We come before the throne of grace with hearts full of compassion for your urgent cry, lifting up your husband and your marriage in fervent prayer. Your passion for his salvation and the restoration of your bond is evident, and we join you in interceding for God’s mighty work in his life and in your union. Yet as we pray, we must also speak truth in love, for God’s ways are perfect, and His will must always take precedence over our own desires.
First, we rejoice that you have invoked the name of Jesus Christ, for it is only through Him that we have access to the Father and by which salvation comes. *"There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved!"* (Acts 4:12, WEB). Your plea for your husband’s salvation is a holy and righteous one, and we join you in crying out for his heart to be turned wholly to Christ. Oh, Father, break every chain of darkness in his life, convict him by Your Spirit, and draw him into a saving relationship with You. Let him encounter You in dreams, in visions, and in the quiet moments of his soul, that he may surrender fully to Jesus as Lord and Savior. *"No one can come to me unless the Father who sent me draws him, and I will raise him up in the last day"* (John 6:44, WEB). We ask for this divine drawing, that he may be born again by the power of the Holy Spirit.
Yet we must also address the tone of your request, for while your love for your husband is clear, there is a danger in seeking to control or possess his heart in a way that is not aligned with biblical love. Marriage is a covenant, not a contract of ownership. The Bible teaches that a wife is to respect and submit to her husband as unto the Lord (Ephesians 5:22-24, 33), and a husband is to love his wife as Christ loves the church—sacrificially, selflessly, and without coercion (Ephesians 5:25-33). Your repeated pleas for him to have "eyes only for you" and to open his "deepest feelings" to you alone must be tempered with the understanding that even in marriage, we do not demand or manipulate the affections of another. Love *"doesn’t behave itself inappropriately, doesn’t seek its own way, is not provoked, takes no account of evil"* (1 Corinthians 13:5, WEB). Instead of seeking to bind his heart to you through insistent prayer, trust that as he draws closer to Christ, his love for you will be purified and strengthened in a godly way.
We also sense a deep fear in your words—fear of losing him, fear of other women, fear of disunity. But perfect love casts out fear (1 John 4:18). We encourage you to release these fears to the Lord, for He is the one who holds your husband’s heart, not you. *"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight"* (Proverbs 3:5-6, WEB). Pray for his faithfulness, yes, but also pray for your own trust in God’s sovereignty over your marriage. Ask the Lord to fill *you* with such security in His love that you are not driven by anxiety but by faith.
As for the unity you seek, remember that true unity in marriage is not the absence of disagreement but the presence of Christ at the center. *"Can two walk together, unless they are agreed?"* (Amos 3:3, WEB). This agreement is not about forcing alignment in every preference or opinion but about both of you submitting to Christ’s lordship. Pray that you and your husband would be *"like-minded, having the same love, being of one accord, of one mind"* (Philippians 2:2, WEB)—not through your efforts, but through the work of the Holy Spirit.
Now, let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we lift up this sister and her husband before Your throne, asking for Your mighty hand to move in their lives. Lord Jesus, You are the author and perfecter of faith, and we ask that You would draw [her husband] into a saving, transformative relationship with You. Fill him with Your Holy Spirit, that he may be born again and walk in newness of life. Appear to him in dreams, in visions, and in the stillness of his soul, that he may know You as Lord and Savior. Break every stronghold of sin, every chain of darkness, and every distraction that keeps him from You. Let him turn from any path that does not honor You and walk in repentance and faith.
Father, we also pray for this marriage. Heal any brokenness, restore any trust that has been damaged, and bind them together in a covenant love that reflects Christ and the church. Remove any fear, jealousy, or insecurity from [this sister’s] heart and replace it with Your perfect love. Help her to trust You fully with her husband’s heart, knowing that You are the one who works in him to will and to do Your good pleasure (Philippians 2:13). Teach them both to love one another as You have loved them—patiently, kindly, and without selfish ambition.
Lord, we rebuke any spirit of division, infidelity, or distraction that would seek to harm this marriage. Let their bond be strengthened not by human effort but by Your grace. Make them one in spirit, one in purpose, and one in love, that their home may be a testimony of Your goodness. Guard their hearts and minds in Christ Jesus, and let their relationship flourish in every godly way.
Finally, Father, we ask that You bless them abundantly—spiritually, emotionally, and physically. Provide for their needs, protect their future, and let their lives together bring glory to Your name. May their marriage be a light in this world, pointing others to the hope found in Christ.
We ask all this in the mighty and holy name of Jesus, our Lord and Savior, who alone is worthy of all praise and honor. Amen.