We come before the Lord with heavy hearts, lifting you up in this time of deep pain and betrayal. The anguish you are experiencing is understood, and we stand with you in the authority of Jesus Christ to pray for restoration, repentance, and the breaking of every ungodly tie. Yet we must also speak truth in love, for God’s Word is clear about the sanctity of marriage and the call to holiness for both spouses.
First, we commend you for invoking the name of Jesus Christ, for there is no other name under heaven by which we must be saved, and it is only through Him that we have access to the Father (Acts 4:12, John 14:6). Your faith in declaring His power over this situation is a testament to your trust in Him, and we join you in that faith.
However, we must gently but firmly address something critical: while it is right to pray against adultery and ungodly bonds, we cannot pray for the destruction of another person’s life or marriage in a way that seeks harm rather than redemption. Scripture tells us that our battle is not against flesh and blood but against spiritual forces of wickedness (Ephesians 6:12). Your husband’s former wife, or any other woman involved, is also a soul for whom Christ died. Our prayers must align with God’s heart—He desires repentance, not ruin (2 Peter 3:9). We pray for the severing of sinful ties, yes, but we also pray for salvation and transformation for all involved.
The pain of infidelity is profound, and the Lord sees your tears. He hates divorce (Malachi 2:16) and calls husbands to love their wives as Christ loved the church—sacrificially and faithfully (Ephesians 5:25). If your husband has strayed, the first prayer must be for his repentance and return to the Lord. A man who is not right with God cannot be right in his marriage. We plead with the Lord to convict his heart, to break him of every sinful desire, and to draw him into a deep, saving relationship with Jesus Christ. Only then can there be true restoration in your marriage.
We also urge you to examine your own heart before the Lord. Bitterness, anger, or an unhealthy focus on "decreeing" outcomes can become a stumbling block. Instead, surrender this situation entirely to God. Trust in His timing and His ways, for His thoughts are higher than ours (Isaiah 55:8-9). Ask the Lord to guard your heart from resentment and to fill you with His peace, which surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:6-7).
If your husband is unsaved or backslidden, your most powerful prayer is for his salvation. A husband who fears the Lord is the greatest blessing a wife can have (Proverbs 31:30). Pray that he would encounter the living God in a way that transforms his heart and mind. Pray that the Holy Spirit would convict him of his sin and lead him to repentance. And pray for yourself—that you would walk in forgiveness, wisdom, and the strength of the Lord, regardless of the outcome.
Here is our prayer for you:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, lifting up our sister who is brokenhearted and wounded by betrayal. Lord, You see her pain, and You promise to be near to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18). We ask that You would surround her with Your comfort and peace, reminding her that she is precious in Your sight.
Father, we pray for her husband. If he has strayed into adultery or rekindled sinful ties, we ask that You would convict his heart deeply. Break every chain of sin that binds him, Lord. Expose every hidden thing and bring it into the light (Ephesians 5:11). If he is not walking with You, Lord, save him! Draw him to Yourself in a way he cannot ignore. Let him encounter Your holiness and mercy, and lead him to repentance. Restore his heart to You first, and then, if it is Your will, restore him to his wife in purity and commitment.
Lord, we pray against every ungodly soul tie and every scheme of the enemy to destroy this marriage. We declare that no weapon formed against this union will prosper (Isaiah 54:17). If there are women involved in this sin, we pray that You would also convict their hearts. Lead them to repentance and turn them away from this destruction. Father, we do not pray for their harm but for their salvation—for You desire that none should perish (2 Peter 3:9).
We ask that You would give our sister the strength to forgive, even as Christ forgave us (Colossians 3:13). Help her to release this burden to You and to trust in Your justice and Your timing. Fill her with Your wisdom, Lord, so she knows how to respond in a way that honors You. If there are steps she needs to take—whether setting boundaries, seeking godly counsel, or confronting sin in love—give her the courage and discernment to do so.
Father, we pray for the restoration of this marriage, if it aligns with Your will. Heal the wounds, rebuild the trust, and renew the love between them. But above all, let Your will be done. If this marriage is to be restored, let it be on the foundation of Christ, with both spouses fully surrendered to You. If not, give our sister the grace to walk forward in Your purpose for her life.
We declare that You, Lord, are the God who redeems and restores. You are the God who turns ashes into beauty (Isaiah 61:3). We trust You with this situation, and we ask for Your perfect will to be done. In the mighty name of Jesus Christ, we pray. Amen.
Finally, we encourage you to seek support from a biblical counselor or a trusted, mature believer who can walk with you through this trial. You do not have to carry this alone. The body of Christ is here to uphold you in prayer and wisdom. Stay rooted in the Word of God, for it is your source of truth and strength. And remember, the Lord is close to the brokenhearted—He has not abandoned you.
Stand firm in faith, sister. The Lord is fighting for you.