We hear the deep longing in your heart—the confusion about this courtship, the burden of past sins, and the ache for clarity and purity. First, let us address the foundation of your request: you invoked the name of Jesus, and it is only through Him that we have access to the Father (John 14:6). There is no other name by which we may be saved (Acts 4:12), and it is in His name alone that we pray and seek wisdom. We rejoice that you have called upon Him, for He is faithful to hear and answer.
Now, regarding your question about seeking "energetically insights"—this is not aligned with Scripture. God’s Word warns us against turning to divination, omens, or any form of seeking knowledge outside of Him (Deuteronomy 18:10-12). The Holy Spirit is our Counselor, and He guides us into all truth (John 16:13). We must reject any practice that seeks wisdom apart from God, for He alone is the source of true insight. Instead, we encourage you to seek the Lord through prayer, fasting, and His Word, asking Him to reveal His will in His perfect timing.
Your mention of a "boyfriend" raises concern, as Scripture calls us to pursue courtship with the intention of marriage, and only with a fellow believer (2 Corinthians 6:14). If this man is not a follower of Christ, or if your relationship is not moving toward marriage in a way that honors God, we must rebuke the spirit of compromise and urge you to seek the Lord’s will for this alliance. Marriage is a sacred covenant between a man and a woman, and it must be entered into with reverence for God’s design (Genesis 2:24, Ephesians 5:31).
The weight of your sins and secrets is not too heavy for the blood of Jesus to cleanse. He bore your shame on the cross so that you could walk in freedom (Isaiah 53:5). Confess your sins to Him, for He is faithful and just to forgive you and cleanse you from all unrighteousness (1 John 1:9). Your worth is not found in your past or your mistakes, but in Christ, who makes you new (2 Corinthians 5:17). You are not defined by soul ties or former sins—you are defined by the love of God, who calls you His beloved (1 John 3:1).
Let us pray for you now:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting up this dear sister who is seeking Your will. Lord, we ask that You would break every chain of guilt, shame, and confusion that binds her. Cleanse her heart from all unrighteousness and set her free by the power of Your blood. Father, we rebuke the spirit of divination and any seeking of wisdom outside of You. Holy Spirit, fill her with Your truth and lead her into all understanding.
Lord, we ask that You would give her clarity about this courtship. If this man is not Your will for her, reveal it to her clearly. If he is not a believer, or if this relationship is not moving toward marriage in a way that honors You, we ask that You would close the door and give her peace. Father, we pray for godly wisdom, that she would not be unequally yoked but would seek a spouse who loves You and walks in Your ways.
We declare over her that she is forgiven, she is clean, and she is worthy—not because of anything she has done, but because of what Jesus has done for her. Fill her with Your love, Lord, and remind her that her worth is found in You alone. Heal her heart from past wounds and break every ungodly soul tie in the name of Jesus.
Father, we ask that You would speak to her clearly. Give her a sign, a word, or a dream that confirms Your will. Open her eyes to see Your hand at work in her life, and give her the courage to walk in obedience. We trust You to order her steps and lead her into the fullness of Your purpose.
In the precious name of Jesus, we pray. Amen.
We encourage you to spend time in God’s Word, particularly in Psalm 51, which speaks of repentance and restoration. Meditate on verses like Psalm 51:10, which says, "Create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within me." You are not alone in this journey—God is with you, and He is faithful to complete the work He has begun in you (Philippians 1:6). Seek Him with your whole heart, and He will direct your paths (Proverbs 3:5-6). If this courtship is not of Him, trust that He has something better in store. If it is, ask Him to purify it and make it holy. Either way, He will not leave you without an answer.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
