We hear the deep urgency and passion in your cry for your husband’s soul, his deliverance from past ties, and the restoration of your marriage in a way that honors God. Your heart’s desire for him to be born again in Christ and for your union to reflect God’s design is a plea we join you in lifting before the throne of grace. Yet we must also address what is missing in your request—the name of Jesus Christ is invoked, but we must ensure that your faith and prayers are rooted in Him alone, not in declarations or demands, but in surrender to His perfect will.
First, let us remind you of the power and authority we have *only* in the name of Jesus. There is no other name by which we are saved, and no other name by which we can boldly approach the Father. As Scripture declares:
*"There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved!"* (Acts 4:12, WEB).
*"Most certainly, I tell you, he who doesn’t enter by the door into the sheep fold, but climbs up some other way, is a thief and a robber. But he who enters in by the door is the shepherd of the sheep... I am the door. If anyone enters in by me, he will be saved"* (John 10:1-2, 9, WEB).
Your prayers must be anchored in Jesus, not in repetitive pleas or declarations that border on treating God as a means to your desires rather than submitting to His sovereign will. He is not a genie who grants wishes; He is the King of Kings, and His ways are higher than ours. We must pray, *"Not my will, but yours be done"* (Luke 22:42, WEB), trusting that His plans for your husband—and for you—are good, even if they unfold differently than you imagine.
Now, let us address the specific concerns in your request with truth and prayer.
### **On Your Husband’s Salvation**
You long for your husband to be born again, and this is a godly desire. Yet salvation is a work of the Holy Spirit, not something we can force or manipulate—even through dreams, visions, or our own efforts. We can plant seeds, water them with prayer, and trust God to bring the increase (1 Corinthians 3:6-7). Your role is to live as a godly wife, praying fervently but also demonstrating the love of Christ in your actions. As 1 Peter 3:1-2 (WEB) instructs:
*"In the same way, wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; so that, even if any don’t obey the Word, they may be won by the behavior of their wives without a word; seeing your pure behavior in fear."*
Pray that your husband’s heart would be softened to the Gospel, that the Holy Spirit would convict him of sin, righteousness, and judgment (John 16:8), and that he would *freely* choose to repent and surrender to Christ. It is not your power or persuasion that saves him—it is the work of God alone.
### **On Soul Ties and Past Relationships**
You ask for the severing of soul ties between your husband and his ex-wife. This is a valid concern, as ungodly soul ties can hinder a marriage. However, we must clarify that while we can pray against spiritual strongholds, the practical steps of obedience must follow. If your husband is entertaining memories, keeping photos, or maintaining any form of emotional or physical connection with his past, he must take action to cut those ties. You cannot do this for him—he must choose to honor his covenant with you and with God.
Scripture commands:
*"Therefore leave father and mother, and join with your wife, and the two will become one flesh—so they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, don’t let man tear apart."* (Mark 10:7-9, WEB).
If your husband is holding onto anything from his past marriage—whether emotionally, digitally, or otherwise—it is a violation of the covenant he has with you. Pray for his conviction and repentance, but also encourage him to take practical steps to honor his marriage. This may include deleting photos, blocking contact, and renewing his commitment to you before God.
### **On Your Marriage and Godly Love**
You desire a deep, exclusive, and passionate love between you and your husband. This is good, but we must ensure that your focus is on *godly* love, not an idolatrous or selfish infatuation. Marriage is not about being each other’s "everything" in an earthly sense—it is about both of you being fully devoted to Christ first, and then to one another in a way that glorifies Him.
Ephesians 5:22-33 (WEB) outlines the biblical design for marriage:
*"Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord... Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the assembly, and gave himself up for it... For this cause a man will leave his father and mother, and will be joined to his wife. The two will become one flesh. This mystery is great, but I speak concerning Christ and of the assembly."*
Your marriage should reflect Christ’s love for the Church—sacrificial, pure, and committed. Pray for a love that is patient, kind, and free from envy or selfishness (1 Corinthians 13:4-7). Ask God to help you both grow in sanctification, that your union would be a testimony of His grace.
