We hear your desperate cry for deep connection, love, and unity in your marriage, and we join you in bringing this before the Lord with urgency. Your heart is clearly longing for a godly, passionate, and unbreakable bond with your husband, and we believe God desires this for you as well—but we must approach this with wisdom, truth, and alignment with His Word.
First, we must address the foundation of your request. You cry out for your husband’s salvation, asking God to make him a born-again Christian "through you." While your desire for his soul is beautiful and right, salvation is not something that comes through another person—it is a personal decision between an individual and God. Scripture is clear: *"For by grace you have been saved through faith, and that not of yourselves; it is the gift of God, not of works, that no one would boast"* (Ephesians 2:8-9). We must pray for your husband’s heart to be softened, for his eyes to be opened to the truth of the Gospel, and for the Holy Spirit to convict him of sin, righteousness, and judgment (John 16:8). But we cannot manipulate or force his salvation—it is the work of God alone. Let us pray fervently for him, but also trust God’s timing and sovereignty.
You ask for your husband to love you in every way, with a love deeper than he has ever known. While this desire is understandable, we must remember that human love—even in marriage—is imperfect. Only God’s love is perfect, and our ultimate fulfillment must come from Him first. Jesus said, *"Seek first God’s Kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to you"* (Matthew 6:33). If we seek our spouse’s love above God’s, we risk idolatry, which will only lead to disappointment and strife. Instead, let us pray that *both* of you would grow in your love for Christ first, and that your marriage would reflect His love—a love that is patient, kind, not self-seeking, and never fails (1 Corinthians 13:4-8).
Your request also speaks of deep physical and emotional desire, which is a God-given part of marriage (Proverbs 5:18-19, Song of Solomon). However, we must guard against making an idol of passion or emotional intensity. True love is not just about feelings—it is a choice to honor, respect, and serve one another, even when emotions waver. *"Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the assembly, and gave himself up for it"* (Ephesians 5:25). This is a sacrificial love, not just a passionate one. Let us pray that your marriage would be rooted in Christ-like love, not just fleeting emotions.
We also notice the repeated emphasis on *"no one else ever"* in your prayer, which reflects a godly desire for fidelity. Adultery and emotional unfaithfulness are serious sins that destroy marriages (Exodus 20:14, Matthew 5:28). We must rebuke any spirit of temptation or ungodly attraction that may try to enter your marriage. Let us pray for protection over your hearts and minds, that you would both remain pure in thought and deed, honoring the covenant you made before God.
Now, let us come before the Lord together in prayer:
**Heavenly Father, we come before You with hearts full of longing for this marriage. Lord, we ask that You would draw this husband to Yourself. Soften his heart, open his eyes to the truth of the Gospel, and let him experience the new birth that comes only through faith in Jesus Christ (John 3:3). We pray that he would be filled with Your Holy Spirit, walking in repentance and righteousness. Father, we ask that You would also strengthen this wife in her faith, that she would find her ultimate fulfillment in You, not in her husband’s love.
We pray for their marriage, Lord. Knit their hearts together in unity, as You designed marriage to reflect Christ and the Church (Ephesians 5:31-32). Let their love be rooted in You, growing deeper in patience, kindness, and selflessness each day. Guard their minds and hearts from temptation, and let no ungodly attraction or distraction come between them. May their physical intimacy be a blessing, honoring to You and a reflection of their covenant love.
Lord, we ask that You would bless their future together. Let their marriage flourish, not just in emotion, but in godly commitment. May they serve one another, submit to one another in love, and build a home that honors You. Protect them from division, from the lies of the enemy, and from anything that would seek to tear them apart.
We rebuke any spirit of idolatry, selfishness, or ungodly desire in this marriage. Let Christ be the center, the foundation, and the source of all they seek. We trust You to work in their hearts, Lord, and we ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, the only name by which we can come to You. Amen.**
We encourage you to continue seeking God first in all things. If your husband is not yet a believer, pray for him daily, but also live out your faith before him in a way that draws him to Christ (1 Peter 3:1-2). Trust God’s timing and His perfect plan for your marriage. If there are areas where you or your husband may be struggling with sin—whether it be lust, unforgiveness, or pride—confess these things before the Lord and seek accountability with other believers. Marriage is a beautiful gift, but it is also a calling to reflect Christ’s love to the world. May God bless you both as you seek Him together.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
