Trust
We hear your heart, dear sister, and we stand with you before the Lord, lifting up your fears, your love, and your longing for trust. It is beautiful that you have so much love within you, for love is a gift from God Himself. But we must gently remind you that the love you carry is not meant to be given freely to a boyfriend—it is meant to be reserved for a husband, a godly man who has committed himself to you in the sacred covenant of marriage. The relationship you describe as "boyfriend" must be one of holy courtship, with the clear and biblical goal of marriage to a fellow believer in Christ. Anything less dishonors God’s design for love and opens the door to temptation, fear, and heartache.
The fear you feel in sharing your love is not without reason. Scripture warns us in 1 Corinthians 10:12, "Therefore let him who thinks he stands be careful that he doesn’t fall." When we place our trust and affection in a man before the Lord has sealed that union in marriage, we risk idolatry—placing that person above God in our hearts. Proverbs 3:5-6 tells us, "Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight." Your trust must first be in God, not in a man, not in a relationship, and not in your own feelings. Feelings can deceive, but God’s Word is unchanging and true.
We also must address the reality that if you are engaging in physical intimacy with this man outside of marriage, you are participating in fornication, which is sin in the eyes of God. 1 Corinthians 6:18-20 is clear: "Flee sexual immorality! Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or don’t you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s." If this is part of your struggle, we urge you to repent and seek God’s forgiveness. He is faithful and just to cleanse you from all unrighteousness (1 John 1:9).
Your future is not in the hands of a man—it is in the hands of the Almighty God. Jeremiah 29:11 reminds us, "For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says Yahweh, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you hope and a future." You must surrender your future, your love, and your trust to Him alone. If this man is not your husband, you must guard your heart diligently, as Proverbs 4:23 instructs: "Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it is the wellspring of life." Do not give your heart away prematurely, for it belongs to God first and foremost.
And let us be clear: we come before God only in the name of Jesus Christ, for there is no other name under heaven by which we can be saved (Acts 4:12). It is through His sacrifice on the cross, His resurrection, and His grace that we have access to the Father. If you have not yet surrendered your life to Jesus, we urge you to do so today. Confess your sins, believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, and you will be saved (Romans 10:9). Without Jesus, there is no true trust in God, for He is the way, the truth, and the life (John 14:6).
Now, let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with humble and contrite hearts, lifting up this dear sister who is struggling with trust—trust in her future, trust in her relationship, and most importantly, trust in You. Lord, we ask that You would break the chains of fear in her life. Replace her fear with Your perfect love, which casts out all fear (1 John 4:18). Help her to see that her trust must first be in You, for You alone are faithful and true.
Father, we ask that You would guard her heart. If she is in a relationship that does not honor You, give her the strength to walk away or to bring it under Your lordship. If there has been sexual immorality, we ask for Your forgiveness and cleansing. Wash her clean by the blood of Jesus, and restore her to a place of purity and holiness. Help her to flee temptation and to honor You with her body, which is Your temple.
Lord, we pray for clarity in her future. Show her Your will for her life, and give her the courage to follow it, even when it is difficult. If this man is not the one You have chosen for her, give her the strength to let go. If he is, prepare both of their hearts for a godly marriage that glorifies You. Teach her to love as You love—sacrificially, purely, and with a heart fully surrendered to You.
We also pray for her salvation if she does not yet know You as her Lord and Savior. Draw her to Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith. Let her experience the peace that comes from knowing Him and the assurance of eternal life.
Father, we rebuke the spirit of fear in the name of Jesus. We declare that she is not a slave to fear but a child of God, called according to Your purpose (Romans 8:28). Fill her with Your Holy Spirit, that she may walk in confidence, trust, and obedience to Your Word.
We ask all these things in the mighty and precious name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
Dear sister, we encourage you to spend time in God’s Word daily. Meditate on Scriptures that speak of His faithfulness, such as Psalm 37:3-5: "Trust in Yahweh, and do good. Dwell in the land, and enjoy safe pasture. Also delight yourself in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to Yahweh. Trust also in him, and he will do this." Surround yourself with godly mentors and friends who will hold you accountable and pray for you. If you are not already, become active in a Bible-believing church where you can grow in your faith and be discipled.
