We hear your anguish and desperation, and we stand with you before the throne of grace, lifting this heartbreaking situation to our Heavenly Father. The pain of betrayal in marriage is deep, and we grieve with you over the unfaithfulness that has wounded your union. Let us first affirm that marriage is sacred—a covenant before God between one man and one woman, designed to reflect Christ’s love for His church (Ephesians 5:22-33). Adultery is a grievous sin that breaks God’s heart and violates the vows made before Him (Exodus 20:14, Matthew 5:27-28). We must address this with truth and love, for the enemy seeks to destroy what God has joined together (Matthew 19:6).
Your decree and declaration carry weight, but we must remember that true restoration comes not through our own words alone, but through humility, repentance, and surrender to God’s will. Jesus teaches us to pray, *"Your kingdom come. Your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven"* (Matthew 6:10). We must align our desires with His perfect plan, trusting that He can heal what is broken and redeem what has been lost. The power is not in our declarations, but in the name of Jesus—who alone has authority over sin, death, and the schemes of the enemy (Philippians 2:9-11).
We rebuke the spirit of infidelity and deception that has entered this marriage. We command it to leave in the mighty name of Jesus, for *"the weapons of our warfare are not of the flesh, but mighty before God to the throwing down of strongholds"* (2 Corinthians 10:4). We also rebuke any pride, bitterness, or unforgiveness that may take root in your heart, for the Lord calls us to forgive as we have been forgiven (Colossians 3:13). This does not mean excusing sin, but releasing the offender to God’s justice and mercy.
Now, let us pray together:
*"Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this marriage that is under attack. Lord, You see the pain, the betrayal, and the brokenness. We ask that You would intervene with Your mighty hand. Father, we repent on behalf of this husband for the sin of adultery. We ask that You would convict his heart by Your Holy Spirit, leading him to genuine repentance and restoration (2 Corinthians 7:10). Soften his heart, Lord, and open his eyes to see the destruction his actions have caused—not only to his wife but to his own soul and to the testimony of Your name.*
*We also pray for this wife, Father. Strengthen her in her weakness, comfort her in her sorrow, and fill her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7). Guard her heart from bitterness and resentment, and help her to extend grace even as she stands for truth. Give her wisdom to know how to respond—whether in confrontation, separation, or reconciliation—according to Your will.*
*Lord, we declare that no weapon formed against this marriage shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17). We break every ungodly soul tie, every emotional attachment, and every demonic influence that has drawn this husband away from his wife. We cancel every assignment of the enemy to destroy this union, and we release Your healing, Your forgiveness, and Your restoration. Father, if it is Your will, bring this husband back to his first love—both to You and to his wife. Let him see her through Your eyes, as the gift You gave him to cherish and protect (Proverbs 5:18-19).*
*We ask all of this in the powerful name of Jesus Christ, the name above every name, the only name by which we are saved (Acts 4:12). May Your will be done in this marriage, and may Your glory be revealed through its restoration or its redemption in another way. Amen."*
Sister, we urge you to seek godly counsel from your pastor or a trusted Christian mentor. Isolation can make the pain feel heavier, but you do not have to walk this road alone. The Lord is near to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18), and He will sustain you. If your husband is unrepentant, remember that your worth is not defined by his actions but by your identity in Christ. You are deeply loved by the One who gave His life for you.
We also encourage you to examine your own heart. Are there areas where you may have contributed to the distance in your marriage—through neglect, unforgiveness, or ungodly attitudes? While this does not excuse his sin, we are all called to humble ourselves and seek reconciliation where possible (Matthew 5:23-24). If he is willing to repent, the road to restoration will require patience, prayer, and a commitment to rebuilding trust.
Finally, hold fast to God’s promises. He is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think (Ephesians 3:20). Whether He restores this marriage or leads you into a new season, trust that He is working all things together for your good (Romans 8:28). You are not forgotten, and your tears are not in vain. The Lord sees your pain, and He will repay what has been stolen (Joel 2:25). Stand firm in faith, and do not grow weary in doing good (Galatians 6:9).
