We're right there with you, sister, feeling the depth of your longing and the urgency of your prayers. We've read your heart's cry, and we want you to know that we're lifting you and your situation up to the Lord together.
First, let's praise God for the passion and fervor with which you're seeking His will. Your love for this man is evident, but let's make sure our desires align with God's Word. We need to address a few things to ensure we're on the right path.
You've mentioned this man as your "husband," but it's unclear if you're legally and biblically married. Marriage is a sacred covenant between one man and one woman for life (Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19:4-6). If you're not married, referring to him as your husband could be misleading, both spiritually and practically. If you're in a relationship outside of marriage, we need to address this with urgency, as Scripture clearly states that sexual immorality, including fornication (sex before marriage), is sin (1 Corinthians 6:18-20, Galatians 5:19, 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5).
If this is the case, we urge you to repent and turn away from this sin, seeking God's forgiveness and His path to restoration. True love waits and honors God's design for marriage.
Additionally, you've mentioned that this man has ties to "false Muslim gods and idols." This is a grave concern, as Scripture warns that believers must not be unequally yoked with unbelievers (2 Corinthians 6:14-15). A marriage or relationship where one person does not share the same faith in Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior is not in alignment with God's will. Jesus is the only way to salvation (John 14:6, Acts 4:12), and a marriage built on anything less than a shared commitment to Him is built on shifting sand. We must pray for this man's salvation above all else, for without Christ, no relationship can truly flourish in the way God intends.
You've also expressed a desire for deep emotional and physical attraction, which is natural within the bounds of marriage. However, we must caution you that love is not merely a feeling—it's a choice, a commitment, and an action rooted in Christ (1 Corinthians 13:4-7). True love is patient, kind, and selfless, not driven by passion alone. If this relationship is outside of marriage, the intense focus on physical and emotional desire must be surrendered to God, as it can easily lead to temptation and sin.
Lastly, we've noticed that while you invoke the name of Jesus, there's a repetitive and almost incantation-like quality to your prayer. Prayer is not about the repetition of words or the intensity of our emotions but about the posture of our hearts before God (Matthew 6:7-8). He knows our needs before we ask, and He desires us to come to Him with humility, trust, and faith in His sovereignty.
With these truths in mind, let's pray together for this situation, seeking God's will above all else:
Lord, we come before You in the name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, the only name by which we are saved. We lift up this sister and the man she has mentioned to You, asking for Your wisdom, discernment, and perfect will to prevail in this situation.
Lord, if this relationship is not yet a biblical marriage, we ask for conviction and repentance where there has been sin. Fornication and emotional entanglements outside of marriage are not Your design, and we pray for purity, self-control, and a heart that seeks to honor You above all else (1 Thessalonians 4:3-5). If this man is not a believer, we cry out for his salvation, that You would open his eyes to the truth of the Gospel and draw him to Yourself (2 Corinthians 4:4-6). Without You, Lord, no relationship can stand. We ask that You would work mightily in his heart, breaking every chain of false religion, idolatry, and darkness that binds him. Set him free from every stronghold, including anger, lust, perversion, and any addiction to pornography or social media that distracts him from You.
Father, if it is Your will for this sister and this man to be united in a godly marriage, we ask that You would prepare both of their hearts for that covenant. Give them a love that is rooted in Christ, patient, kind, and selfless. Remove any unhealthy attachments to past relationships, including ties to an ex-wife or other women, and create in them a heart that is fully devoted to You first and to one another in purity. Let their desire for each other be holy, directed by Your Spirit, and expressed in ways that honor You.
We pray for protection over this sister's heart and mind. Guard her from idolatry—from placing this man or this relationship above You. Help her to trust in Your timing and Your plan, even when it feels urgent or uncertain. Fill her with Your peace, which surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:6-7).
Lord, we cover this situation with the blood of Jesus Christ. We declare that no weapon formed against Your plan will prosper (Isaiah 54:17). Break every curse, every lie, and every scheme of the enemy that seeks to distort or destroy what You are building. Let Your light expose any darkness, and let Your truth reign in their hearts.
Most of all, Father, we ask that Your will be done—not ours. If this relationship is not from You, give this sister the strength to walk away and trust You for a godly spouse who is fully surrendered to Christ. If it is from You, prepare them both for a marriage that glorifies You in every way.
We pray all of this in the mighty and holy name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
Sister, we encourage you to spend time in God's Word, seeking His heart on relationships and marriage. Meditate on passages like Ephesians 5:22-33, which outlines the biblical roles of husbands and wives, and 1 Corinthians 7, which speaks to the sanctity of marriage. Surround yourself with wise, godly counsel—believers who can speak truth into your life and hold you accountable.
If this man is not a believer, your primary prayer should be for his salvation. A marriage with an unbeliever will bring challenges that can only be overcome by the power of Christ working in both hearts. If you are not married, we urge you to step back from any physical or emotional intimacy that does not honor God. Trust that His plan for you is good, even if it requires waiting or letting go.
Finally, we remind you that your identity is in Christ alone. No human relationship can complete you—only Jesus can. Seek Him first, and all these things will be added to you as He sees fit (Matthew 6:33). We are praying for you and trust that God will guide you into His perfect will.