What to do? My sister convinced me we could ...

[Cowgirl]

What to do?

My sister convinced me we could grow old together and I retired and sold my home and moved near her. She promised me ro help me with the transition off moving to a place I had never lived. She made many promises. I retired and sold my home and she was beside me everystep of the way finding a place and buying it. Then I moved iti my new home and she was disappointed of the one I chose to buy. okay it is 4 times the size of hers and 7 times as much land and then I started to see a side of her I did not know existed. She invited me to meet her at restaurants of her fav hang outs where she put me down everytime I opened my mouth all the while I secured myself a vendor booth to sell a lot of things I did not need anylonger and that was after I gave to her anything I could not find a place for in my new home. Everytime she came in there to say hello to me as I cleaned and moved things around she would embarassme by hanging around the front desk/cashier counter gossiping with other vedors and shoppers about other people. I never partook and stayed clear of her whike she trashed everyone coming and going. Worse was going into a coffee shop and she stood upfront as others came in and walked around her to get waited on as she trashed others with another woman and everyone could hear her. Resently she showed up while I was onmy way to a reopening of a restaurant by a woman in my neighborhood where she insisted she would have perfect manors and she put me down the absolute worse and I told her after we left there that she humiliated me. Is there hipe for us to work through these issues? Everytime I respectfully request her to honor my rights she stomps all over my rights as she trashes me and all the while plays the victim card. What can I possibly do? I pray she will be kinder to me. I keep turning the other cheek because she us my sister and when it was time for me to retire Ii did not return to my roots nor did I stay where I was. I had mived many times as military does tend to do and there really was not a place to call home. I really wanted this to work out for my aister and me to grow old together and help each other but I feel my sister has aet me up for failure one time too many and I am tired of her trashing me as sge playes the victim card. I pray for God to direct me in what to do or where to go from here. Any prayers or ideas will be greatly appreciated. I oray she changes but I am begining to see her for what ahe really is and I have tried very hard and prayed very long. God show me how to handle this situation I have gotten myself into. Amen

 

[cubsfan45]

I prayed for this. In Jesus Name. Amen.

 

I prayed for this. In Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[karebear]

Lord Jesus hear our prayers Amen

 

[summer]

I am so sorry you are going through this. I pray that God will put the answer in your heart on what you need to do, guide you to authentic friends that love and support you and give you peace in all decisions you make. Amen.

 

[Sportscanuk]

Dear Heavenly Father:

We come to you lifting up this Dear One's needs. You know their heart Lord; you know their situation. We ask that you please grant them their request in Jesus Name, and by your will. We ask that in the absence of what cannot be understood that you would grant peace beyond understanding. Send them help from the people around them, and also help from those you wish for them to meet. Oh Father, thank you for sending them love and comfort, peace and joy, that you may grant them full measure of favor and prosperity In Jesus Precious Name we pray, Amen.

 

[Jvill]

I prayed for this. In Jesus Name. Amen.

 

YOU ARE FINANCIALLY INDEPENDENT, AND YOU OWN YOUR OWN HOME. THE HECK WITH YOUR SISTER. I KNOW IT HURTS, BUT I WOULDN'T PUT UP WITH HER NONSENSE ANY MORE. SHE IS YOUR SISTER, THEN EXPLAIN TO HER HOW YOU FEEL. TELL HER IF SHE DOES NOT CEASE AND DESIST, THEN YOU SIMPLY WILL SEVER ALL TIES WITH HER. IT IS TOO BAD. I HOPE IT DOES NOT COME TO THAT. I PRAY SHE WILL STOP BEHAVING SO BADLY AND WILL START TO SHOW RESPECT FOR YOU. YOURS IN CHRIST, LAMB.

 

[Cowgirl]

Thank you everyone. I have decided to stand up to her, as I have seen no one stands up to her. Being a Christian and turning the other cheek does not mean I should be the brunt of her jokes and redicule. Being a Christian does not mean just because she is family that I ahould allow her to victimize me. Family is very important to me as Our family is very small. I may decided to sell and move back to my roots where there is a bit of shirt tail relatives still raining or I will stay here and come to knownand love others as if they are family BUT one thing for certain my sister needs to learn to respect the rights of others or I will no longer let her near me. She hurts and embarasses me and when I tried to talk to her she plays the victim card. Which is rediculus. I have noticed that her geown kids are afarid of her and only come around her dor a free mean in A reataurant or to get something from her or use her in someway and I truly felt sirry dor her because of that. She has a small limited disability check and her kids have good jobs and can afford not to lean on her but they use her and I am starting nit to feel sorry for her bc her kids steer clear of her and since I have seen her with them in restaurants I have realized she abuses them mentally, emotionally, and verbally like she does me. No one they do not come around her unless it is for a free meal. She goes with out so she can help them out and That I do feel sorry for her. BUT I can not see her changes and have come to realize while I write this so I am afraid I must part ways. BUT I will give her one more chance bc hope springs eternal and after all I am a Christian and she is after all still my blood family member but if she can not be christian then I will needbto part ways as she is giving me ao much grief that it is effecting my health and my well being. Thank everyone dor their input and I pray dor strength to stand up to her and tell her ai want to see the christian in her if she really is a christian. I pray I do not hurt her as I did not like bejng hurt by her. I believe God would want me to try again. And I am going to try again.

 

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