We are deeply grieved to hear about this young man enduring such inappropriate and harmful behavior from his own father. This is not only emotionally damaging but also a violation of the father’s God-given role to nurture, protect, and guide his child in righteousness. The Scriptures are clear about the responsibilities of fathers and the call to purity in thought and action. Ephesians 6:4 warns, *"You fathers, don’t provoke your children to wrath, but nurture them in the discipline and instruction of the Lord."* This father’s actions are not only provoking his son to distress but are also modeling ungodly behavior that dishonors the Lord.
The messages this boy is receiving are not only inappropriate but could also expose him to sinful influences, lustful thoughts, or confusion about relationships. The Bible calls us to flee from sexual immorality and to guard our hearts and minds. 1 Corinthians 6:18 declares, *"Flee sexual immorality! 'Every sin that a man does is outside the body,' but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body."* A father should be shielding his son from such things, not subjecting him to them. Additionally, Proverbs 4:23 instructs, *"Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it is the wellspring of life."* This young man’s heart and mind must be protected from the corruption his father is exposing him to.
We also recognize that this situation may be rooted in deeper spiritual and moral brokenness in the father’s life. If the father is engaging in relationships outside of a biblical marriage—or if he is entertaining multiple romantic partners—this is adultery or fornication, both of which are sinful in the sight of God. Hebrews 13:4 states, *"Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the bed be undefiled; but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers."* The father’s behavior is not only harming his son but is also placing his own soul in jeopardy. This is a serious matter that requires repentance and a turning back to God.
To the young man in this situation, we urge you to take steps to protect yourself spiritually and emotionally. If possible, distance yourself from these messages—whether by blocking the number, speaking to a trusted authority figure (such as a pastor, youth leader, or another godly adult), or limiting access to the phone when it is in your possession. You are not responsible for your father’s sins, but you *are* responsible for how you respond to this trial. Romans 12:2 reminds us, *"Don’t be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, so that you may prove what is the good, well-pleasing, and perfect will of God."* Guard your mind and heart, and seek the Lord’s strength to overcome any temptation or confusion this may cause.
If you have not already, we strongly encourage you to surrender this pain to Jesus Christ. He is the only One who can heal your heart and give you the wisdom and strength to navigate this difficult season. If you do not know Jesus as your Lord and Savior, now is the time to turn to Him. The Bible tells us in Acts 4:12, *"There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved!"* Jesus alone can save you, comfort you, and guide you through this trial. If you place your faith in Him, He will never leave you nor forsake you (Hebrews 13:5).
We also urge you to pray for your father. Though his actions are wrong, he is still your father, and the Lord calls us to honor our parents (Ephesians 6:2). This does not mean tolerating sin or abuse, but it does mean praying for his repentance and salvation. Jesus said in Matthew 5:44, *"But I tell you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who mistreat you and persecute you."* Pray that the Lord would convict your father’s heart, bring him to repentance, and restore him to a right relationship with God and with you.
Let us pray together for this young man and his father:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this young man who is enduring such deep pain and confusion at the hands of his own father. Lord, we ask that You would be his refuge and strength, his ever-present help in this time of trouble (Psalm 46:1). Protect his mind and heart from the corruption and emotional harm these messages are causing. Give him wisdom to know how to respond and the courage to seek help from godly adults who can intervene and support him.
Father, we also lift up this father to You. His actions are grievous in Your sight, and we ask that You would convict his heart of sin. Lord, bring him to repentance for the harm he is causing his son and for the ungodly lifestyle he is living. Soften his heart, Lord, and draw him to Yourself. Let him see the error of his ways and turn from his sin, seeking forgiveness and restoration. May he become the father You have called him to be—one who nurtures his child in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.
Lord, we pray for healing in this family. Where there is brokenness, bring restoration. Where there is sin, bring repentance. Where there is pain, bring Your comfort and peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7). Let this young man know that he is deeply loved by You, and that his worth is found in Christ alone, not in the actions or approval of his father.
We also pray for godly mentors and supporters to come alongside this young man—whether through his church, school, or community—to provide guidance, encouragement, and protection. Surround him with Your people, Lord, who can speak truth and love into his life.
Finally, Father, we ask that You would use even this painful situation for Your glory. Let it drive this young man closer to You, and let it be a testimony of Your redemption and healing power. We trust in Your promise that *"all things work together for good for those who love God, to those who are called according to his purpose"* (Romans 8:28).
In the mighty and holy name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, we pray. Amen.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.
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