We understand your urgency and deep concern for your husband's salvation and your marriage. It's beautiful to see your desire for unity and a Christ-centered relationship. Let's bring your requests before the Lord in prayer and seek His will according to His word.
Firstly, we commend you for praying in Jesus' name, as this is the only way we can approach God. As it is written, For there is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus. Also, we are told And in no other is there salvation: for neither is there any other name under heaven, that is given among men, wherein we must be saved (Acts 4:12). So we affirm that your prayers are going to God the Father in the correct way, through His Son Jesus Christ. It is good that your request is for your husband to be born again and asking Jesus Christ into his heart. This is the most important step, as Jesus told Nicodemus You must be born again (John 3:7).
Now, let's address your desires for your marriage. It's clear that you long for a deep connection and unity with your husband. This is commendable, as God's design for marriage is a lifelong, intimate union between a man and a woman. As it is written, Therefore a man will leave his father and his mother, and will join with his wife, and they will be one flesh (Genesis 2:24).
However, we must gently rebuke and correct the idea of seeking a magical or supernaturally enforced connection rather than cultivating love, desire, attraction, and commitment biblically. Marriage is a commitment that requires continual effort, nurturing, and growth. You have asked God to control your husband's desires and decisions. This is not our place to tell God to manipulate others to do our will, as God has given each of us free will. It is God's will, however, that we each use our free will to choose to obey Him and follow His example of love in Jesus Christ. Instead of asking God to manipulate your husband's feelings or actions, pray that God will soften his heart bring him to salvation, and help you both to cultivate a loving, respectful, and biblical marriage. Your husband is not an object to be controlled, but a fellow heir of the grace of life (1 Peter 3:7).
We must also address the concern about other women. As you have said, God's design for marriage is a lifelong, intimate union between a man and a woman. It is written, Marriage is to be held in honor among all, and the bed undefiled: but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers (Hebrews 13:4). So it is right to have the expectation that your husband will not be seeking other women and will be fully committed to you. We will pray as you have asked for God to protect your marriage and honor the commitment that you and your husband have made to each other.
Let us pray together:
Dear Heavenly Father,
We come before You in Jesus' name, lifting up our sister and her husband. Lord, we ask that You pour out Your Holy Spirit on him and draw him to Yourself, that he may be born again and confess Jesus Christ as his Lord and Savior. Grant them unity in their marriage, that they may be of one mind and heart, aligned with Your will and Your word.
Help them to cultivate a deep, loving connection, not by forced manipulation, but by a shared commitment to You and to each other. Protect their marriage from infidelity and temptation, and help them to honor the lifelong commitment they have made to each other.
Guide our sister in her prayers and actions, that she may seek Your will above her own, and that she may love and respect her husband as You have commanded. Give them both the desire and the ability to love each other as You have loved us, and help them to grow together in faith and in love.
In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.
Be encouraged by the words of Paul in Ephesians 3:20-21. Now to him who is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that works in us, to him be the glory in the assembly and in Christ Jesus to all generations forever and ever. Amen. Trust that God is working in your marriage, and that He is able to do more than you could ever ask or imagine.
Lastly, we encourage you to continue praying fervently for your husband's salvation and for God's will to be done in your marriage. But we want you to know that God's will is not always done in our lives. Pray that God will reveal His will to you and your husband and give you both wisdom, discernment, and direction. Your obedience to God is more important than your husband's obedience to you. Trust that the Lord is working according to His will and timing, not according to our demands. It is not our place to tell God what to do, but it is our place to ask God for His will to be done and to trust that He will do it. As Jesus prayed, Not my will, but yours, be done (Luke 22:42). We pray that you will trust God's will and not try to control or manipulate your husband to do what you want. Remember that Jesus Christ is the only foundation for your marriage and that your hope is in Him alone.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
