We hear your pain, sister, and we lift it before the Lord with heavy hearts. The wounds of betrayal and broken promises cut deep, especially when you invested so much—spiritually, emotionally, and even financially—into what you believed was a future marriage. But we must first address the truth: this man was never yours to begin with, and the relationship you described was not built on God’s design. The red flags you ignored were not just warnings—they were God’s mercy trying to spare you from further harm. A man who fathers a child outside of marriage, breaks promises repeatedly, and prioritizes his own healing over protecting you is not a man ready for the covenant of marriage. His words—"I’ll protect you with my life"—ring hollow when his actions show the opposite. Scripture warns us, *"The prudent sees danger and hides himself, but the simple go on and suffer for it"* (Proverbs 22:3 WEB). You were not "simple"; you were hopeful, but hope must be anchored in wisdom and truth.
First, we must rebuke the lie that this relationship was ever ordained by God. Fornication—sexual intimacy outside of marriage—is sin, and it clouds judgment (1 Corinthians 6:18 WEB). It binds hearts in ways God never intended before His covenant is made. The emptiness you feel is not just from his failures but from stepping outside God’s order. We also rebuke the deception that "spiritual partnership" can replace a godly marriage. Marriage is a sacred vow before God, not a trial run or a spiritual experiment. This man’s past and his unwillingness to repent or take responsibility for his child outside of marriage reveal a heart not yet surrendered to Christ’s lordship. *"Can two walk together, unless they are agreed?"* (Amos 3:3 WEB). You cannot build a future with someone whose foundation is cracked by unrepentant sin.
Now, we turn to the Lord with you, seeking His healing and His timing for the husband He has prepared. Father, we come before You with our sister’s broken heart. You see the tears she has cried, the promises she believed, and the love she gave in vain. Lord, we ask You to bind up her wounds (Psalm 147:3 WEB) and restore to her the joy of Your salvation. Cleanse her from the pain of this relationship, and let her find her worth not in what this man failed to give, but in what You have already declared over her: *"You are fearfully and wonderfully made"* (Psalm 139:14 WEB). Father, we repent on her behalf for the times she ignored Your warnings or sought validation outside of You. Forgive her, and help her to forgive this man—not to excuse his sin, but to release the bitterness that would keep her captive.
Lord, we pray for her future husband even now. You know his name, his heart, and the day You will bring him into her life. Prepare him, Father. If he is not yet walking with You, draw him to repentance and faith. If he is a believer, refine him into a man after Your own heart—a man who leads with humility, loves with sacrifice, and honors You in all things. Give him the courage to take responsibility for his past, to seek forgiveness where it is needed, and to step into the calling You have for him as a husband and, if it is Your will, a father. *"He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord"* (Proverbs 18:22 WEB). Let her be that good thing, Lord, and let him be the husband You have designed for her.
But Father, we ask that You teach her patience. Do not let her rush into another relationship out of loneliness or fear. *"Wait for the Lord; be strong, and let your heart take courage; wait for the Lord!"* (Psalm 27:14 WEB). Let this season be one of deepening her relationship with You. Show her how to find her identity in Christ alone, not in being a wife or a mother. Let her serve You with her whole heart, trusting that You will bring the right man at the right time. And when he comes, Lord, let it be unmistakably clear that he is from You. Give her peace that surpasses understanding (Philippians 4:7 WEB), and let her heart be so full of You that she recognizes him not by his words alone, but by the fruit of his life (Matthew 7:16 WEB).
We also pray for her discernment. Satan will try to deceive her with counterfeits—men who say the right things but do not live them, or men who seem godly but are not ready for marriage. Give her wisdom to see beyond charm or attraction to the heart. Let her seek counsel from godly mentors and test every spirit (1 John 4:1 WEB). Remind her that *"the heart is deceitful above all things"* (Jeremiah 17:9 WEB), and that her own heart cannot be trusted apart from Your Word. Let her measure every potential relationship against Scripture, not against her emotions or desires.
Finally, Lord, we ask that You heal her from the trauma of this broken relationship. Let her see that Your plans for her are for good and not for harm (Jeremiah 29:11 WEB). Even in this pain, You are working all things together for her good (Romans 8:28 WEB). Let her emerge from this season stronger, wiser, and more dependent on You. And when the time is right, let her step into the marriage You have prepared—not as a wounded woman seeking healing from a man, but as a whole woman, complete in Christ, ready to be a helpmeet to the husband You have chosen.
We pray all of this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, the only name by which we are saved and the only name by which we can come before You. There is no other name that heals, restores, or redeems. It is only through His blood that we have access to Your throne, and it is only by His power that we can walk in the fullness of Your will. Help our sister to fix her eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of her faith (Hebrews 12:2 WEB), and to trust that He is enough for her today, tomorrow, and every day until You bring her husband into her life.
In the meantime, let her find her joy in You. Let her serve You with gladness, knowing that You are her provider, her protector, and her peace. And when the right man comes, let it be a testimony to Your faithfulness—a story of redemption, not just for her, but for him as well. We trust You, Lord, to write her love story in Your perfect timing and in Your perfect way. Amen.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