Remember, your worth is not found in a man or a relationship—it is found in Christ alone. You are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14), and God has a plan for your life that is greater than you can imagine. Trust Him, wait on Him, and He will direct your steps.
The fear you feel in sharing your love is not without reason. Scripture warns us in 1 Corinthians 10:12, "Therefore let him who thinks he stands be careful that he doesn’t fall." When we place our trust and affection in a man before the Lord has sealed that union in marriage, we risk idolatry—placing that person above God in our hearts. Proverbs 3:5-6 tells us, "Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight." Your trust must first be in God, not in a man, not in a relationship, and not in your own feelings. Feelings can deceive, but God’s Word is unchanging and true.
We also must address the reality that if you are engaging in physical intimacy with this man outside of marriage, you are participating in fornication, which is sin in the eyes of God. 1 Corinthians 6:18-20 is clear: "Flee sexual immorality! Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or don’t you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s." If this is part of your struggle, we urge you to repent and seek God’s forgiveness. He is faithful and just to cleanse you from all unrighteousness (1 John 1:9).
Your future is not in the hands of a man—it is in the hands of the Almighty God. Jeremiah 29:11 reminds us, "For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says Yahweh, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you hope and a future." You must surrender your future, your love, and your trust to Him alone. If this man is not your husband, you must guard your heart diligently, as Proverbs 4:23 instructs: "Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it is the wellspring of life." Do not give your heart away prematurely, for it belongs to God first and foremost.
And let us be clear: we come before God only in the name of Jesus Christ, for there is no other name under heaven by which we can be saved (Acts 4:12). It is through His sacrifice on the cross, His resurrection, and His grace that we have access to the Father. If you have not yet surrendered your life to Jesus, we urge you to do so today. Confess your sins, believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, and you will be saved (Romans 10:9). Without Jesus, there is no true trust in God, for He is the way, the truth, and the life (John 14:6).
Now, let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with humble and contrite hearts, lifting up this dear sister who is struggling with trust—trust in her future, trust in her relationship, and most importantly, trust in You. Lord, we ask that You would break the chains of fear in her life. Replace her fear with Your perfect love, which casts out all fear (1 John 4:18). Help her to see that her trust must first be in You, for You alone are faithful and true.
Father, we ask that You would guard her heart. If she is in a relationship that does not honor You, give her the strength to walk away or to bring it under Your lordship. If there has been sexual immorality, we ask for Your forgiveness and cleansing. Wash her clean by the blood of Jesus, and restore her to a place of purity and holiness. Help her to flee temptation and to honor You with her body, which is Your temple.
Lord, we pray for clarity in her future. Show her Your will for her life, and give her the courage to follow it, even when it is difficult. If this man is not the one You have chosen for her, give her the strength to let go. If he is, prepare both of their hearts for a godly marriage that glorifies You. Teach her to love as You love—sacrificially, purely, and with a heart fully surrendered to You.
We also pray for her salvation if she does not yet know You as her Lord and Savior. Draw her to Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith. Let her experience the peace that comes from knowing Him and the assurance of eternal life.
Father, we rebuke the spirit of fear in the name of Jesus. We declare that she is not a slave to fear but a child of God, called according to Your purpose (Romans 8:28). Fill her with Your Holy Spirit, that she may walk in confidence, trust, and obedience to Your Word.
We ask all these things in the mighty and precious name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
Dear sister, we encourage you to spend time in God’s Word daily. Meditate on Scriptures that speak of His faithfulness, such as Psalm 37:3-5: "Trust in Yahweh, and do good. Dwell in the land, and enjoy safe pasture. Also delight yourself in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to Yahweh. Trust also in him, and he will do this." Surround yourself with godly mentors and friends who will hold you accountable and pray for you. If you are not already, become active in a Bible-believing church where you can grow in your faith and be discipled.
Remember, your worth is not found in a man or a relationship—it is found in Christ alone. You are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14), and God has a plan for your life that is greater than you can imagine. Trust Him, wait on Him, and He will direct your steps.
We're here for you, dear one. It's beautiful to see the love in your heart, but remember, God calls us to guard our hearts until He brings the right person into our lives. Trusting God means trusting His timing, not ours. Let's pray: "Lord, help her to trust in You with all her heart, and not lean on her own understanding. Guide her steps and give her wisdom in her relationships. Help her to see You as her true source of love and security. In Jesus' name, Amen."
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