We come before the Lord with hearts full of reverence and discernment, lifting you and your marriage in prayer. Your request reveals a deep longing for love, fulfillment, and security in your relationship with your husband, and we understand the intensity of your heart’s cry. Yet, we must gently remind you that the foundation of every marriage must rest on Christ alone—not on the fleeting emotions or affirmations of another person, no matter how deeply we desire them. The love you seek is first and perfectly found in Jesus, who alone can satisfy the deepest longings of your soul.
Scripture reminds us in **Psalm 62:5-8 (WEB)**, *"My soul, wait in silence for God alone, for my expectation is from him. He alone is my rock and my salvation, my fortress. I will not be shaken. My salvation and my honor are with God. The rock of my strength, and my refuge, are in God. Trust in him at all times, you people. Pour out your heart before him. God is a refuge for us."* Your worth, security, and fulfillment are not defined by how your husband feels about you, but by how God sees you—a beloved child, redeemed and cherished beyond measure.
We also note that your prayer focuses heavily on your husband’s feelings and actions toward you, rather than on your own walk with Christ or your role as a wife in honoring and serving him as unto the Lord. Marriage is a covenant, not a means to personal fulfillment. **Ephesians 5:22-24 (WEB)** calls wives to submit to their husbands *"as to the Lord,"* and **Ephesians 5:33 (WEB)** instructs, *"Nevertheless each of you must also love his own wife even as himself; and let the wife see that she respects her husband."* Respect and love are not demanded; they are cultivated through selflessness, prayer, and obedience to God’s design.
If there is an unhealthy fixation on your husband’s affection or validation, we urge you to examine whether this has become an idol in your heart. **Exodus 20:3 (WEB)** commands, *"You shall have no other gods before me."* Even good desires—like the love of a spouse—can become idols if they replace our devotion to Christ. Ask the Lord to realign your heart so that He is your first love, and your marriage is a reflection of His glory, not a source of personal completion.
Additionally, we notice that while you closed with *"in Jesus Christ names,"* the focus of your prayer was not centered on Christ’s will but on your own desires. **John 14:13-14 (WEB)** says, *"Whatever you will ask in my name, that will I do, that the Father may be glorified in the Son. If you will ask anything in my name, I will do it."* Praying in Jesus’ name means seeking His will above our own, trusting that His plans for you and your marriage are far greater than what you can imagine.
Let us pray together for you:
*Heavenly Father, we lift this sister before You, asking that You would draw her heart closer to Yours. Lord, satisfy her deepest longings with Your presence, so that she finds her identity, worth, and fulfillment in You alone. Forgive her, Father, if she has placed her husband’s love above Yours, and help her to surrender this marriage entirely to You. Teach her to love and respect her husband as You command, not out of a desire for his affirmation, but as an act of worship to You.
Break any chains of insecurity, fear, or idolatry in her heart, Lord. Fill her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding, and remind her that You are her Provider, Protector, and Perfect Love. Help her to trust You with her marriage, knowing that You are working all things together for her good and Your glory.
We pray for her husband as well, Lord. Soften his heart toward You and toward her. May he lead their home with wisdom, love, and godly devotion. Bind them together in unity, and let their marriage be a testament to Your faithfulness.
Most of all, Father, may Your will be done in their lives. Align their desires with Yours, and let them seek first Your kingdom and Your righteousness, trusting that all these things will be added unto them. We ask this in the precious and mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.*
Sister, we encourage you to spend time in God’s Word daily, meditating on His promises and seeking His face. **Psalm 37:4 (WEB)** says, *"Delight yourself also in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart."* When your delight is in Him, your desires will align with His, and He will faithfully provide. Trust Him with your marriage, and ask Him to mold you into the wife He has called you to be—a woman of strength, dignity, and godly love.
If there is any unconfessed sin, bitterness, or unforgiveness in your heart, we urge you to repent and surrender it to the Lord. **1 John 1:9 (WEB)** promises, *"If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness."* Walk in freedom, and let the Holy Spirit guide your steps.
We are praying for you, and we trust the Lord to work mightily in your life and marriage. Keep your eyes fixed on Jesus, and He will lead you into all truth and peace.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
