I pray for you. Please try to not to take too much action against your wife or try to change things right now. I understand your sense of urgency. From my own recent experience, I have perhaps lost all chance of reconciling after I sought to force the woman to change, to open her eyes, etc. I tried to leverage a change. We must work on ourselves. We must improve ourselves. Firstly gor our own wellbeing but also to attract what we want. I am sure you can and will see your son again soon as long as you better yourself and do not make things worse. I pray you will find a new job and work on becoming mentally and emotionally healthy. You will be more ready when there is that opportunity to reunite with your son and possibly your wife. Amen