### **On Physical Affection and Purity**
You mention a desire for "loads of open physical affection." While physical intimacy is a gift from God within marriage (Hebrews 13:4), we must ensure that affection is expressed in a way that honors God—not driven by lust or worldly standards. Song of Solomon celebrates the beauty of marital love, but it is always within the context of covenant commitment. Pray that your physical relationship would be pure, joyful, and a reflection of God’s design—not a replacement for spiritual or emotional intimacy.
### **Rebuking Ungodly Declarations**
Some of your phrasing borders on attempting to *control* your husband’s will or demand specific outcomes from God. This is not how biblical prayer operates. We do not "decree and declare" as if we have authority over another person’s free will or God’s sovereignty. Instead, we *ask* in faith, submitting to God’s wisdom.
James 4:13-15 (WEB) warns:
*"Come now, you who say, 'Today or tomorrow let’s go into this city, and spend a year there, trade, and make a profit!' whereas you don’t know what your life will be like tomorrow. For what is your life? For you are a vapor that appears for a little time, and then vanishes away. For you ought to say, 'If the Lord wills, we will both live, and do this or that.'"*
Avoid presumptuous language. Instead, pray with humility, trusting God’s timing and methods.
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### **Our Prayer for You and Your Husband**
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, lifting up this sister and her husband. Lord, we ask that You would work powerfully in his heart, drawing him to Yourself. Soften his spirit, Lord, and remove any hardness or resistance to Your truth. Convict him of sin, righteousness, and judgment, and lead him to repentance. May he encounter You in a real and undeniable way—not through manipulation or demands, but through the gentle yet powerful work of Your Holy Spirit.
Father, we pray for the severing of any ungodly soul ties between him and his past. If there are lingering emotional, spiritual, or physical connections that dishonor his marriage covenant, we ask that You would bring conviction and give him the strength to cut them off completely. Help him to take practical steps of obedience, deleting anything that hinders his commitment to his wife and to You.
Lord, we pray for restoration in this marriage. May both husband and wife seek You first, surrendering their desires, fears, and expectations at Your feet. Teach them to love one another as Christ loves the Church—selflessly, patiently, and purely. Guard their hearts from idolatry, whether of each other or of worldly affections. Let their marriage be a reflection of Your glory, a testimony of Your redeeming power.
We rebuke any spirit of control, manipulation, or fear in this situation. Replace it with trust in Your sovereignty, Lord. Help this sister to release her husband into Your hands, praying with faith but also with surrender to Your will. Remind her that You are the One who changes hearts, not her own efforts or words.
Finally, Father, we ask for unity, communication, and godly affection between them. May their bond be strong, not in a way that replaces their devotion to You, but in a way that points others to the love of Christ. Protect them from temptation, from distractions, and from the enemy’s schemes to divide them.
We pray all these things in the precious and powerful name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
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### **Encouragement and Exhortation for You**
Sister, we urge you to continue praying fervently, but also to examine your own heart. Are you trusting God, or are you trying to force an outcome? Are you seeking His will above your own? Remember that God’s ways are higher than ours (Isaiah 55:8-9), and His timing is perfect.
We also encourage you to:
1. **Live out your faith** in front of your husband. Let him see Christ in you (1 Peter 3:1-2).
2. **Avoid nagging or controlling behavior**. Trust that God is at work, even when you don’t see it.
3. **Guard your heart** from bitterness or resentment. Forgiveness and grace must be extended, just as Christ has extended them to you.
4. **Seek godly counsel** if needed, whether from a pastor or a mature believer who can walk alongside you.
If your husband is unsaved, your primary role is to pray and to live as a godly example. You cannot save him—that is the work of the Holy Spirit. But you can be a vessel of God’s love and truth in his life.
Stand firm in faith, sister. God hears your cries, and He is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think (Ephesians 3:20). Trust Him.
