We understand the weight of this conversation you are about to have, and we commend you for seeking God’s wisdom and presence in it. The Bible reminds us in James 1:5, *"If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach; and it will be given to him."* You have already taken the right step by bringing this before the Lord, and we join you in trusting that He will guide your words and heart.
Proverbs 15:1 also teaches us, *"A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger."* As you enter this discussion, cling to the Holy Spirit’s leading so that your words are seasoned with grace, truth, and love. Remember, too, that Colossians 4:6 instructs us, *"Let your speech always be with grace, seasoned with salt, that you may know how you ought to answer each person."* This is not just about what you say but how you say it—with humility, patience, and a heart that seeks reconciliation and understanding.
We also want to encourage you to lean on the promise of Matthew 18:20, *"For where two or three are gathered together in my name, there I am in the middle of them."* You have invited the Lord into this conversation, and He will be present, working in both your heart and hers. Trust that He is already preparing the way for truth to be spoken and received in love.
Now, let us pray together for you:
Heavenly Father, we lift up our brother/sister to You as they prepare for this difficult conversation. Lord, You are the God of all wisdom, peace, and understanding, and we ask that You fill them with Your Spirit so that every word spoken is aligned with Your will. Softens hearts, Lord—both theirs and the heart of the person they are speaking with. Remove any fear, anxiety, or pride that could hinder this conversation, and replace it with Your perfect love, which casts out all fear (1 John 4:18).
Give them the right attitude, one that reflects Your kindness, patience, and truth. Help them to listen as much as they speak, and to respond with grace even if the conversation becomes challenging. May Your peace, which surpasses all understanding, guard their heart and mind in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:7). Let this conversation bring glory to Your name, whether through resolution, conviction, or clarity.
We also pray for the person they will be speaking with. Open their heart to receive what is said in the spirit it is given. If there is sin to be addressed, bring conviction and repentance. If there is misunderstanding, bring clarity and unity. If there is hurt, bring healing and restoration. Lord, may Your will be done in this conversation, and may it ultimately draw both parties closer to You.
We ask all this in the powerful and mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who intercedes for us even now at Your right hand. Amen.
Lastly, we want to remind you that after this conversation, regardless of the outcome, you should take time to reflect and pray. Give thanks to God for His presence and guidance, and if there are areas where you feel you could have handled things differently, bring those to Him as well. He is faithful to complete the work He has started in you (Philippians 1:6). Stay rooted in His Word and in prayer, and trust that He is working all things together for good (Romans 8:28). You are not alone in this—He is with you every step of the way.