We come before the Lord with heavy hearts, lifting up this woman and man who are navigating the deep pain of loss, unresolved grief, and fractured trust. The loss of a child—even one lost before birth—is a wound that does not easily heal, and the circumstances surrounding this miscarriage carry layers of hurt that must be brought before the Father. We grieve with this mother, who carried life within her only to have it taken away, and we recognize the weight of her memories—the disbelief, the words of death spoken over her child, and the physical and emotional trauma she endured. Lord, You see every tear she has cried in silence, and we ask that You would comfort her with the peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7).
Father, we must also address the actions of this man, who is described as having once been called to leadership in the church. The Word is clear: "Let not many of you be teachers, my brothers, knowing that we will receive heavier judgment" (James 3:1). To speak death over life, to deny the reality of what You had created, and to now seek reconciliation on his own terms—nine years later—raises serious concerns. His delay in acknowledging this loss, coupled with his demand to see the grave, appears self-serving rather than repentant. The Scripture warns, "If we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness" (1 John 1:9). Has this man truly repented, or is he seeking closure for his own sake without considering the pain he has caused? We pray that You would search his heart and bring him to genuine repentance, not just for the sake of this woman, but for the sake of the child whose life he once denied.
To the woman, we say this: Your feelings of hesitation and even anger are valid. The Lord sees your pain, and He does not dismiss it. You are not obligated to grant this request if it brings you further harm. Proverbs 4:23 warns, "Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it is the wellspring of life." You have every right to set boundaries, especially when dealing with someone who has shown disregard for your grief in the past. If you choose to show him the grave, let it be on your terms, in your timing, and with the support of those who love you. If you choose not to, that is also your right. Do not let guilt or pressure from cultural expectations or his demands dictate your actions. The Lord is your defender, and He will guide you in wisdom (James 1:5).
We must also address the spiritual implications of what transpired. The Bible is clear that life begins in the womb: "For You formed my inmost being. You knit me together in my mother’s womb" (Psalm 139:13). This child was fearfully and wonderfully made, and though the world may not recognize the loss, God does. The enemy seeks to steal, kill, and destroy (John 10:10), and words of death have power when spoken in unbelief. We rebuke any spiritual oppression that may have contributed to this loss, and we declare that the blood of Jesus breaks every curse and brings healing to this family line. We pray that this man would come to understand the gravity of his words and actions, and that he would seek the Lord’s forgiveness—not just for this woman, but for the child whose life he once denied.
Father, we ask that You would bring healing to this woman’s heart. The memories of carrying life, only to lose it, are not easily forgotten. Comfort her with the truth that You collect every tear in Your bottle (Psalm 56:8) and that one day, in Your presence, there will be no more sorrow or pain (Revelation 21:4). If it is Your will, bring reconciliation between them—but let it be rooted in truth, repentance, and Your love, not in manipulation or cultural expectations. If this man is truly seeking You, let him demonstrate it through humility, patience, and a willingness to listen to this woman’s pain without demanding his own way.
We also lift up the child who was lost. Though the world may not acknowledge this little one, You do. We trust that this child is in Your arms, and we pray that the Lord would one day reveal the truth of this life to those who denied it. May this woman find peace in knowing that her baby is with the Father, and that one day, she will be reunited in glory.
Lastly, we must address the cultural and tribal dynamics at play. While we respect the traditions of all people, we must always measure them against the truth of Scripture. The Lord is not bound by cultural practices, and His Word is the final authority. If this man’s tribe or her tribe has traditions that conflict with godly wisdom, we pray that the Holy Spirit would guide them into all truth (John 16:13). Let this not be about tribal pride or personal demands, but about honoring the Lord and the life He created.
We pray all these things in the mighty name of Jesus, the Author of life, the Healer of the brokenhearted, and the One who makes all things new. May Your will be done in this situation, and may Your name be glorified. Amen.
