Toxic bosses.

Anonymous

Beloved of All
We have undergone a management change and our new manager is controlling and sneaky. She is stubborn and her ego will not allow her to admit she is wrong and make choices that are best for the workplace. It is her way and nothing else. Many excellent workers have quit due to poor management, and the lack of support, yet the company lets her remain in her position. I fear my physical and mental health are suffering under her authoritarian, vengeful management style and I may not be able to last. I used to love my job - it’s so fulfilling being able to help people every day. It was a safe haven for me, but now, I feel sick and dread going to work. I fear making mistakes because I know no one is safe under this manager. I feel like I have a bullseye on my back. Every chance she gets, she is jabbing. She will not stand up for or help anyone. Several of my current coworkers have suffered career setbacks due to this manager’s decisions. Everyone is afraid to stand up to her because she is retaliatory and for some reason, the higher ups in the company back her up without listening to reason. Her management is affecting people’s pay and home life. Been threatened already with disciplinary actions. One minute she is praising my work ethics and the other she pops with all her negative feeding which is draining and constantly lying about what my peers say about me. I have worked very hard to get to where I am in this career and fear it will all be tossed aside if I cannot outlast this manager. I feel physically ill and anxious all the time. I want to feel safe and at peace again. Help me. I know where 2 Corinthians 13:11 comes in agreement. God will hear. Since October she has been at it. My tears will not stop pouring.
 
We hear your cry for help and stand with you in this difficult season. The workplace should be a place of dignity, respect, and purpose—not fear, manipulation, or oppression. Your pain is real, and your distress is valid. Scripture tells us in Colossians 3:23, *"And whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord, and not for men."* Yet when leadership becomes toxic, it can feel impossible to serve with joy or integrity. We grieve with you over the loss of a job that once brought you fulfillment and the way this manager’s sinful behavior has stolen your peace.

The pride, control, and deceit you describe are not of God. Proverbs 16:18 warns, *"Pride goes before destruction, and a haughty spirit before a fall."* This manager’s refusal to admit fault, her retaliatory nature, and her divisive tactics are rooted in sin—whether she realizes it or not. Her actions are not just unprofessional; they are an abuse of the authority God has allowed her to hold. We must rebuke the spirit of oppression and deception at work in her leadership, for it is not God’s design. *"For where jealousy and selfish ambition are, there is confusion and every evil deed"* (James 3:16).

You are not alone in this. Many have walked this path before you, and the Lord sees every tear, every sleepless night, and every unjust word spoken against you. Psalm 34:18-19 assures us, *"The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit. Many are the afflictions of the righteous, but the Lord delivers him out of them all."* Your fear and anxiety are understandable, but we pray they do not paralyze you. The enemy would love to see you silenced, defeated, or driven from a calling God has placed on your life. But we declare that you are *not* a target—you are a child of the Most High, and no weapon formed against you shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17).

We must also address the toll this is taking on your health. Your body and mind are temples of the Holy Spirit (1 Corinthians 6:19-20), and it is not God’s will for you to be consumed by stress to the point of illness. While we trust God to intervene, we also encourage you to seek wisdom in practical steps. Have you documented the manager’s behavior, especially the threats and lies? Proverbs 22:3 says, *"A prudent man sees danger and takes refuge, but the simple keep going and suffer for it."* If higher leadership is unwilling to listen, are there HR policies, legal protections, or even a trusted mentor outside the company who can offer guidance? Sometimes God uses earthly systems to bring justice.

We also urge you to guard your heart. The constant criticism and gaslighting can make you question your worth and competence. But your value is not defined by this manager’s opinion—it is defined by Christ. *"The Lord does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart"* (1 Samuel 16:7). You are not the problem; the toxic environment is. Do not internalize her lies or let bitterness take root. Instead, cling to the truth: *"The Lord is my light and my salvation—whom shall I fear? The Lord is the stronghold of my life—of whom shall I be afraid?"* (Psalm 27:1).

As for your career, we understand your fear of losing what you’ve worked so hard to build. But remember, God is the author of your story, not this manager. Proverbs 3:5-6 says, *"Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight."* If God has called you to this work, He will sustain you in it—or open a door you cannot yet see. Do not let fear of the unknown keep you in bondage. Sometimes the most faithful step is the one that leads us out of a place where our soul is being crushed.

Let us pray:

Heavenly Father, we come before You on behalf of our sister in Christ who is enduring great hardship under ungodly leadership. Lord, You see every injustice, every tear, and every sleepless night. You know the weight she carries, and we ask that You lift it from her shoulders. Father, we rebuke the spirit of oppression, pride, and deceit at work in her manager’s leadership. We declare that no weapon formed against her shall prosper, and we ask that You expose every lie and every act of manipulation. Bring truth to light, Lord, and let justice prevail.

We pray for protection over her physical and mental health. Strengthen her body, calm her mind, and fill her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding. Remind her daily that her worth is found in You, not in the approval of man. When the enemy whispers lies, let her hear Your voice saying, *"You are Mine, and I am with you."* Give her wisdom to know how to navigate this season—whether that means speaking up, seeking help outside the company, or trusting You for a new opportunity.

Father, we ask that You soften the heart of this manager. If there is any hope for repentance and change, we pray You would break her pride and open her eyes to the harm she is causing. But if she remains hardened, we ask that You remove her from her position of authority or remove our sister from this toxic environment. Provide for her needs, Lord, and let her see Your faithfulness in every detail.

We also pray for her coworkers who are suffering alongside her. Unite them in truth and courage, and let them support one another as they wait on You. Father, restore the joy she once had in her work. Whether that means returning to her job with a new manager or transitioning to something new, make Your path clear. Let her walk in confidence, knowing that You go before her.

Above all, Lord, we ask that You draw her closer to You in this trial. Let this season refine her faith, deepen her trust in You, and remind her that You are her ultimate Provider, Protector, and Peace. We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus, for it is by His blood that we have access to Your throne, and it is through His name that every knee will bow and every tongue confess that He is Lord. Amen.

Hold fast to hope, dear one. This season is not the end of your story. The God who parted the Red Sea, shut the mouths of lions, and raised Jesus from the dead is the same God who walks with you now. You are not forgotten. You are not abandoned. And you are *not* powerless. The same Spirit that raised Christ from the dead lives in you (Romans 8:11), and He will lead you through this valley. Keep your eyes on Jesus, and do not grow weary in doing good (Galatians 6:9). The harvest of righteousness is coming.
 
Dear friend, we're right here with you, feeling your frustration and anxiety. It's so unfair that you have to endure this toxic work environment, especially when you've worked so hard to get where you are. We want you to know that God sees you, He hears your cries, and He's right there with you.

We've been thinking about Ephesians 6:12, "For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms." Your manager might be the face of the problem, but it's the evil spirit behind her actions that we need to stand against.

Let's pray for God to bind that spirit, to expose the truth, and to give you the strength and wisdom to navigate this situation. Let's also pray for your manager, that God would soften her heart and bring conviction. We trust that God is in control and that He will make a way for you, even if it's not the way we expect or hope for.

In the meantime, remember to take care of yourself physically and mentally. You're not alone in this, and we're here for you, praying for you every step of the way. Keep your eyes on Jesus, and trust that He's got this. You're stronger than you think, and braver than you believe.
 
May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy.

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.


🙏Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.

God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so
. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net

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