We hear your heart’s cry and lift this matter before the Lord with great care, seeking His perfect will in accordance with His Word. First, we must address this request with truth and love, for Scripture is clear that God’s design for love, intimacy, and marriage is sacred and specific.
The Bible teaches that marriage is a covenant between one man and one woman, established by God for His glory and our good. Genesis 2:24 says, *"Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they shall be one flesh."* This union is holy, exclusive, and intended to reflect Christ’s love for the Church (Ephesians 5:22-33). Any relationship outside of this design—whether through premarital intimacy, same-sex unions, or emotional entanglements that do not honor God’s boundaries—falls short of His best for us.
We notice in your request a deep longing for emotional and physical connection with ###, but we must gently yet firmly address the biblical concerns here. The Bible calls same-sex relationships sinful and contrary to God’s created order. Romans 1:26-27 warns, *"For this reason, God gave them up to vile passions. For their women changed the natural function into that which is against nature. Likewise also the men, leaving the natural function of the woman, burned in their lust toward one another, men doing what is inappropriate with men, and receiving in themselves the due penalty of their error."* This is not a matter of opinion but of God’s unchanging truth. To pray for a relationship that God’s Word explicitly forbids is to ask Him to bless what He has declared sinful, and we cannot do so in good conscience.
However, we do not leave you without hope. The same God who defines sin also offers redemption, healing, and transformation through Jesus Christ. If you are struggling with same-sex attraction or emotional dependencies, know that God’s grace is sufficient to lead you into freedom and purity. 1 Corinthians 6:9-11 reminds us, *"Don’t you know that the unrighteous will not inherit God’s Kingdom? Don’t be deceived. Neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor male prostitutes, nor homosexuals, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor slanderers, nor extortionists, will inherit God’s Kingdom. Such were some of you, but you were washed. But you were sanctified. But you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus, and in the Spirit of our God."* You are not defined by your struggles, but by Christ’s work on the cross.
We also urge you to examine your heart regarding the nature of your desires. Are you seeking fulfillment in ###—or in Christ? Are you looking for love in a person—or in the One who first loved you (1 John 4:19)? True satisfaction is found only in Jesus, and any relationship built outside of Him will ultimately leave you empty. Psalm 37:4 says, *"Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart."* When we delight in Him first, He aligns our desires with His will.
If you have not yet surrendered your life fully to Jesus Christ, we implore you to do so today. Salvation is found in no one else, for *"there is salvation in none other, for neither is there any other name under heaven, that is given among men, by which we must be saved!"* (Acts 4:12). Confess your sins, repent, and trust in Jesus as your Lord and Savior. He alone can break the chains of sin and give you a new heart (Ezekiel 36:26).
Let us pray for you now:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this dear one who is crying out for love and connection. Lord, we ask that You would first draw them to Yourself, for You are the source of all true love and fulfillment. Father, Your Word says that if we confess our sins, You are faithful and righteous to forgive us and cleanse us from all unrighteousness (1 John 1:9). We pray that this child of Yours would experience the depth of Your forgiveness and the power of Your transforming grace.
Lord, we ask that You would break any chains of sin or ungodly desire in their life. Set them free from anything that does not align with Your perfect will. Fill them with Your Holy Spirit, that they may walk in purity, holiness, and obedience to Your Word. Father, we pray that You would heal any wounds or emptiness in their heart, replacing lies with Your truth and filling them with Your perfect love.
We ask that You would lead them into godly relationships that honor You—friendships that encourage righteousness, accountability, and growth in Christ. If it is Your will, Lord, we pray for a future spouse who loves You above all else, a helpmate who will walk with them in faith and holiness. But above all, we pray that they would seek You first, trusting that You will provide every good and perfect gift in Your timing (James 1:17).
Father, we rebuke any spirit of confusion, lust, or idolatry that may be at work in their life. We declare that Jesus Christ is Lord over every thought, desire, and relationship. May Your peace guard their heart and mind in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:7).
Lord, we ask that You would save ###, if he does not know You. Draw him to Yourself, open his eyes to the truth of the Gospel, and fill him with Your Spirit. May he come to know You as Savior and Lord, walking in the freedom and righteousness that only You can provide.
We pray all of this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, the name above every name, the only name by which we are saved. Amen.
Beloved, we encourage you to seek godly counsel from a pastor or mature Christian who can walk with you in this journey. Surround yourself with believers who will pray for you, hold you accountable, and point you to Christ. Remember, God’s plans for you are good—plans for hope and a future (Jeremiah 29:11). Trust in Him, and He will direct your steps (Proverbs 3:5-6). You are deeply loved by the Father, and He is faithful to complete the good work He has begun in you (Philippians 1:6).
