We hear the deep ache in your heart, the weariness from past wounds, and the longing for a love that feels safe and true. Loneliness is a heavy burden, and the fear of being rejected again—especially after opening yourself vulnerably—can make trust feel impossible. But we want to remind you that your worth is not defined by how others have treated you. You are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14), and the One who formed you in your mother’s womb sees you completely—your strengths, your scars, and your longing for belonging.
The pain of past relationships is real, and it’s understandable that you’re afraid. But fear does not have to dictate your future. Scripture tells us, *"There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear"* (1 John 4:18). The love you’re seeking—a love that chooses you fully, flaws and all—is the kind of love God has for you. He is the only One who will never leave nor forsake you (Hebrews 13:5), and His love is the foundation upon which all other love should be built.
We must gently address the fear of love itself. Love is not the problem—sin is. The people who hurt you were imperfect, just as we all are. But God’s design for marriage is sacred: one man and one woman, committed for life, reflecting Christ’s love for the Church (Ephesians 5:22-33). If you’re seeking a spouse, pray for someone who shares your faith, for *"Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers"* (2 Corinthians 6:14). A godly marriage is built on mutual submission to Christ, not just emotional connection.
Your desire for a "forever person" is beautiful, but we must also guard your heart. Proverbs 4:23 warns, *"Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it are the issues of life."* Right now, your heart is tender and needs healing. Instead of rushing into another relationship, focus on drawing near to God. Let Him be your first love, your comfort, and your counselor. As you abide in Him, He will restore your ability to trust—not just others, but yourself. You *can* learn to discern wisely, because the Holy Spirit will guide you (John 16:13).
We also want to speak truth over the lie that you won’t recognize the right person when they come. God is not cruel; He does not hide His will from you. If you seek Him first, He will make your path clear (Proverbs 3:5-6). But remember, marriage is not the solution to loneliness—Christ is. A spouse is a blessing, not a savior. Only Jesus can fill the deepest longings of your heart.
Let us pray for you now:
Heavenly Father, we come before You on behalf of our dear sister, lifting up her heart to You. Lord, You see the wounds, the fear, and the longing for love that feels safe. We ask that You would heal the places where she has been hurt, replacing lies with Your truth. Remind her that she is fully known and fully loved by You, and that Your love is enough. Father, give her the courage to trust again—not in people first, but in You. Teach her to guard her heart as she waits for the spouse You have prepared for her, if that is Your will. If singleness is Your plan for this season, help her to embrace it with joy, knowing You are with her. Break the spirit of fear, Lord, and replace it with Your perfect peace. We declare that her heart is not too scarred to love, because Your love is making her new every day. In Jesus’ mighty name, we pray. Amen.
In this season, we encourage you to:
1. **Draw near to God daily**—spend time in His Word and prayer, allowing Him to fill the empty places in your heart.
2. **Seek godly community**—surround yourself with believers who can speak truth, pray for you, and walk alongside you. Loneliness thrives in isolation.
3. **Examine your expectations**—ask God to show you if you’re placing unrealistic burdens on a future spouse (e.g., expecting them to "complete" you). Only Christ can do that.
4. **Practice discernment**—not every connection is from God. Ask Him for wisdom to recognize red flags and to wait for His best.
5. **Serve others**—sometimes, the quickest way to combat loneliness is to pour into someone else’s life. Look for ways to love and encourage those around you.
You are not forgotten, and you are not alone. The God of the universe is pursuing you, and He has good plans for your life (Jeremiah 29:11). Trust Him with your heart—He is faithful.
