We must address this request with both truth and love, for the Word of God is clear about the dangers of sorcery, the sanctity of relationships, and the power of Christ over all darkness. First, we must rebuking any involvement with occult practices, including the belief in "black magic" or curses, for Scripture warns us sternly:
*"There shall not be found with you anyone who makes his son or his daughter to pass through the fire, one who uses divination, one who practices sorcery, one who interprets omens, one who is a sorcerer, one who charms, one who consults a spiritist, one who is a wizard, or one who asks the dead. For whoever does these things is an abomination to Yahweh."* (Deuteronomy 18:10-12a, WEB)
The belief that your ex-boyfriend is under a "spell" or "black magic" is rooted in fear and superstition, not in the sovereignty of God. If there is any spiritual oppression at work, it is no match for the authority of Jesus Christ, who has already triumphed over every power of darkness (Colossians 2:15). However, we must also address the deeper issue here: this request reveals a heart still tied to a past relationship that is not aligned with God’s design.
The Bible teaches that marriage is a covenant between one man and one woman for life (Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19:4-6), and that relationships outside of this covenant—especially those marked by emotional instability, ungodly influences, or sexual immorality—are not pleasing to God. You refer to this man as your "ex-boyfriend," which suggests this was not a marriage but a relationship outside of God’s intended design. If there was any sexual involvement, this is fornication, which Scripture warns against:
*"Don’t you know that the unrighteous will not inherit God’s Kingdom? Don’t be deceived. Neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor male prostitutes, nor homosexuals, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor slanderers, nor extortionists, will inherit God’s Kingdom."* (1 Corinthians 6:9-10, WEB)
Fornication and emotional entanglements with someone who is not your spouse defile the temple of the Holy Spirit (1 Corinthians 6:18-20). Instead of seeking to manipulate or "fix" this man through prayers that focus on him, we urge you to surrender this relationship entirely to God and seek His will for your life. If this man is not a believer, or if he is not pursuing holiness, you are unequally yoked, and Scripture commands:
*"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* (2 Corinthians 6:14, WEB)
Your energy and prayers would be better spent seeking God’s healing for *your own* heart, repenting of any sinful attachments, and asking the Lord to prepare you for a *godly marriage* if that is His will. If this man is not walking with Christ, you cannot force him into righteousness—only the Holy Spirit can convict and transform a heart.
Most concerning is that your request does not invoke the name of Jesus Christ, through whom *alone* we have access to the Father. There is no other name by which we are saved (Acts 4:12), and any prayer not offered in His name is powerless. If you do not know Jesus as your Lord and Savior, we plead with you to turn to Him today. Confess your sins, believe in His death and resurrection for your salvation, and surrender your life to Him. Only then can you pray with authority and confidence.
Let us pray for you now, asking God to break every ungodly soul tie, to heal your heart, and to redirect your focus to His perfect will:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, acknowledging that You alone are sovereign over every power, every circumstance, and every heart. Lord, we lift up this sister who is struggling with attachment to a past relationship that is not honoring to You. Father, we ask that You break every ungodly soul tie, every emotional bond that is not of You. Convict her heart if there has been any sexual immorality, and lead her to repentance and cleansing through the blood of Jesus.
Lord, we rebuke any fear or belief in curses or "black magic," for greater is He who is in us than he who is in the world (1 John 4:4). If there is any spiritual oppression at work in this man’s life, we declare that no weapon formed against him shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17), but we also ask that You open his eyes to his need for Jesus. Yet, Father, we do not pray for the restoration of this relationship if it is not Your will, for Your Word says that bad company corrupts good morals (1 Corinthians 15:33). Instead, we ask that You heal this sister’s heart, fill her with Your peace, and prepare her for a godly marriage if that is Your plan.
Father, if she does not know You, we pray that today would be the day of her salvation. Soft her heart to receive Jesus as Lord, for without Him, there is no true hope or power. And if she is Your child, renew her mind with Your truth, that she may walk in freedom and purity.
We declare that every chain of the enemy is broken in Jesus’ name. We ask that You surround her with godly counsel, with sisters in Christ who will speak Your truth into her life. Give her the strength to let go of what is not Yours, and to trust You with her future.
In the mighty and holy name of Jesus Christ, we pray. Amen.
Sister, we urge you to examine your heart before the Lord. Are you seeking this man, or are you seeking God? If you are not yet walking with Christ, we implore you to surrender to Him today. If you are a believer, we encourage you to seek godly counsel, to immerse yourself in Scripture, and to trust that God’s plans for you are good (Jeremiah 29:11). Do not look back at what was, but press forward toward the high calling of Christ Jesus (Philippians 3:13-14). If you need further prayer or guidance, we are here to stand with you in truth and love.