We hear your burden and we share it, for what you are describing is not a small drift but a serious departure from the whole counsel of God. You are right to be concerned when those who profess Christ quote a few verses yet embrace practices God has clearly told us to avoid. Scripture warns us that having a form of godliness is not the same as walking in truth, and that in the last days many will not endure sound doctrine.
The example you gave grieves us deeply. We do mourn when a believing husband or loved one dies, but we do not mourn like those who have no hope. We are told in 1 Thessalonians 4:13, But we don’t want you to be ignorant, brothers, concerning those who have fallen asleep, so that you don’t grieve like the rest, who have no hope. And 1 Thessalonians 4:14, For if we believe that Jesus died and rose again, even so God will bring with him those who have fallen asleep in Jesus. Our hope is not that our loved ones linger around lights or bathrooms to contact us, but that if they were in Christ they are present with the Lord, and we will see them again at the resurrection when Jesus returns. To say a flickering light is a dead husband trying to make contact is not a Christian statement, it is confusion and it opens a door to deception.
God has been very clear that we are not to seek or lean on familiar spirits, nor attempt to communicate with the dead. Those spirits are not our loved ones, they are demons imitating the dead to deceive. We are commanded in Leviticus 19:31, Don’t turn to those who are mediums, nor to the wizards. Don’t seek them out, to be defiled by them. I am Yahweh your God. And in Deuteronomy 18:10, There shall not be found with you anyone who makes his son or his daughter to pass through the fire, one who uses divination, one who practices sorcery, or an enchanter, or a sorcerer, Deuteronomy 18:11, or a charmer, or a consulter with a familiar spirit, or a wizard, or a necromancer. Deuteronomy 18:12, For whoever does these things is an abomination to Yahweh. In Isaiah 8:19 we are asked, When they tell you, Consult with those who have familiar spirits and with the wizards, who chirp and who mutter, shouldn’t a people consult with their God? Should they consult the dead on behalf of the living? The dead in Christ do not wander our homes, Scripture says in Ecclesiastes 9:5 that the dead don’t know anything, and in Hebrews 9:27 it is appointed for men to die once, and after this, judgment. The rich man and Lazarus in Luke 16 shows a great gulf fixed, no one returns to speak to the living.
We must also rebuke the mixing of Christianity with occult and new age things, whether it is astrology, crystals, manifestation, energy healing, or any other practice that seeks power or guidance apart from God. We are told in 1 John 4:1, Beloved, don’t believe every spirit, but test the spirits, whether they are of God, because many false prophets have gone out into the world. And in 2 Corinthians 11:14, And no wonder, for even Satan masquerades as an angel of light. What looks spiritual or comforting is often demonic deception. To quote a few Bible verses while embracing what God calls abomination is not maturity, it is disobedience, and Jesus warned in Matthew 7:21, Not everyone who says to me, Lord, Lord, will enter into the Kingdom of Heaven; but he who does the will of my Father who is in heaven. We fear many today think they are saved because they know some Scripture, but they have never truly repented and submitted to the Lordship of Jesus Christ.
You noted this is happening more often, and Scripture told us it would. In 2 Timothy 4:3, For the time will come when they will not listen to the sound doctrine, but, having itching ears, will heap up for themselves teachers after their own lusts; 2 Timothy 4:4, and will turn away their ears from the truth, and turn away to fables. This is why we must know not only what to do but what to avoid, and why we must teach the whole Bible, not just comforting verses.
We also want to gently remind that our only access to the Father and our only hope of salvation is through Jesus Christ Himself. It is not enough to claim the label Christian or to quote verses, we must be born again through faith in Him. As Jesus said in John 14:6, I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me. And in Acts 4:12, There is salvation in none other, for neither is there any other name under heaven, that is given among men, by which we must be saved. If we have not truly believed on the Lord Jesus Christ, we have no hope of Heaven at all, let alone of seeing loved ones there.
So we pray together now in Jesus name.
Father, we come before You in the name of Jesus Christ, Your Son, and we thank You that You are truth and light and in You there is no darkness at all. We confess that we live in a time of great confusion and we ask You to forgive us where we have tolerated what You call abomination. We lift up this well known professing believer whose husband was killed and who is now speaking as though he contacts her through lights, and we lift up all who are mixing Your holy name with occult and new age practices. We ask You to open their eyes, to convict them by Your Holy Spirit, to show them that familiar spirits are deceiving spirits and not their loved ones, and to lead them to repentance. Give them a hunger for Your whole Word and a willingness to turn away from every practice You forbid. Comfort those who grieve with the true comfort of Your promise that we will be with You and with our believing loved ones again if we are in Christ, and help them to grieve with hope and not to seek forbidden comfort. Guard Your church from deception, help us to test every spirit, to love Your truth, and to have courage to speak the truth in love even when it is unpopular. Raise up pastors and teachers who will not tickle ears but will preach sound doctrine and warn about what to avoid. Draw those who only think they are saved into true salvation through faith in Jesus alone, that they may do Your will and not just speak Your words. We ask for discernment, holiness, and steadfastness in these days. In the mighty and saving name of Jesus Christ we pray, amen.
We encourage you to continue to stand firm, to lovingly but clearly warn those you see drifting, and to stay rooted in the Word daily, asking God for wisdom as promised in James 1:5. We must not be silent when the name of Christ is used to cover practices He condemns, for our silence can let others be led astray. Keep praying, keep testing everything against Scripture, and keep pointing people to the living Christ and the blessed hope we have in Him alone.