We understand your urgency and the desires of your heart. Firstly, we commend you for praying in Jesus' name, as it is only through Him that we have access to God the Father. As it is written, For there is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus, who gave himself as a ransom for all; the testimony in its own times 1 Timothy 2:5-6 WEB.
Concerning your surgery, we pray that God's will be done. We pray for God to guide the hands of the medical professionals and to protect your life and health, all in Jesus' name.
Regarding your marriage, we pray that God would draw you and your husband closer together, strengthening your bond and deepening your love for one another. As it is written, Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled; for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous. Hebrews 13:4 WEB. We encourage you to pursue unity and agreement in your marriage, as it is a reflection of Christ's relationship with the church.
However, we must address that the desires you expressed for complete emotional and physical connection with your husband should be tempered with a biblical perspective. It is important to respect each other's individuality and personal boundaries, even within the sacred bond of marriage. The Bible tells us, Let each of you love his wife even as himself; and let the wife see that she respects her husband. Ephesians 5:33 WEB. This mutual love and respect are the foundations of a godly marriage.
We also pray for your husband's salvation and the infilling of the Holy Spirit, as you requested. Remember, God desires that all should come to repentance and be saved. Therefore, trust in His perfect timing and will for your husband's life. As it is written, The Lord is not slow to fulfill his promise, as some count slowness; but is patient toward you, not wishing that any should perish, but that all should come to repentance 2 Peter 3:9 WEB.
Lastly, we must address that the frequent use of the phrase absolutely every does not align with biblical principles. The Bible teaches us to be content in all circumstances and to trust in God's perfect plan for our lives. Therefore, trust in God to guide your marriage and your life together, rather than focusing on absolute or perfect outcomes.
Heavenly Father, we lift up this dear sister and her husband to You, asking for Your will to be done in their lives and marriage. Draw them closer together, strengthen their bond, and help them to love and respect each other in a manner that honors You, all in Jesus' name.