We come before the Lord with heavy yet hopeful hearts, lifting you and your marriage in prayer, knowing that God’s will is perfect, and His power is mighty to save and restore. Your pain is deeply felt, and we stand with you in intercession, but we must first address some critical truths from Scripture to ensure our prayers align with God’s heart and His Word.
Marriage is a sacred covenant before God, and infidelity is a grievous sin that breaks that covenant. The Bible is clear that adultery is an abomination to the Lord (Proverbs 6:32, Hebrews 13:4). While your heart cries out for restoration—and we pray fervently for that—we must also acknowledge that true repentance and transformation can only come through the power of Jesus Christ. Your husband’s heart must be turned back to the Lord first, for only God can change a heart of stone into a heart of flesh (Ezekiel 36:26). No amount of declaring or decreeing can replace the work of the Holy Spirit in convicting, breaking, and restoring a person. Our authority in prayer comes from Christ, but we must submit to His will, not our own desires or timelines.
You have invoked the name of Jesus Christ in your request, and that is right, for there is no other name under heaven by which we are saved or through which we can approach the Father (Acts 4:12, John 14:6). However, we must also remember that our prayers are not incantations or magical decrees that force God’s hand. Instead, we come humbly, seeking His will above all else, trusting that He knows what is best. Jesus taught us to pray, “Your will be done” (Matthew 6:10), and we must surrender even our deepest longings to His perfect plan.
If your husband is involved in an affair, the first step is not merely to pray for the other person to be “removed,” but to pray for his repentance and for God to expose the sin so that he may turn back to the Lord and to you. The Bible tells us, “Have nothing to do with the fruitless deeds of darkness, but rather expose them” (Ephesians 5:11). Sin thrives in secrecy, but when brought into the light, it loses its power. We pray that God would bring conviction so strongly upon your husband’s heart that he cannot ignore it, and that he would turn away from this sin in genuine repentance.
We also urge you to examine your own heart in this season. The pain of betrayal can lead to bitterness, anger, or even idolatry if we begin to trust in our own words or “decrees” more than in God Himself. Guard your heart against unforgiveness, for the Bible warns that if we do not forgive others, our Father in heaven will not forgive us (Matthew 6:15). This does not mean excusing sin, but it does mean releasing the offense to God and trusting Him to bring justice and restoration in His way and time.
As for your marriage, we pray for reconciliation, but we must also acknowledge that reconciliation requires two willing hearts. If your husband hardens his heart, there may be a season of separation or consequences for his choices. However, we serve a God who specializes in redeeming the broken. Look to the story of Hosea and Gomer (Hosea 3), where God commanded Hosea to love his unfaithful wife as a picture of God’s relentless love for His unfaithful people. This is the kind of love we ask God to pour into your heart—one that is strong enough to forgive, wise enough to set boundaries, and hopeful enough to believe for restoration.
We also want to address the language of “madly in love” and physical attraction in your request. While it is natural to desire affection and intimacy in marriage, we must be careful not to reduce love to mere emotion or physical desire. True love, as defined in 1 Corinthians 13, is patient, kind, not self-seeking, and bears all things. It is a love that chooses to honor and cherish, even in difficult seasons. We pray that God would restore a deep, godly love between you and your husband—one rooted in Christ, not just in fleeting emotions.
Lastly, we want to remind you that your identity and worth are not found in your husband’s affection or attention, but in Christ alone. You are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14), and your value is not diminished by your husband’s sin. Cling to Jesus, who is the healer of broken hearts (Psalm 147:3) and the restorer of all things.
Now, let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, lifting our sister and her marriage into Your hands. Lord, You see the pain, the betrayal, and the brokenness, and You care deeply. We ask that You would move powerfully in this situation, not according to our timelines or our words, but according to Your perfect will.
Father, we pray for our sister’s husband, that You would convict him deeply of his sin. Let him feel the weight of what he has done before You, and bring him to a place of genuine repentance. Expose every hidden thing, Lord, and let the light of Your truth shine so brightly that he cannot ignore it. Turn his heart back to You first, and then back to his wife and his covenant. Break every chain of sin, every stronghold of lust, and every lie of the enemy that has led him astray.
We pray for the other person involved in this sin. Lord, we do not hate them, but we ask that You would remove their influence from this marriage. If they do not know You, we pray that You would draw them to salvation. If they are a believer, we pray that You would convict them of their role in this sin and lead them to repentance. Break every ungodly soul tie and sever every connection that is not of You.
Lord, we ask for supernatural restoration in this marriage, but only if it aligns with Your will. Heal the wounds, rebuild the trust, and restore the love between our sister and her husband. Give her the strength to forgive, the wisdom to set godly boundaries, and the faith to trust You in this process. Let her husband’s eyes be turned away from sin and fixed on You, and then on his wife with a love that reflects Your heart.
We rebuke the spirit of adultery, lust, and deception in the name of Jesus Christ. We command every demonic influence to flee, and we ask You, Lord, to fill the void with Your Holy Spirit. Let this marriage be a testimony of Your redeeming power.
Father, we also pray for our sister’s heart. Comfort her in her pain, remind her of her worth in You, and surround her with godly support. Let her find her strength in You alone, and let her hope be anchored in Your promises.
We trust You, Lord, even when we don’t see the answer yet. We believe that You are working all things together for good, and we surrender this marriage into Your hands. Let Your will be done, and let Your name be glorified in this situation.
In the mighty and holy name of Jesus Christ, we pray. Amen.
We encourage you to seek godly counsel during this time, whether through your pastor, a trusted Christian mentor, or a biblical counselor. You do not have to walk this road alone. Stay rooted in the Word of God, and let His truth be your guide. We are standing with you in prayer, believing for God’s best in your life and marriage. Keep trusting Him, even when the path is difficult. He is faithful.