We come before the Lord with hearts full of faith and urgency, lifting up this request with deep intercession, knowing that our God is mighty to save, transform, and restore. We praise Him that you are seeking His will in this matter, and we join you in crying out for His divine intervention in the life of this man, whom we will refer to as the one you are praying for, as well as in your own life and the bond between you both.
First, we must address something critical: salvation and a personal relationship with Jesus Christ are not something we can force, manipulate, or bring about through our own efforts—even in prayer. While it is right and good to pray earnestly for someone’s salvation, we must remember that each person has a free will, and it is the Holy Spirit who convicts and draws them to repentance. Your role is to be a vessel of God’s love, to share the Gospel, and to pray, but the decision to surrender to Christ must be his own. As it is written in **Ezekiel 18:32**, *"For I have no pleasure in the death of anyone who dies,” says the Lord God. “Therefore repent, and live!"* And in **2 Peter 3:9**, we are reminded, *"The Lord is not slow concerning his promise, as some count slowness; but he is patient with us, not wishing that anyone should perish, but that all should come to repentance."*
We also note the intensity of your desires for this relationship, and while we understand the depth of your emotions, we must gently remind you that our ultimate fulfillment, joy, and satisfaction are found in Christ alone—not in any human relationship. **Psalm 37:4** tells us, *"Also delight yourself in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart."* When our hearts are aligned with His will, our desires begin to reflect His purposes. We encourage you to seek the Lord first, trusting that He knows what is best for you and will guide your steps. If this relationship is His will, He will bring it to pass in His perfect timing and way. If not, He will redirect your heart to something even better—His perfect plan for your life.
Now, regarding the bond between you and this man: we must emphasize that marriage is a sacred covenant before God, designed to reflect the relationship between Christ and His Church. If this man is still legally bound to another woman, the Bible is clear that divorce and remarriage while a former spouse is still living is not God’s design, except in cases of sexual immorality (as outlined in **Matthew 19:9**). We do not know the details of his past marriage, but we urge you to seek wisdom and discernment from the Lord about the righteousness of pursuing this relationship. **1 Corinthians 7:10-11** states, *"But to the married I command—not I, but the Lord—that the wife not leave her husband (but if she departs, let her remain unmarried, or else be reconciled to her husband), and that the husband not leave his wife."* And **1 Corinthians 7:39** says, *"A wife is bound by law for as long as her husband lives; but if the husband is dead, she is free to be married to whoever she desires, only in the Lord."*
If there has been sin in this area—whether fornication, adultery, or any other form of sexual immorality—we urge you both to repent and turn away from it. **1 Corinthians 6:18** commands, *"Flee sexual immorality! 'Every sin that a man does is outside the body,' but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body."* And **Hebrews 13:4** declares, *"Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the bed be undefiled; but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers."* True repentance means turning away from sin and aligning your lives with God’s Word. If this relationship is to honor God, it must be built on purity, patience, and a shared commitment to Christ.
We also sense a deep longing in your prayer for this man to be your husband, and while we understand your heart’s cry, we must encourage you to surrender this desire fully to the Lord. It is not wrong to pray for a godly marriage, but we must do so with open hands, trusting that God’s will is perfect. **Proverbs 3:5-6** reminds us, *"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight."* If this man is the one God has for you, the Lord will make it clear and will bind your hearts together in His timing. If not, God will provide someone who is fully prepared to love you as Christ loves the Church.
Finally, we must address the repeated use of "###" in place of this man’s name. While we understand the desire for privacy, we encourage you to pray specifically and boldly, calling him by name before the Lord. There is power in speaking his name in prayer, and there is no need to fear when we are praying in alignment with God’s will. **Philippians 4:6-7** tells us, *"In nothing be anxious, but in everything, by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your thoughts in Christ Jesus."*
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Now, let us pray together over this situation:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, lifting up this sister and the man she is praying for. Lord, we ask that You move powerfully in his heart, mind, and spirit. Draw him to Yourself, Lord, in a way that is undeniable. Send Your Holy Spirit to convict him of sin, righteousness, and judgment, and grant him the gift of repentance leading to salvation. May he encounter You in dreams, visions, and in waking moments, Lord, so that he knows beyond a shadow of a doubt that You are real, that You love him, and that he needs Jesus as his Savior. We pray that he would turn from his sins, confess Jesus as Lord, and be born again by the power of Your Spirit. Let this be a work that only You can do, Father, so that all glory goes to You.
Lord, we also lift up our sister before You. We ask that You fill her with Your peace, Your joy, and Your patience as she waits on You. Guard her heart, Lord, and align her desires with Your will. If this relationship is not of You, give her the strength and grace to let it go and trust You for something better. If it is Your will, then prepare both of their hearts for a godly, Christ-centered marriage that honors You in every way. Break every ungodly soul tie, Lord, especially any lingering connections from past relationships. Sever them completely by the blood of Jesus, and let there be no room for the enemy to bring division, confusion, or temptation.
Father, we pray for unity, purity, and a deep, abiding love between them that is rooted in You. Let their bond be one that reflects Christ and the Church—selfless, sacrificial, and full of grace. Remove any idolatry from their hearts, Lord, and let Jesus be their first love and greatest desire. We rebuke any spirit of lust, control, manipulation, or fear, and we ask that You fill them both with Your Holy Spirit, leading them into all truth.
Lord, we also pray for protection over this relationship. If it is not of You, expose it and bring it to an end. If it is of You, strengthen it, purify it, and let it flourish in Your timing. Give them both wisdom, discernment, and a heart that seeks Your will above all else. Let them walk in holiness, Lord, and may their lives bring You glory.
We ask all of this in the precious and powerful name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who alone is worthy of all praise, honor, and glory. Amen.
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We encourage you to continue seeking the Lord daily, spending time in His Word and in prayer. Surround yourself with wise, godly counsel—believers who can speak truth into your life and help you discern God’s will. Remember that God’s ways are higher than ours, and His plans for you are good. Trust in Him, even when the path is unclear. **Jeremiah 29:11** reminds us, *"For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says Yahweh, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you hope and a future."* Keep your eyes fixed on Jesus, and He will lead you every step of the way.
