We hear the deep anguish and urgency in your heart, and we join you in lifting this heavy burden before the Lord. Your pain is real, and we stand with you in the authority of Jesus Christ to pray for the restoration of your marriage and the breaking of every ungodly tie. The enemy seeks to destroy what God has joined together, but we know that our God is mighty to save, redeem, and restore.
First, we want to gently remind you that while declarations are powerful, they must always be rooted in humility and submission to God’s will, not our own. We do not command God, but we come before Him with reverence, trusting in His perfect timing and wisdom. James 4:7 tells us, *"Be subject therefore to God. But resist the devil, and he will flee from you."* And in 1 Peter 5:6, we are instructed, *"Humble yourselves therefore under the mighty hand of God, that he may exalt you in due time."* Let us approach the Lord with a heart that seeks His will above all else, trusting that He hears us and will act according to His perfect plan.
We also want to address the gravity of what you are facing. Adultery is a grievous sin, and it wounds deeply. Jesus Himself spoke about the sanctity of marriage in Matthew 19:6, saying, *"So they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, don’t let man tear apart."* Yet, even in the face of betrayal, God calls us to forgiveness and reconciliation where there is true repentance. This does not mean ignoring the sin or excusing it, but it does mean being open to the Lord’s work of restoration if your husband turns back to God with a repentant heart. Proverbs 21:1 reminds us, *"The king’s heart is in Yahweh’s hand like the water courses. He turns it wherever he desires."* Your husband’s heart is in the Lord’s hands, and we pray that God would turn it fully back to Him—and to you.
If your husband is engaged in an affair, this is not just a betrayal against you but against God Himself. Hebrews 13:4 declares, *"Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the bed be undefiled: but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers."* We must pray for conviction of sin in his life. The Holy Spirit is faithful to convict of sin, righteousness, and judgment (John 16:8), and we ask the Lord to bring your husband to a place of deep repentance. True repentance involves turning away from sin and seeking forgiveness from both God and those who have been wronged. We pray that if your husband has strayed, he would be broken over his sin and seek restoration with you and with the Lord.
At the same time, we encourage you to examine your own heart. Bitterness, anger, or resentment can take root if we are not careful, and these things can hinder our prayers and our own walk with the Lord. Ephesians 4:31-32 instructs us, *"Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, outcry, and slander be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you."* This does not mean suppressing your pain, but it does mean bringing it to the Lord and asking Him to guard your heart from the snares of unforgiveness. You are justified in your hurt, but we pray that the Lord would fill you with His peace and strength as you navigate this trial.
We also want to remind you of the power of fasting and prayer in spiritual battles. In Matthew 17:21, Jesus tells His disciples that some demons can only be cast out by prayer and fasting. If you are able, consider setting aside time to fast and pray, seeking the Lord’s face with even greater intensity. This is not to manipulate God but to align your heart more closely with His and to demonstrate your dependence on Him.
Now, let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, lifting up our sister and her marriage to You. Lord, You see the pain and betrayal she is enduring, and You know the depths of her heartache. We ask that You would be her Comforter, her Strength, and her Shield in this time of trial. Psalm 34:18 reminds us that *"Yahweh is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit."* Lord, draw near to her now and surround her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding.
Father, we pray for our sister’s husband. If he has strayed into sin, we ask that You would convict him deeply by Your Holy Spirit. Let him feel the weight of his actions and the grief he has caused You and his wife. Bring him to a place of true repentance, Lord, where he turns away from this sin and seeks forgiveness from You and from his wife. Soften his heart, Lord, and break the chains of lust, deceit, and rebellion that may be holding him captive. We pray that You would remove any person or influence that is leading him away from You and from his marriage. Cut off every ungodly soul tie, Lord, and sever every connection that is not of You. Let him find no satisfaction in sin but only in You and in the covenant You have established in his marriage.
We pray against the spirit of adultery, lust, and deception that may be at work in this situation. We bind these spirits in the name of Jesus and command them to flee. We declare that no weapon formed against this marriage shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17), and we ask that You would restore what the locusts have eaten (Joel 2:25). Lord, rebuild the walls of trust and love that have been broken down. Heal the wounds that have been inflicted, and bring reconciliation where there has been division.
Father, we also pray for our sister’s heart. Guard her from bitterness, anger, or despair. Fill her with Your love and Your peace. Give her wisdom to know how to respond in each moment, and grant her the strength to forgive as You have forgiven her. Remind her that vengeance belongs to You (Romans 12:19), and that You are just and righteous in all Your ways. Let her find her hope and identity in You alone, Lord, and not in the actions or choices of her husband.
We ask that You would expose every hidden thing and bring all darkness into the light. If there are secrets, lies, or deceit, we pray that You would reveal them in Your timing and in Your way. Let the truth prevail, Lord, and let Your justice and mercy be displayed. We pray that You would give our sister discernment and clarity as she seeks to honor You in this situation.
Finally, Lord, we ask that You would restore this marriage according to Your will. If it is Your desire for this union to be healed and renewed, we pray that You would do a mighty work in both of their hearts. Let them seek You first, individually and together, and let their marriage be a testament to Your grace and redemption. But above all, Lord, let Your will be done. We trust You, even when we cannot see the way forward. You are the God who redeems, restores, and makes all things new.
We pray all these things in the powerful and holy name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
We encourage you to continue seeking the Lord daily, sister. Spend time in His Word, in prayer, and in the company of other believers who can support and encourage you. If you have not already, consider reaching out to your pastor or a trusted, mature believer who can walk with you through this trial and provide biblical counsel. You do not have to carry this burden alone.
We also urge you to examine your marriage and ask the Lord if there are areas where you can grow or changes you can make to honor Him more fully. This is not to place blame on you—your husband’s choices are his own—but to ensure that you are seeking the Lord with all your heart in every area of your life. Marriage is a covenant, and both parties are called to love, honor, and cherish one another as unto the Lord.
Lastly, we want to remind you of the hope you have in Christ. No matter what happens, your worth and identity are found in Him. He loves you with an everlasting love, and He will never leave you or forsake you (Deuteronomy 31:6). Cling to Him, trust in His promises, and rest in His sovereignty. He is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine (Ephesians 3:20), and we trust Him to work in this situation for His glory and your good.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
