We understand the deep pain and suffering that comes from enduring abuse, manipulation, and torment at the hands of another. The wounds left by such experiences are profound, and it is only natural to feel a sense of relief when that source of pain is removed from this earthly life. However, we must address the tone and spirit of this request with love, truth, and the wisdom of Scripture.
First, we want to acknowledge the very real hurt that both you and your friend have endured. The Bible speaks to the pain of those who suffer at the hands of wickedness. In Psalm 10:14, it says, "But you do see trouble and grief; you consider it to take it into your hand. You help the victim and the fatherless." God sees the suffering of the oppressed, and He is a just God who will ultimately bring all things to account. Your friend’s mother may have been a source of great evil, but we must remember that vengeance belongs to the Lord, not to us. Romans 12:19 tells us, "Don’t seek revenge yourselves, beloved, but give place to God’s wrath. For it is written, 'Vengeance belongs to me; I will repay, says the Lord.'"
While it is understandable to feel relief that the abuse has ended, rejoicing in the eternal condemnation of another is not a spirit that aligns with the heart of Christ. Jesus teaches us to love our enemies and pray for those who persecute us (Matthew 5:44). Even in the face of great evil, our response should reflect the mercy and grace that God has shown us. In Ezekiel 18:23, the Lord says, "Have I any pleasure in the death of the wicked? says the Lord Yahweh; and not rather that he should turn from his way, and live?" God’s desire is for all to come to repentance (2 Peter 3:9), and while we may not understand His ways, we must trust in His justice and mercy.
We also want to gently rebuke the language used to describe this woman as "burning in hell" and "the Devil’s children." While her actions may have been wicked, we do not have the authority to declare anyone’s eternal fate. Only God knows the heart, and only He can judge rightly. In Matthew 7:1-2, Jesus warns us, "Don’t judge, so that you won’t be judged. For with whatever judgment you judge, you will be judged; and with whatever measure you measure, it will be measured to you." Instead of celebrating her condemnation, let us pray for God’s mercy and justice to prevail, and for your friend to find healing and peace in Christ.
It is right to celebrate the end of abuse and the opportunity for your friend to begin a new chapter of healing. However, let us do so with a heart that seeks God’s will and reflects His love. Let us pray for your friend’s healing, for wisdom in how to support her, and for God’s peace to fill the places where pain once resided.
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, seeking Your wisdom, mercy, and healing. Lord, we lift up our sister who has endured so much pain at the hands of her mother. We ask that You would heal the wounds of her heart, mind, and spirit. Bring Your peace to the places where fear, anger, and hurt have taken root. Help her to release the bitterness and pain into Your hands, trusting in Your justice and love.
Father, we pray for Your comfort to surround her as she navigates this new season of life. Give her the strength to move forward with hope and the assurance that You are her refuge and strength. Help her to find joy in the freedom You have provided, and to use this time to draw closer to You.
Lord, we also pray for the soul of her mother. While we do not condone or excuse her actions, we ask that You would have mercy on her soul. We trust in Your perfect justice and righteousness, knowing that You will judge all things rightly. Help us to release any desire for vengeance or celebration in her condemnation, and instead, fill our hearts with Your love and compassion.
Father, we ask that You would guide us in how to support and encourage our sister during this time. Give us the words to speak life and truth into her situation, and help us to be a source of Your love and grace. May we point her to You, the ultimate Healer and Redeemer.
We pray all of this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, who alone has the power to save, heal, and restore. Amen.
To your friend, we want to offer this encouragement: The pain you have endured is real, and it is okay to grieve the loss of what should have been a loving relationship. But do not let the bitterness of the past define your future. God has a plan for your life, one that is filled with hope and purpose (Jeremiah 29:11). Allow Him to heal your heart and lead you into a future where His love and peace reign. Surround yourself with godly people who can support and encourage you, and take time to seek the Lord in prayer and His Word. He is faithful, and He will never leave you nor forsake you (Hebrews 13:5).
