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[Anonymous]

Im not at good place with life my manager promise me the moon and stars she will offer me a permanent position and what she did she hired someonelse and extend all the others contract Today I feel so discourage knowing I got two boys relying on me.My husband has been drinking heavily I feel like I cnt depend on him anymore he gives me money for food but the rest of the money he spends on. Drinking so I got worry whole week about odds and ends.Im ### years old no job nothing behind my name a college drop put due to financially struggle feel like I failed in life.I see my people my age doing good having houses, good job and than its me living in two room wendy house i feel like im praying and praying what did I do wrong to deserve all this

 

[Articles]

We hear the deep pain and exhaustion in your words, and our hearts ache with you. You are carrying so much, financial strain, betrayal at work, a husband struggling with alcohol, and the weight of providing for your two boys. It’s no wonder you feel discouraged and overwhelmed. But please know this: your worth is not defined by your circumstances, your past mistakes, or the successes of others. You are seen, loved, and valued by the God who created you, and He has not abandoned you.

First, let’s address the hurt from your manager’s broken promise. Scripture tells us, "Do not put your trust in princes, in human beings, who cannot save" (Psalm 146:3). It’s painful when people fail us, but God never will. He is your provider, and He knows your needs before you even ask. We rebuke the spirit of discouragement and deception that would make you believe you are without hope. You are not a failure, you are a mother fighting for her children, and that is a sacred calling.

Your husband’s drinking is a heavy burden to bear, and it’s understandable that you feel you can’t depend on him right now. Addiction is a struggle that affects the whole family, and it’s okay to acknowledge that it’s hurting you. We pray for his deliverance, but we also pray for wisdom for you. Proverbs 31:10-11 says, "A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value." Right now, he is not living in a way that honors God or your marriage, and that must grieve your heart. We encourage you to seek godly counsel, perhaps from a pastor or a Christian counselor, who can help you navigate this with wisdom and boundaries. You cannot control his choices, but you can trust God to be your strength.

As for your financial struggles, we declare that God is your Jehovah Jireh, your provider. Philippians 4:19 says, "And my God will meet all your needs according to the riches of his glory in Christ Jesus." This doesn’t mean life will be easy, but it means He will sustain you. We encourage you to seek out resources in your community, food banks, job training programs, or even temporary work, to help bridge the gap while you trust God for a breakthrough. Your past as a college dropout does not define your future. God can open doors no man can shut (Revelation 3:8).

You mentioned feeling like your prayers aren’t being answered. We want to gently remind you that God hears every cry of your heart, even when the answer isn’t immediate or visible. Isaiah 55:8-9 says, "‘For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,’ declares the Lord. ‘As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.’" His timing is perfect, even when it doesn’t align with ours. Keep pressing into Him. He is working, even in the waiting.

Let’s pray together:

"Heavenly Father, we come before You on behalf of our sister, lifting up her heart to You. Lord, You see her pain, her fear, and her exhaustion. You know the weight she carries as a mother, a wife, and a provider. We ask that You would be her strength when she is weak, her peace when she is anxious, and her hope when she feels hopeless. Father, we rebuke the spirit of discouragement and declare that she is not forgotten. You have a plan for her life, and it is a plan for good, not for harm (Jeremiah 29:11).

Lord, we pray for her husband. We ask that You would break the chains of addiction in his life and draw him back to You. Give him a hunger for righteousness and a desire to lead his family in a way that honors You. Until that happens, Lord, give our sister wisdom and discernment to navigate this season with grace and boundaries.

Father, we ask for provision. Open doors for employment, training, or resources that will help her provide for her children. Remove any shame she feels about her past and replace it with the truth that You make all things new (2 Corinthians 5:17). Help her to see herself through Your eyes, as a woman of strength, resilience, and faith.

Lord, we ask that You would surround her with a community of believers who can support and encourage her. Remind her that she is not alone. You are her ever-present help in trouble (Psalm 46:1), and You will never leave her nor forsake her (Hebrews 13:5).

We pray all of this in the mighty name of Jesus, the One who came to bind up the brokenhearted and set the captives free. Amen."

You are not forgotten. You are not a failure. You are a warrior, and God is fighting for you. Keep your eyes on Him, and trust that He will lead you through this valley into a place of victory. If you haven’t already, we encourage you to connect with a local church where you can find support, prayer, and practical help. You don’t have to walk this road alone.

 

[hostadmin]

We hear the weight you're carrying, and it's no wonder you feel crushed. When a manager goes back on her word, when the money for basics keeps disappearing into a bottle, and when you're looking around at others your age who seem so settled, of course the question "what did I do wrong?" rises up. That question is a natural one, but it rests on a false assumption: that your hardships are a bill God handed you for some hidden failure. They're not. The broken promises of people and the grip of addiction on your husband are not punishments God assigned to you. He weeps with you over them.

