We hear the deep pain and brokenness in your heart, and we stand with you before the throne of grace, lifting your marriage, your children, and your weary soul to the Lord. The betrayal, neglect, and spiritual warfare you describe are not part of God’s design for marriage, and we grieve with you over the devastation this has brought to your family. The Bible makes it clear that marriage is a sacred covenant, meant to reflect Christ’s love for the Church—a love that is faithful, sacrificial, and holy. Your husband’s actions have violated this covenant in multiple ways, and we must address them with truth and compassion.
First, we rebuke the spirit of adultery and deception that has taken root in your husband’s life. Scripture is unmistakable: *"Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers"* (Hebrews 13:4). His infidelity is not just a personal failing but a sin against God and against you. We also rebuke the wickedness of neglecting his responsibilities as a father. The Lord commands fathers to provide for their families: *"But if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever"* (1 Timothy 5:8). His failure to pay for your children’s education or provide for their basic needs is a direct violation of this command.
The mention of "spiritual wives" and secret societies is deeply alarming. We recognize this as a demonic assignment to defile your family and pervert the sacred bonds God has established. The enemy seeks to destroy marriages and corrupt the innocence of children, but we declare that this will not stand. *"For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places"* (Ephesians 6:12). We bind every evil spirit operating in this situation and command it to flee in the name of Jesus Christ.
Your decision to separate was a step toward protecting yourself and your children, and we want to affirm that there are times when separation is necessary for safety and sanity. However, reconciliation should only occur when there is genuine repentance, accountability, and transformation. Your husband’s temporary pretense of change, followed by a return to sin, is a pattern that must be broken. True repentance is not just words or emotions—it is a complete turning away from sin and a commitment to walk in obedience to God. *"If we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness"* (1 John 1:9). But confession must be accompanied by fruit: *"Bear fruits worthy of repentance"* (Matthew 3:8).
We also want to address your mention of praying with "Nsppd." While we understand your desperation for breakthrough, we must caution you against relying on any ministry, program, or spiritual practice that does not center on the name of Jesus Christ. There is no other name by which we are saved or delivered: *"There is salvation in none other, for neither is there any other name under heaven, that is given among men, by which we must be saved!"* (Acts 4:12). Jesus is the only mediator between God and man, and it is through His blood alone that we have access to the Father. We encourage you to ground your prayers in Scripture and to seek out a Bible-believing church community that can support you with godly counsel and accountability.
Now, let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this precious sister and her children. Lord, You see the pain, the betrayal, and the spiritual warfare they are facing. We ask that You would be their refuge and strength, a very present help in this time of trouble. Father, we plead the blood of Jesus over this marriage and this family. We break every curse, every assignment of the enemy, and every ungodly soul tie that has been formed through adultery, neglect, or witchcraft. We declare that no weapon formed against this family shall prosper, and every tongue that rises against them in judgment, You will condemn (Isaiah 54:17).
Lord, we ask that You would expose every hidden sin and every secret society Your son has aligned himself with. Bring his deeds into the light so that he may see the destruction he is causing. Father, we pray for a spirit of conviction to fall upon him. Soften his heart to repentance and lead him to genuine transformation. If he will not repent, Lord, we ask that You would remove him from this family to protect them from further harm. Give this sister the wisdom to know when to stand and when to walk away, and grant her the strength to do what is necessary for the well-being of her children.
Father, we pray for healing in the hearts of these children. They are carrying anger, bitterness, and confusion that no child should have to bear. Pour out Your Holy Spirit upon them and let them know Your love in a tangible way. Heal their wounds and restore their innocence. Help them to forgive, not for their father’s sake, but for their own freedom. Remind them that You are their true Father, and that You will never leave them nor forsake them.
Lord, we ask that You would provide for this family’s every need. Open doors of opportunity for this sister to build a life of stability and peace. Give her the strength to work with joy and the wisdom to manage her resources well. Surround her with godly counselors, friends, and mentors who can walk with her through this season. Father, we declare that her 24 years of labor will not be in vain. You will restore what the locusts have eaten (Joel 2:25), and she will see the fruit of her hands.
Finally, Lord, we ask that You would fill her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding. Guard her heart and mind in Christ Jesus. Let her know that she is not alone, and that You are fighting for her. Give her the courage to trust You, even when the path ahead is unclear. We pray all of this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, the name above every name, the name by which we are saved and delivered. Amen.
Sister, we want to encourage you with the truth that God sees you. He sees your tears, your labor, and your love for your children. He is not indifferent to your pain, and He will not abandon you. Psalm 34:18-19 says, *"The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves such as have a contrite spirit. Many are the afflictions of the righteous, but the Lord delivers him out of them all."* You are righteous because of Christ, and He will deliver you.
Consider seeking godly counsel from a pastor or Christian counselor who can help you navigate this situation with wisdom. You may need to set firm boundaries or even pursue legal separation if your husband remains unrepentant. Your children’s well-being must come first, and staying in a toxic environment can do more harm than good. Trust that God will guide your steps as you seek Him.
We also encourage you to immerse yourself in Scripture. Meditate on God’s promises and let His Word renew your mind. Here are a few passages to hold onto:
- *"Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths"* (Proverbs 3:5-6).
- *"The Lord is my light and my salvation; whom shall I fear? The Lord is the strength of my life; of whom shall I be afraid?"* (Psalm 27:1).
- *"And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose"* (Romans 8:28).
You are not defined by this pain. God has a purpose for your life, and He will use even this for your good and His glory. Keep pressing into Him, and do not lose hope. The same God who parted the Red Sea is fighting for you. Stand firm, sister, and watch Him move.
