We hear the deep sorrow and confusion in your heart, and we want you to know that God sees every tear you’ve shed and every wound you carry. Your pain is real, and it is valid, but we must remind you that even in this brokenness, the Lord is near to you. Psalm 34:18 tells us, *"Yahweh is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit."* You are not abandoned in this—He is holding you even when it feels like everything is falling apart.
First, we want to acknowledge the courage it takes to set boundaries, especially after decades of investment in a relationship that has caused you such pain. Boundaries are not just necessary; they are biblical. Proverbs 4:23 warns us, *"Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it is the wellspring of life."* Protecting your heart and your children from further harm is an act of wisdom and love, not something to be blamed for. Your children may struggle now, but as they grow, they will see the strength and godly discernment in your choices. Pray that God softens their hearts to understand His protection over your family.
You mention grieving the loss of what you thought was a hero, someone you believed would change but never did. This is a hard truth to face, but Scripture reminds us in Jeremiah 17:9, *"The heart is deceitful above all things, and it is exceedingly corrupt: who can know it?"* Only God truly knows the depths of a person’s heart. While we are called to love and forgive, we are not called to endure endless harm in the name of that love. Romans 12:18 says, *"If it is possible, as much as it is up to you, be at peace with all men."* But peace cannot be one-sided. You have done your part, and now you must trust God to work in the heart of your former spouse. Pray for his salvation and repentance, but release the burden of his choices to the Lord. You cannot change him—only God can.
Your desire for clarity and happiness for your former spouse is commendable, but we must gently remind you that your focus now should be on your own healing and walking forward in the freedom Christ has for you. Jesus said in Matthew 6:33, *"But seek first God’s Kingdom and his righteousness; and all these things will be given to you as well."* Your happiness is not found in another person—even a godly friend or spouse—but in Christ alone. He is the only one who can fill the emptiness left by betrayal and broken trust. Psalm 147:3 promises, *"He heals the broken in heart, and binds up their wounds."* Let Him be your comfort and your guide as you navigate this season.
You also mention a longing for friendship or companionship, and we understand that desire. Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 tells us, *"Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their labor. For if they fall, the one will lift up his companion; but woe to him who is alone when he falls, and doesn’t have another to lift him up."* However, we urge you to seek relationships that are rooted in Christ, with believers who will point you to Him rather than distract you from His healing work in your life. Be patient and pray for godly wisdom in any new connections. Remember, loneliness is temporary, but the Lord’s presence is eternal.
Lastly, we want to address the grief you’re feeling over the loss of what you thought your marriage would be. Grieving is a process, and it’s okay to mourn what was lost. But we also want to encourage you with this truth: God is not done writing your story. He can redeem even the most broken parts of your life and use them for His glory. Isaiah 61:3 says He gives *"beauty for ashes, the oil of joy for mourning, the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness."* You are not defined by this pain—you are defined by Christ’s love for you.
Let us pray for you now:
Heavenly Father, we lift up our sister to You, knowing that You are the God who sees her pain and collects every tear in Your bottle. Lord, she is weary, brokenhearted, and grieving deeply, but we ask that You would be her strength in this weakness. Comfort her with Your presence and remind her that she is not alone—You are with her, and so are we, her brothers and sisters in Christ.
We pray for healing over her soul, mind, and body. Where there is confusion, bring clarity. Where there is sorrow, bring Your joy that is her strength. Where there is bitterness, replace it with Your peace that surpasses all understanding. Help her to release the weight of what she cannot control and to trust You with the future of her former spouse. Soften his heart, Lord, and draw him to repentance and to You.
We pray for her children, that they would not harbor resentment but would see Your hand of protection over their family. Give them wisdom beyond their years and a heart that seeks after You.
Father, we ask that You would bring godly friendships into her life—people who will encourage her in her faith and walk with her as she heals. Prepare her heart for the relationships You have for her, and let her find her completeness in You alone.
Most of all, Lord, we pray that she would experience the depth of Your love in a fresh way. Remind her that she is Your beloved daughter, redeemed and cherished. Restore her hope and her joy, and lead her into the future You have prepared for her.
We rebuke the spirit of despair and hopelessness in Jesus’ name. We declare that she is not abandoned, not forgotten, and not without purpose. You, Lord, are her healer, her provider, and her peace.
We thank You for hearing our prayers and for the work You are already doing in her life. In the mighty and holy name of Jesus, we pray. Amen.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