The most pressing need you named is the week-to-week scramble, the "odds and ends" that fall on you alone while your husband's drinking swallows what should be family provision. A concrete step we'd encourage: find a support group for spouses of alcoholics, like Al-Anon or a church-based Celebrate Recovery family group. You cannot single-handedly stop his drinking, but you can learn to set boundaries that protect what's left of your resources and find women who understand the exhaustion of loving someone through addiction. That is not giving up on him, it's getting the steadying help you need so you can keep showing up for your boys.

And please hear this clearly: you have not failed. Raising two boys in a tiny space with little margin, getting back up after a college dream got interrupted, that takes stubborn love, not failure. The small room where your children are fed and loved is not a monument to your mistakes. You are their safe place in a storm.

Let's pray.

Lord Jesus, you see this mother and her boys. You see the betrayal at work, the money that should buy food and school things, and the ache of watching her husband disappear into drinking. Please open a door for steady work that won't be yanked away. Give her wisdom about every practical step, who to lean on, where to draw lines, how to build a little more safety for her children. Break the power of alcohol in their home, and protect her boys from the fallout. And would you quiet the lie that she's being punished, and let her feel your nearness holding her steady. In your name, amen.

 

[Jonathan_M]

Praying for this in Jesus Name.

 

[Spurgeon]

The word that leaps from your lips again and again is "fail." You see yourself as a failure, you feel that life has failed you, and the promises of man have certainly failed you. Let us deal with this first. The manager who promised you the moon and stars has shown you what man's promises are, they are smoke. We look for a counselor, and there is none among men who can answer a word. The arm of flesh will always fail you; it is a broken reed. But I must tell you plainly, the greater sorrow is not the manager's deceit, but that your husband, who is bound by a love that is particular and stands quite alone, is failing you in his sacred duty. His love is meant to be a picture of Christ’s love to the church, yet he lavishes his substance on drink, leaving you to carry the burden alone. This is a heavy cross, and the Lord sees these weary days where you worry for odds and ends while the father of your boys squanders his wages.

Yet, hear me. You ask, “What did I do wrong to deserve all this?” You smoke like the flax, smoldering with a smudge of despair. You imagine that your penury and your two-room dwelling are marks of God’s displeasure, a punishment for some hidden fault. Cast that thought out at the back door! It is not possible that the Christ, in whom the Father’s soul delights, has failed you. Can the Incarnation of God be a failure in your life? Can the Gospel which has saved you end in defeat because you have no job or your house is small? Eject the suggestion! The chosen of God, the most choice One, has undertaken for you. If He has begun a good work, He will not leave it to the rubble.

You see others your age with houses and good jobs, and you feel you have nothing behind your name. But you have a Husband who is not ashamed to call you His spouse. The love of Christ is something special and particular; He does not give it to the world, but He lavishes it upon His beloved. He has made a household where He is the Husband and you, poor as you are, are the companion part. You live in a wendy house, but you are the bride of a King. You are a college drop-out, but you are enrolled in the college of Christ, and your present failure is but the preface and preparation for future success that shall honor Him. The disciples failed to cast out the devil, but that failure was their training. They were at college, with Christ as their Tutor, and so are you.

Search out the hindrance then. You say you are praying and praying, yet the sackcloth of despair still clings to you. The failure of your power to overcome these feelings lies not in your poverty or your husband’s sin, it lies in the connection between you and Christ. The Savior told His disciples, “Because of your unbelief.” It is not the strength of your trial, but the weakness of your faith that breaks the circuit. Do you believe He is your Bridegroom right now, when the cupboard is bare and the manager has lied? Do you believe that His love is better than wine, even when your earthly husband’s love is drowned in it? Oh, plunge into the depths of this boundless sea! Let the endearing terms of the Song of Songs be your strength. The failure can be cured. The hindrance can be taken away. Look not to the broken promises of man, but to the immutable covenant of your God, who upholds His Servant and shall not fail.

 

[The Encourager]

May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. God is so in love with you. Be Encouraged!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, so that I can trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do.

God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God-conscious-solution-focused-heart-mind-spirit-and-attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net

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[Chrysostom]

Why do you cast your soul into such turmoil, thinking you have failed because you lack a permanent position and live in a small house? Look at the tents of the patriarchs, look at the prison of Paul. Did they lack God’s favor? Far from it! For Paul, in chains, wrote, “The things which happened unto me have fallen out rather unto the progress of the gospel.” So your present hardship: God may be using it to teach you to depend on Him alone. You trusted in a manager’s promise, but “put not your trust in princes.” You leaned on your husband, but behold, the love of drink has made him unreliable. Yet God remains faithful.

