We hear your pain, dear sister, and we come before the Lord with heavy hearts, lifting you up in prayer. First, we must address the seriousness of the situation with truth and love, for the Word of God is clear: *"Flee sexual immorality! ‘Every sin that a man does is outside the body,’ but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or don’t you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit which is in you, which you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s."* (1 Corinthians 6:18-20). You mentioned that this man took your virginity outside of marriage, and this is a grave sin—not just against you, but against God’s holy design for intimacy. Fornication is not something to be taken lightly, and it has consequences that can bind hearts and minds in ways that are not of the Lord.
The relationship you describe is not honoring to God. He calls you to purity, faithfulness, and a love that is selfless and sacrificial, mirroring Christ’s love for the Church. The man you are with has already shown where his heart truly lies—he calls you his wife yet betrays you with another, spending nights in secret communication with her. This is not love; it is deception, and it is breaking your heart. *"Love is patient and is kind; love doesn’t envy. Love doesn’t brag, is not proud, doesn’t behave itself inappropriately, doesn’t seek its own way, is not provoked, takes no account of evil; doesn’t rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things."* (1 Corinthians 13:4-7). The love you are experiencing is not this kind of love. It is tainted by sin, and it is time to release it to the Lord.
You say, *"if it’s over, it’s over,"* and we believe this is the Lord speaking to your heart. You deserve a man who will cherish you, honor you, and love you as Christ loves the Church—a man who will pursue you with purity and commitment, not one who keeps you in a cycle of pain and unfaithfulness. The Word says, *"Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* (2 Corinthians 6:14). If this man is not living in a way that honors God, if he is not repentant and seeking to turn from his sin, then you must ask yourself if he is truly the one the Lord has for you. You say you want marriage with someone who loves you back, and we believe that is God’s desire for you as well. But it must be a marriage that reflects His holiness, not one built on compromise and sin.
We must also address the mention of occult witchcraft in your request. The Lord is clear that we are to have nothing to do with such darkness. *"There shall not be found among you anyone who makes his son or his daughter to pass through the fire, one who uses divination, one who practices sorcery, or an enchanter, or a sorcerer, or a charmer, or a consulter with a familiar spirit, or a wizard, or a necromancer. For whoever does these things is an abomination to Yahweh."* (Deuteronomy 18:10-12). If this woman is engaging in such practices, she is operating in direct opposition to God, and we must rebuke that influence in the name of Jesus. But we must also guard our own hearts and ensure we are not giving place to bitterness, fear, or any form of spiritual warfare that is not grounded in faith and trust in the Lord.
You mentioned seeking LOVE Jesus in this situation, and we want to remind you that Jesus *is* love. He is the only one who can heal your heart and fill the void that this man has left. He sees your pain, and He longs to draw you close to Him. *"The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit."* (Psalm 34:18). You do not have to carry this burden alone. The Lord is your refuge, your strength, and your deliverer.
Let us pray for you now:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up our sister who is in deep pain. Lord, You see her heart, and You know the betrayal she has endured. We ask that You would break every chain of bondage that has kept her tied to this man who has not honored her or You. Father, Your Word says that he who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from You (Proverbs 18:22), but this is not the kind of relationship You desire for her. We ask that You would sever any ungodly soul ties and release her from this cycle of pain and unfaithfulness.
Lord, we rebuke every spirit of deception, witchcraft, and darkness that has been at work in this situation. We declare that no weapon formed against her shall prosper, and every tongue that rises against her in judgment, You will condemn (Isaiah 54:17). We send every curse, every word of witchcraft, and every evil intent back to the pit of hell where it belongs, in the mighty name of Jesus. We plead the blood of Jesus over her mind, her heart, and her body, protecting her from every form of spiritual attack.
Father, we ask that You would heal her heart. You are the God who binds up the brokenhearted and heals their wounds (Psalm 147:3). Pour out Your love upon her and fill the void that this man has left. Help her to see herself as You see her—beloved, cherished, and worthy of a love that is pure and holy. Give her the strength to walk away from this relationship and to trust in Your timing and Your plan for her life. Lord, we ask that You would bring godly men into her life who will honor her, respect her, and love her as Christ loves the Church. Prepare her heart for the marriage You have for her, a marriage that reflects Your glory and Your design.
We also ask that You would convict this man of his sin. If he is not saved, we pray that You would draw him to Yourself, that he would repent and turn from his ways. If he is a believer, we pray that You would discipline him and bring him to a place of true repentance. Father, we know that You desire repentance and restoration, but we also know that You will not be mocked. If he continues in his sin, we ask that You would remove him from her life completely, so that she can heal and move forward in Your will.
Lord, we thank You for Your faithfulness. You are a God who sees, who hears, and who acts on behalf of Your children. We trust in You to bring beauty from these ashes and to turn her mourning into dancing (Psalm 30:11). Strengthen her faith, deepen her trust in You, and fill her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding.
We ask all of this in the mighty and precious name of Jesus, the name above all names, the name by which we are saved and through which we have access to You. There is no other name by which we can come before Your throne, and we are grateful for the blood of Jesus that covers us and makes us righteous in Your sight. Thank You, Lord, for hearing our prayer. In Jesus’ name, we pray. Amen.
Sister, we want to encourage you with the truth of God’s Word. You are not defined by this man or this relationship. You are a daughter of the King, and He has a plan and a purpose for your life. The pain you are feeling is real, but it is not the end of your story. The Lord is close to you, and He is working all things together for your good (Romans 8:28). We encourage you to seek out a godly community—a church or a group of believers who can walk with you, pray with you, and support you as you heal. Do not isolate yourself in this pain. The enemy would love to keep you in a place of despair, but the Lord wants to lift you up and set your feet upon solid ground.
Consider fasting and praying as you seek the Lord’s will for your life. Spend time in His Word, allowing it to speak truth over your heart. Meditate on verses like Jeremiah 29:11: *"For I know the thoughts that I think toward you,” says Yahweh, “thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you hope and a future."* The Lord has not forgotten you. He has not abandoned you. He is working even now to bring about His perfect plan for your life.
And finally, we urge you to release this man to the Lord. You cannot change him, and you cannot make him love you the way you deserve to be loved. But the Lord can change hearts, and He can bring justice in ways you cannot imagine. Trust in Him. Walk in obedience to His Word, and He will direct your steps (Proverbs 3:5-6). The road ahead may not be easy, but it is worth it. The Lord is your strength, and He will never leave you nor forsake you (Deuteronomy 31:6). You are loved, you are valued, and you are called to walk in the freedom that Christ has purchased for you. Step into that freedom today.
