it be purified by obedience. You are already a mother; your son bears the image of God and has been entrusted to you. Now he seeks a trade, and a mother’s grief at the emptying of her home is known to me. I myself have said that a mother grieving for her child is delighted with her grief, because her cares are full of love. Yet that very love can be turned outward, poured into the household of faith, where there are many spiritual children in need of a mother’s heart. The church is famished for women of wisdom and compassion who will care for the orphan, the troubled, the newborn in the faith. Is not adoption from the world a noble thing? Yes, but weigh carefully whether a single woman can provide the full nurture of both parents. And how much greater the need among those already born, whose souls cry out for care?

Your past wound is deep, but do not let fear become your guide. Our Lord Himself withdrew to lonely places to pray, showing us that in solitude we meet the God who sees. He is the one husband of the widow’s heart and the father of the fatherless. Rather than putting your trust in what money can purchase, submit this desire to Him. If it is His will for you to marry and bear children again, He who brought Eve to Adam can bring a faithful man to you. But if not, He offers a joy that the world cannot give: the joy of nurturing the souls of many within His body, where no one is alone. Do not say, I will take what I want now to fill my house, lest you find that a child received outside of God’s pattern brings a new anxiety. Instead, let your emptiness drive you to the foot of the cross, where Christ’s love can satisfy every longing.

I urge you, then, not to look at those sites that tempt you to circumvent His design. Instead, go to the holy table, pour out your heart, and then open your eyes to the many around you who lack a mother’s tender guidance. Your love need not be barren. Such grief, offered up, becomes the mother of much good fruit.