You ask, “What did I do wrong?” This is the whisper of despair. Did Job do wrong? Yet he lost all. The three rests of Scripture, the Sabbath, the promised land, and the heavenly kingdom, none of them are a secure job in this age. Set your mind on the rest that remains, where no one can extend or withdraw a contract. And while you wait, do not grow weary in doing good. The Philippians, though poor, sent aid to Paul time and again. You have two boys; this is your vineyard. Water them with the fear of the Lord, and you will reap a harvest that no manager can take away.

The traitor Judas was among the twelve, yet he perished through love of money. Do not let the love of comfort or the envy of others’ houses destroy your soul. Bind mercy and truth around your neck; show kindness even in your lack, and you will be a child of the compassionate God. The trials you face, the broken word, the drinking, the poverty, are not evidence of God’s neglect. They are the very things Paul lists: tribulation, distress, nakedness. None of these can separate you from the love of Christ. So rise from this despondency. The Lord is at hand, and your true rest is not far off. Only hold fast, and do not faint.

 

[usha rani]

I prayed for this in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Silas]

Your heart is heavy with discouragement, and it is no wonder. The promise of a permanent position being snatched away, watching others receive the security you hoped for while you feel left behind, that kind of rejection cuts deeply, especially with two sons depending on you. And then to carry the sorrow of a husband whose drinking consumes both his wages and his presence is a weight that feels beyond bearing. You look at your own life, the unfinished education, the small living space, and you see only failure, especially when you compare yourself to others your age who seem to have everything. The question rises up, “What did I do wrong to deserve this?” It is a question born from pain, and I want you to hear this tenderly: you are not being punished by God for some secret failure. Hardship is not always a direct result of our own sin; we live in a broken world, and many of the trials we face are simply the groaning of creation, not a ledger of your wrongs.

Your marriage is in a difficult place, and that is one of the deepest aches you carry. When a husband turns to strong drink and becomes undependable, it shakes a wife’s security to the core. You feel you cannot rely on him, yet Scripture speaks directly to a wife whose husband is not walking with the Lord: if he is willing to stay, you are not to leave him. The believing wife can bring a sanctifying influence over the household, and your quiet, pure, and reverent life can speak more powerfully than many words. This doesn’t mean you pretend the drinking isn’t a problem; but rather that you don’t let a bitter or contemptuous spirit take root, because that would only add to the strain and bring reproach on the word of God. Instead, live in such a way that he sees the beauty of a life submitted to Christ. You cannot control his choices, but you can control your own responses, clinging to the dignity of a gentle and quiet spirit even when your heart is breaking.

I think of Abigail, who had a foolish and harsh husband named Nabal. She was married to a man whose very name meant “fool,” and his selfishness nearly brought destruction on their entire household. Yet she did not publicly dishonor him or abandon her post. She acted with wisdom and courage, humbly taking responsibility to save her family, and God honored her faith and quick thinking. She didn’t lash out at Nabal or announce his failures to the world; she trusted God in the crisis and acted with prudence. You, too, can bring your burdens to the Lord and ask for the wisdom to navigate each day. You already see that your husband provides money for food. That is not nothing. Thank God for that provision, and keep praying that the Lord would break the hold drinking has on him. Your prayers are not useless, and your faithful presence is not wasted.

The ache of comparison is a cruel thief. When you look at others with houses and careers and degrees, it is easy to feel like a failure. But your value is not measured by a diploma or a job title or the size of your home. The Lord sees you, a mother of two boys, striving to keep the household together. He sees your tears and your tired prayers. And He has not promised that His children will always live in earthly comfort, but He has promised never to leave or forsake you. The world’s system says you must achieve, you must climb, but the kingdom of God says you are loved because Christ died for you and you are His. Lift your eyes from the horizontal comparison and fix them on the vertical reality: you are a beloved daughter of the King, and He is writing a story far bigger than your present circumstances. The very thing that feels like a dead end may be the place where He teaches you to depend on Him in a way you never would have learned in a three-bedroom house with a flawless job.

Do not despise the smallness of your setting. A two-room home can be a holy place where sons are raised to know the Lord and where a husband is confronted day after day with the quiet testimony of a wife who loves Jesus more than comfort. You are not a dropout; you are a woman who has faced financial hardship and yet keeps rising to care for her family. That takes a strength no classroom can confer. Keep seeking work as you are able, but do not let rejection define your worth. God may open a door you didn’t expect; in the meantime, look for ways to serve and give even in your poverty, for His grace is made perfect in weakness.

Lay your failures, whether real or imagined, at the foot of the cross. There is no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. The enemy would love for you to wallow in self-pity and hopelessness, but the Lord would lift your chin and remind you that your labor in the Lord is never in vain. Trust Him with your husband, your boys, your employment, and your very identity. You are not alone, and you are not forgotten.