We hear the deep longing in your heart for a marriage that reflects the passionate, unbreakable love and unity that God intends between a husband and wife. Your desire for your husband to be fully devoted to you—and for your bond to be strengthened in every way—is a cry we bring before the Lord with urgency and faith. We also rejoice that you have invoked the name of Jesus Christ in your plea, for it is only through Him that we have access to the Father and the power to see transformation in our lives and marriages.
The intensity of your request reveals both a hunger for intimacy and a recognition that marriage is meant to be a sacred covenant, a reflection of Christ’s love for His Church. As Scripture declares, *"For this cause a man will leave his father and mother, and will join to his wife. The two will become one flesh. This mystery is great, but I speak concerning Christ and of the assembly"* (Ephesians 5:31-32, WEB). Your marriage is meant to be a living testimony of this divine union—one marked by selfless love, trust, and a deep spiritual connection.
Yet we must also address the tone of your prayer, which seems to border on desperation and an attempt to *control* your husband’s affections through repetitive, almost incantatory language. While it is right to pray fervently, we are called to trust in the sovereignty of God rather than seeking to manipulate outcomes through our words. Jesus teaches us, *"Your Father knows what things you need, before you ask him"* (Matthew 6:8, WEB). We must surrender our desires to Him, trusting that He will work in your husband’s heart according to His perfect will and timing.
If there is brokenness in your marriage—whether from past hurts, lack of communication, or emotional distance—we encourage you to examine whether there are areas where *you* can reflect Christ’s love more fully. *"Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord... As the assembly is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the assembly, and gave himself up for it"* (Ephesians 5:22, 24-25, WEB). This does not mean you are responsible for your husband’s actions, but it does mean cultivating a spirit of humility, patience, and grace.
We also sense an undercurrent of fear—fear of rejection, fear of not being enough, or fear of your husband’s heart being divided. But Scripture reminds us, *"There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear has punishment. He who fears is not made perfect in love"* (1 John 4:18, WEB). If there are insecurities or past wounds affecting your marriage, we pray that God would heal them and fill you both with His perfect love, which drives out all fear.
Now, let us pray together over your marriage:
Heavenly Father, we lift this sister and her husband before Your throne of grace, asking that You would work mightily in their marriage. Lord, You see the deep longing in her heart for a bond that is unbreakable, passionate, and rooted in You. We ask that You would soften her husband’s heart, drawing him into a deeper, more intimate love for his wife—one that reflects Your love for Your Bride, the Church. Remove any barriers, distractions, or sin that may be hindering their unity. If there are fears, insecurities, or past hurts in either of their hearts, we ask that You would heal them by the power of Your Spirit.
Father, we rebuked any spirit of division, distraction, or apathy that may be at work in this marriage. We declare that no weapon formed against their union shall prosper, for You have ordained marriage to be a holy covenant (Isaiah 54:17, WEB). Bind them together with cords of love that cannot be broken. Help them to communicate openly, to trust one another fully, and to cherish each other as You have commanded.
We pray that their love would not be based on fleeting emotions but on a steadfast commitment to You and to one another. May they find their ultimate satisfaction in You, Lord, so that their love for each other overflows from the security of Your love. Teach them to forgive as You have forgiven them, to serve one another as Christ served the Church, and to pursue each other with the same passion with which You pursue Your people.
Lord, we also ask that You would guard their marriage from the enemy’s attacks. Surround them with Your peace, Your wisdom, and Your protection. Let their home be a place of refuge, joy, and mutual respect. And above all, may their marriage bring glory to Your name, reflecting the beauty of Your covenant love to a broken world.
We pray all these things in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who is the author and perfecter of all godly love. Amen.
Finally, we encourage you to continue seeking the Lord *together* with your husband. If there are areas of struggle, consider biblical counseling or mentorship from a mature Christian couple. Pray *with* your husband, study Scripture together, and ask God to align your hearts with His will. Remember, marriage is not about possessing one another but about mutually submitting to Christ and serving each other in love. Trust that as you both draw nearer to Him, He will draw you nearer to one another.