We come before the throne of grace with hearts full of faith, lifting you and your marriage to our Heavenly Father, who hears and answers prayer. Your passion for your husband and your marriage is evident, and we join you in crying out to the Lord for His supernatural work in your lives. Yet we must also gently remind you that our prayers must always be rooted in humility, trust in God’s sovereignty, and alignment with His will—not in demands or repetitive pleas as though God needs convincing. Jesus Himself taught us in Matthew 6:7-8, *"In praying, don’t use vain repetitions, as the Gentiles do; for they think that they will be heard for their much speaking. Therefore don’t be like them, for your Father knows what things you need, before you ask him."*
Your desire for your husband’s heart to be fully devoted to you is understandable, but we must also remember that marriage is a covenant before God, not a means to fulfill our own desires for validation or supremacy. The Bible calls wives to respect and submit to their husbands as unto the Lord (Ephesians 5:22-24, 33), and husbands to love their wives as Christ loved the church—sacrificially and selflessly (Ephesians 5:25-29). True love in marriage is not about competition with others or even with his work or hobbies, but about both of you seeking God first and serving one another in love. As you seek to be a blessing to your husband, remember Proverbs 31:10-12: *"Who can find a worthy woman? For her price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband trusts in her. She does him good and not harm all the days of her life."*
We also notice your urgent pleas for your husband’s soul ties with his ex-wife and other women to be severed. This is a righteous prayer, for God desires marriage to be a holy and exclusive bond. However, we must approach this with wisdom and discernment. If your husband is a believer, then he is called to flee from past entanglements and walk in purity (1 Corinthians 6:18-20). If he is not yet saved, then your role is to live out your faith in such a way that he may be won over *"without a word"* by your godly behavior (1 Peter 3:1-2). You cannot force his repentance or salvation—only the Holy Spirit can convict and draw him to Christ. Your prayers for his salvation are powerful, but they must be paired with patience and trust in God’s timing. Remember, it is *"not the will of your Father who is in heaven that one of these little ones should perish"* (Matthew 18:14), and He is far more invested in your husband’s salvation than even you are.
There is also a deep longing in your prayer for your husband to experience you as the ultimate source of his joy, fulfillment, and satisfaction. While it is beautiful to desire to be a blessing to your spouse, we must caution you against placing an unbiblical burden on yourself or your husband. No human—no matter how loving or godly—can fully satisfy the deepest longings of another’s soul. That place belongs to God alone. Psalm 107:9 reminds us, *"For he satisfies the longing soul. He fills the hungry soul with good."* If you or your husband are looking to each other to fulfill needs that only God can meet, it will lead to disappointment and strain in your marriage. Instead, both of you must seek first the kingdom of God (Matthew 6:33), and He will provide all that you need.
We also sense a spirit of fear in your prayer—fear of losing your husband’s affection, fear of competition, fear of the past. But 2 Timothy 1:7 declares, *"For God didn’t give us a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and self-control."* You must release these fears to the Lord and trust in His faithfulness. Proverbs 3:5-6 says, *"Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight."* Cling to this promise and rest in the knowledge that God is working all things together for your good (Romans 8:28).
Now, let us pray together for you and your marriage:
Heavenly Father, we lift our sister and her marriage to You, asking for Your divine intervention and wisdom. Lord, we thank You that You are a God who hears and answers prayer, and we trust that You are working in ways we cannot see. We ask that You would align the desires of her heart with Your will, that she may seek first Your kingdom and Your righteousness in all things, including her marriage.
Father, we pray for this wife’s heart. Calm her fears and anxieties, and fill her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:6-7). Help her to trust in You completely, knowing that You are the one who holds her marriage in Your hands. Remove any idolatry from her heart—whether it be the idol of her husband’s affection, validation, or control—and help her to find her identity and fulfillment in You alone.
Lord, we pray for her husband. If he does not know You, we ask that You would draw him to Yourself. Softening his heart to the Gospel, that he may repent of his sins and place his faith in Jesus Christ as his Lord and Savior. If he is a believer, we pray that You would strengthen his walk with You, that he may lead his home in godliness and love his wife as Christ loved the church. Break any ungodly soul ties from his past, Lord, and sever every connection that is not of You. Let him be wholly devoted to his wife, just as You have commanded.
We pray for this marriage to be a reflection of Christ and the church—a union marked by love, respect, and selflessness. Help them both to die to selfishness and to serve one another in humility. Teach them to communicate with kindness, to forgive quickly, and to extend grace generously. May their love for one another grow deeper and stronger each day, rooted in Your love for them.
Father, we rebuke any spirit of fear, jealousy, or insecurity that may be at work in this marriage. We declare that no weapon formed against this union shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17), and we ask that You would protect them from the enemy’s schemes. Fill their home with Your peace, Your joy, and Your presence.
Finally, Lord, we ask that You would make this wife a vessel of Your love and grace to her husband. Help her to be a helper suitable for him (Genesis 2:18), encouraging him, supporting him, and pointing him to You. May her life be a testimony of Your goodness, and may her husband see Christ in her.
We pray all these things in the mighty and precious name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who alone is worthy of all praise and glory. Amen.
Our sister, we encourage you to continue praying for your marriage, but do so with a heart surrendered to God’s will. Spend time in His Word daily, asking Him to shape your desires and actions according to His truth. Love your husband well, but remember that your ultimate calling is to love and serve God above all else. If you have not already, we urge you to seek godly counsel—whether through a pastor, a mature believer, or a biblical counselor—who can walk with you and your husband through any challenges you may be facing.
If your husband is unsaved, we implore you to live out your faith with gentleness and respect, trusting that God is at work. If there are areas of sin or brokenness in your marriage, address them with truth and grace, always pointing one another to the cross. And above all, rest in the knowledge that God is faithful, and He is able to do *"exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think"* (Ephesians 3:20). Keep your eyes fixed on Jesus, and trust Him to write the story of your marriage for His glory.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
