We are deeply grieved to hear of this situation, where bitterness, resentment, and even what appears to be a spirit of witchcraft or curses are at work in this man’s heart and his family. The Scripture is clear that we are to bless and not curse, to seek peace and not vengeance, and to trust the Lord with our justice rather than taking matters into our own hands. The behavior described here is not only unhealthy but outright sinful—rooted in pride, jealousy, and a refusal to let go of the past. The Lord says in **Romans 12:17-21 (WEB):**
*"Repay no one evil for evil. Respect what is honorable in the sight of all men. If it is possible, as much as it is up to you, be at peace with all men. Don’t seek vengeance yourselves, beloved, but give place to God’s wrath. For it is written, 'Vengeance belongs to me; I will repay, says the Lord.' Therefore 'If your enemy is hungry, feed him. If he is thirsty, give him a drink; for in doing so, you will heap coals of fire on his head.' Don’t be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good."*
First, we must address the spiritual danger in this man’s life and his family’s involvement. To delight in the misfortune of another—or worse, to *wish* for it—is to invite the enemy’s influence. The Bible warns in **Proverbs 26:2 (WEB):** *"Like a fluttering sparrow, like a darting swallow, so the undeserved curse doesn’t come to rest."* Curses spoken without cause will not prosper, but that does not mean they are without consequence for the one speaking them. **James 3:10 (WEB)** asks, *"Out of the same mouth comes blessing and cursing. My brothers, these things ought not to be so."* This man and his family are playing with fire, and unless they repent, they will reap what they sow (**Galatians 6:7-8**).
His obsession with his late father’s widowhood and his own self-identification as a "widow" is deeply concerning. This suggests an unhealthy emotional and possibly spiritual attachment to his mother, bordering on idolatry or an unnatural bond that has replaced his ability to form godly relationships. The Bible commands in **Genesis 2:24 (WEB):** *"Therefore a man will leave his father and his mother, and will join with his wife, and they will be one flesh."* A man who cannot emotionally separate from his mother will struggle to fulfill this command. His mockery of his ex-fiancée’s attempts to move on reveals a heart that is not only bitter but *controlled* by bitterness. **Hebrews 12:15 (WEB)** warns: *"Looking carefully lest anyone fall short of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and many be defiled by it."*
As for the ex-fiancée, we encourage her to guard her heart and her mind. The enemy would love to use this man’s words to discourage her or make her doubt God’s goodness in her future. But the Lord has a plan for her—one that includes redemption, healing, and a godly spouse if that is His will. **Jeremiah 29:11 (WEB)** reminds us: *"For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says Yahweh, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you hope and a future."* She must not allow this man’s taunts to define her worth or her future. Instead, she should commit her ways to the Lord, trusting that He will bring justice and restoration in His time.
We also urge her to examine her own heart. Is there any lingering bitterness or unforgiveness toward this man? **Ephesians 4:31-32 (WEB)** commands: *"Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, outcry, and slander be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you."* Forgiveness does not mean what he did was right; it means releasing him to God’s judgment and refusing to let his sins poison her heart.
Now, let us pray over this situation:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, lifting up this broken and painful situation. Lord, we ask that You would intervene in the heart of this man who is harboring bitterness, resentment, and even curses against his ex-fiancée. Father, convict him by Your Holy Spirit. Show him the danger of the path he is on—that his words and his heart are grieving You. Break the ungodly soul ties between him and his mother, Lord. Set him free from any spiritual strongholds of idolatry, control, or perversion that have taken root in his life. Let him see the truth: that his mockery and his wishes for harm are sinful and will bring judgment upon himself if he does not repent.
We pray for his family as well, Lord. If they are encouraging this behavior, open their eyes to the destruction they are sowing. Let them see that curses do not go unanswered—that what they wish upon others, they invite upon themselves. Turn their hearts to repentance, Father. Let them seek Your forgiveness and make amends where possible.
Lord, we lift up this ex-fiancée to You. Guard her heart, mind, and spirit from the arrows of the enemy. Let her not be discouraged by this man’s words or his attempts to sabotage her future. Surround her with godly counsel, supportive friends, and a community that will speak life into her. If it is Your will, Lord, bring a godly man into her life—a man who will cherish her, honor You, and lead her closer to Christ. But even if that is not Your immediate plan, let her find her fulfillment in You alone. Heal the wounds from this broken relationship, Lord. Restore her joy, her confidence, and her hope in Your goodness.
We rebuke any spirit of bitterness, jealousy, or witchcraft at work in this situation. By the authority of Jesus Christ, we bind every curse spoken against this woman and declare that no weapon formed against her will prosper (**Isaiah 54:17**). We loose Your peace, Your protection, and Your favor over her life. Let her be a testimony of Your redemption, Father.
Finally, Lord, we ask that You would bring conviction to all involved. Let them see the gravity of their actions and turn to You in repentance. Soften hearts, break chains, and let Your will be done in every life touched by this situation. We ask all this in the powerful and holy name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.
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