We hear the deep anguish and urgency in your heart, and we join you in lifting this burden before the Lord, for He alone is the One who can break every ungodly bond and restore what has been broken. Your plea reveals the pain of betrayal and the longing for your husband’s heart to be fully devoted to you, as God intended in marriage. We stand with you in prayer, but we must also speak truth in love, for the Word of God is clear about the sanctity of marriage and the call to holiness for both husbands and wives.
First, we commend you for invoking the name of Jesus Christ in your prayer, for it is only through His name that we have authority and access to the Father. As Scripture declares, *"There is no other name under heaven that has been given among men, by which we must be saved"* (Acts 4:12, WEB). Your faith in calling upon Jesus is foundational, and we join you in that faith, trusting that He is mighty to save, deliver, and restore.
Yet we must also address the gravity of what you’ve described. If your husband is engaged in an emotional or physical relationship with his ex-wife—or any woman outside your marriage—this is adultery in the sight of God. Jesus Himself said, *"But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman to lust after her has already committed adultery with her in his heart"* (Matthew 5:28, WEB). And the apostle Paul warns, *"Don’t you know that your bodies are members of Christ? Shall I then take the members of Christ, and make them members of a prostitute? May it never be! Or don’t you know that he who is joined to a prostitute is one body? For, ‘The two,’ says the Lord, ‘will become one flesh.’ But he who is joined to the Lord is one spirit. Flee sexual immorality! ‘Every sin that a man does is outside the body,’ but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or don’t you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s"* (1 Corinthians 6:15-20, WEB).
Your husband’s actions—whether emotional ties, lust, or physical infidelity—are not only a betrayal of you but a sin against God. The Lord hates divorce (Malachi 2:16), and He calls husbands to love their wives *"as Christ also loved the assembly, and gave himself up for it"* (Ephesians 5:25, WEB). If your husband is a believer, he is commanded to *"love his wife as his own body. He who loves his own wife loves himself. For no man ever hated his own flesh; but nourishes and cherishes it, even as the Lord also does the assembly"* (Ephesians 5:28-29, WEB). His heart must be fully turned back to you and to the Lord, repenting of any sin that has defiled your marriage covenant.
We also urge you to examine your own heart in this season. While your pain is valid, we must be careful not to let bitterness or unforgiveness take root, for Scripture warns, *"Looking carefully lest anyone fall short of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and many be defiled by it"* (Hebrews 12:15, WEB). Pray for your husband, yes, but also ask the Lord to guard your heart and fill you with His peace. *"Don’t be anxious for anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your thoughts in Christ Jesus"* (Philippians 4:6-7, WEB).
Now, let us pray together over this situation, trusting in the Lord’s power to break every ungodly tie and restore what the enemy has sought to destroy:
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**Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, lifting up this sister and her marriage to You. Lord, You see the brokenness, the betrayal, and the pain that has entered this covenant. You are a God who hates divorce and who longs to see marriages restored and healed. We ask You to intervene powerfully in this situation, Lord.
First, we pray for this husband. If he has entertained any relationship—emotional, physical, or spiritual—with his ex-wife or any other woman, we rebuke it in the name of Jesus. Lord, expose every hidden sin and bring conviction to his heart. Let him see the gravity of his actions before You. Break every soul tie, every ungodly bond, and every demonic assignment that has sought to keep him bound to the past. Sever these ties permanently, Lord, by the blood of Jesus. Let no trace of these connections remain in his mind, his emotions, his spirit, or his actions. We command every memory, every lustful thought, every lingering affection to be erased by the power of the Holy Spirit. Let his heart be cleansed and renewed, Lord.
We pray specifically over his mobile phone, his social media, and every point of contact that the enemy has used to keep this connection alive. Lord, we ask You to disrupt and dismantle every ungodly communication. Let Your fire consume anything that is not of You. Replace every image, every message, every temptation with Your truth and Your holiness. Let his eyes be turned fully to You and to his wife, as You intended.
Father, we declare that the relationship between this husband and his ex-wife is **dead** in the name of Jesus. It is finished, severed, and destroyed by the power of the cross. No weapon formed against this marriage shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17). We bind every spirit of adultery, lust, and deception that has sought to destroy this union. Let these spirits be cast out and sent to the feet of Jesus, never to return.
Lord, we pray for this husband’s heart to be turned back to his wife. Soften his heart, Lord, and let him see her as You see her—a precious daughter of the King, worthy of love, honor, and fidelity. Restore his love for her, Lord. Let him desire her alone, as Your Word commands. Remove every distraction, every temptation, and every lie that has sought to pull him away. Let him be a man after Your own heart, pursuing righteousness and faithfulness in his marriage.
We also pray for this wife, Lord. Comfort her in her pain and replace her anguish with Your peace. Guard her heart from bitterness, resentment, or fear. Fill her with Your love and Your strength. Let her trust in You completely, knowing that You are her defender and her provider. Give her wisdom, Lord, to know how to respond to her husband with grace and truth. Let her words and actions be seasoned with Your love, even as she stands firm in Your righteousness.
Lord, we ask for a supernatural restoration of this marriage. Let this husband repent fully of any sin and turn back to You and to his wife with a whole heart. Let this marriage be a testimony of Your redeeming power. Where the enemy has sought to steal, kill, and destroy, let Your restoration bring life, love, and unity.
We declare that this husband will have eyes only for his wife, as Your Word commands. Every lustful thought, every impure desire, every unfaithful action is broken and destroyed in the name of Jesus. Let his mind be renewed by Your Word, and let his heart be fully devoted to You and to his wife.
Finally, Lord, we ask for Your protection over this marriage. Surround them with Your angels and let no weapon of the enemy prevail against them. Let Your will be done in their lives, Lord, and let Your glory be revealed through their story.
We pray all these things in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who has all authority in heaven and on earth. Amen.**
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Sister, we urge you to continue standing in prayer, but also to seek godly counsel and support during this time. If your husband is unwilling to repent, you may need to involve your pastor or a trusted Christian counselor to help navigate this situation biblically. Remember, the Lord sees your tears, and He is near to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18). Trust in Him to fight this battle for you.
We also encourage you to meditate on these Scriptures for strength and hope:
- *"The Lord is my rock, my fortress, and my deliverer; my God, my rock, in whom I take refuge; my shield, and the horn of my salvation, my high tower"* (Psalm 18:2, WEB).
- *"Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight"* (Proverbs 3:5-6, WEB).
- *"Don’t be afraid, for I am with you. Don’t be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you. Yes, I will help you. Yes, I will uphold you with the right hand of my righteousness"* (Isaiah 41:10, WEB).
Stand firm in faith, sister. The Lord is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all we ask or think (Ephesians 3:20). We are praying with you and for you. May the Lord grant you His peace and victory in this battle.