We come before the Lord with heavy hearts, lifting up this painful situation where the enemy seeks to destroy what God has joined together. The Word of God is clear: marriage is a sacred covenant before the Lord, and infidelity—whether emotional or physical—is a grievous sin that breaks trust and dishonors God. Let us first address the seriousness of this matter with truth and prayer.
The Scripture warns us in **Proverbs 6:32-33 (WEB)**, *"He who commits adultery with a woman is void of understanding. He who does it destroys his own soul. Wounds and dishonor he will get. His reproach won’t be wiped away."* And in **Hebrews 13:4 (WEB)**, we are commanded, *"Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the bed be undefiled; but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers."* This is not a matter to be taken lightly. Your husband’s actions are not only harming your marriage but are also placing him in direct opposition to God’s will. The widow and her son are also participating in this sin by engaging in inappropriate communication with a married man. This is not love—it is deception, and it must be stopped immediately.
We must also address the urgency in your request to *"stop them also not to send messages and make phone calls right now."* While we understand the pain and desperation behind these words, we must remember that our battle is not against flesh and blood but against the spiritual forces of darkness that seek to destroy marriages. **Ephesians 6:12 (WEB)** reminds us, *"For our wrestling is not against flesh and blood, but against the principalities, against the powers, against the world’s rulers of the darkness of this age, and against the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places."* Our focus must be on praying for repentance, restoration, and the breaking of ungodly ties—not on controlling others through our own efforts. Only God can change hearts.
Now, let us pray fervently for your husband’s repentance and for the breaking of every ungodly soul tie. We pray that the Holy Spirit would convict him deeply of his sin and lead him back to the covenant he made before God. We also pray for the widow and her son, that their eyes would be opened to the destruction they are contributing to and that they would turn away from this sinful entanglement. Finally, we pray for you, dear sister, that God would strengthen you with His peace, wisdom, and protection as you stand in the gap for your marriage.
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**Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, lifting up this marriage that is under attack. Lord, You hate divorce, and You desire for marriages to reflect Your covenant love and faithfulness. We ask that You would intervene powerfully in this situation. Convict our brother of his sin—show him the pain he is causing, the dishonor he is bringing upon Your name, and the destruction he is inviting into his life. Break every ungodly soul tie between him and this widow and her son. Cut off every unrighteous communication, every lustful thought, and every emotional attachment that is not of You. Lord, expose the enemy’s schemes and bring these hidden things into the light.
We pray for the widow and her son as well. Father, if they claim to know You, let the Holy Spirit pierce their hearts with conviction. Show them that they are participating in evil and that their actions are not pleasing to You. Turn their hearts away from this sin and toward righteousness. If they do not know You, Lord, we pray that this situation would lead them to repentance and salvation in Christ.
For our sister who is hurting, we ask that You would be her Comforter. Strengthen her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding. Give her wisdom on how to respond, whether through confrontation, boundaries, or seeking godly counsel. Protect her heart from bitterness and fill her with Your love and forgiveness, even as she stands for what is right.
Lord, we declare that no weapon formed against this marriage shall prosper. Restore what the enemy has stolen. Bring our brother back to his senses and back to his covenant with his wife. Renew their love, rebuild their trust, and heal their wounds. Let this marriage be a testimony of Your redeeming power.
We rebuke the spirit of adultery, deception, and division in the name of Jesus Christ. We command every ungodly influence to flee and for the blood of Jesus to cover this marriage. Let Your will be done, Lord. We ask all these things in the mighty and holy name of Jesus Christ, our Savior and Redeemer. Amen.**
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Sister, we want to encourage you to take action in the natural as well as the spiritual. If your husband is unwilling to repent, you may need to involve your pastor or a trusted, mature believer to help hold him accountable. **Matthew 18:15-17 (WEB)** outlines the steps for addressing sin within the church: *"If your brother sins against you, go, show him his fault between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained back your brother. But if he doesn’t listen, take one or two more with you, that at the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established. If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the assembly."* This is not about shame but about restoration.
Additionally, we urge you to examine your own heart. Are there areas where you may have neglected your marriage or allowed bitterness to take root? This is not to place blame on you—your husband’s sin is his own responsibility—but to ensure that you are walking in obedience and love as well. **1 Peter 3:1-2 (WEB)** says, *"In the same way, wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; so that, even if any don’t obey the Word, they may be won by the behavior of their wives without a word; seeing your pure behavior in fear."*
Lastly, we must emphasize the power of forgiveness. Even as you pray for your husband’s repentance, ask God to help you forgive him. Unforgiveness will only bring bondage to your own heart. **Colossians 3:13 (WEB)** tells us, *"bearing with one another, and forgiving each other, if any man has a complaint against any; even as Christ forgave you, so you also do."* This does not mean tolerating sin, but it means releasing the offense to God and trusting Him to bring justice and restoration.
Stand firm, sister. Do not lose hope. God is able to restore what seems impossible. Keep praying, keep seeking Him, and trust that He will fight for your marriage. If you need further counsel or prayer, do not hesitate to reach out to your church family or trusted believers who can support you in this trial. You are not alone.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.
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