We come before the Lord with you in this time of deep struggle, lifting your burdens to the One who holds all power and authority. It is clear that you are carrying heavy weights—loneliness, joblessness, and the longing for marriage—along with the painful words spoken over you by a pastor. Let us first address the truth that sets us free: there is **no curse** that can stand against the finished work of Jesus Christ on the cross. As Galatians 3:13 declares, *"Christ redeemed us from the curse of the law, having become a curse for us. For it is written, 'Cursed is everyone who hangs on a tree.'"* Any word spoken against you—whether by man or circumstance—must bow to the name of Jesus, for He has already triumphed over every curse, every scheme of the enemy, and every condemnation.
Your cry for marriage and employment is heard by a Father who cares deeply for you. Yet we must gently but firmly remind you that marriage is a sacred covenant ordained by God, not a right or an entitlement. The longing for a spouse is natural, but it must be surrendered to God’s timing and will. Proverbs 18:22 tells us, *"Whoever finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor of Yahweh."* However, we must also remember that singleness is not a curse but an opportunity to serve the Lord undivided (1 Corinthians 7:32-35). If marriage is God’s will for you, He will bring it to pass in His perfect time—as you seek Him first (Matthew 6:33). But we urge you to guard your heart against despair or the belief that your worth is tied to marital status. Your identity is in Christ alone.
As for employment, we understand the frustration of government policies and economic hardships, but we must trust that God is our Provider. Philippians 4:19 assures us, *"My God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus."* While you wait, we encourage you to seek wisdom in how to steward this season—whether through skill-building, networking, or serving in ways that honor God. Laziness is not an option for the believer (2 Thessalonians 3:10), but neither is anxiety. Cast your cares upon the Lord, for He sustains you (Psalm 55:22).
Now, we must address the words spoken over you by this pastor. If these words were spoken in a spirit of condemnation rather than godly correction, they do not align with the heart of Christ. Romans 8:1 declares, *"There is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus."* No true man of God would pronounce eternal judgment upon a repentant heart, for it is God alone who judges (James 4:12). If there is unrepentant sin in your life, the call to repentance is biblical (Acts 3:19), but threats of hellfire without the hope of the Gospel are not of the Lord. We strongly encourage you to examine your heart before God—are there areas where you need to repent? If so, do so now, for His mercy is abundant (1 John 1:9). But if these words were spoken in anger or legalism, we rebuke them in the name of Jesus, for *"the weapons of our warfare are not of the flesh, but mighty before God to the throwing down of strongholds"* (2 Corinthians 10:4).
Lastly, we notice that while you invoked the name of Jesus in your request, there is a sense of desperation that risks placing more faith in the *breaking of curses* than in the **Person of Christ Himself**. Salvation, provision, and deliverance come not by formulas or repeated phrases, but by abiding in Jesus (John 15:5). If you have not yet surrendered your life fully to Him—believing that He died for your sins, rose again, and now reigns as Lord—we urge you to do so today. *"If you will confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved"* (Romans 10:9). There is no other name by which we are saved (Acts 4:12), and it is only through Him that we have access to the Father (John 14:6).
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**Let us pray:**
Heavenly Father, we come before You on behalf of Your child, who is weary from the weight of loneliness, joblessness, and the longing for marriage. Lord, we ask that You break every chain of despair and replace it with the hope that is found in You alone. You are the God who sees (Genesis 16:13), and You have not forgotten this one.
We speak life into their circumstances—open doors of employment that no man can shut (Revelation 3:8). Give them favor in the eyes of those who make hiring decisions, and provide wisdom to navigate this season. If there has been any laziness or lack of diligence, convict and correct it, but if this delay is simply Your refining work, grant them patience and trust in Your timing.
Father, regarding marriage, we ask that You prepare them to be a godly spouse—rooted in Your Word, full of faith, and walking in purity. If it is Your will, bring a godly Christian spouse into their life, one who will cherish and lead (for a man) or submit and respect (for a woman) in a way that honors You (Ephesians 5:22-33). But Lord, if singleness is Your plan for now or for a season, grant them contentment and purpose in serving You wholeheartedly.
We come against every word of condemnation spoken over this life. If it was not of You, Lord, we break its power in the name of Jesus. No weapon formed against them shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17). Fill them with the assurance of Your love and the truth that *"there is no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus."* If there is genuine sin that needs repentance, bring conviction—not to shame, but to restore. Let them walk in the freedom of Your forgiveness.
Most of all, Father, draw them deeper into relationship with You. Let them know that You are enough—even in waiting, even in lack, even in loneliness. Fill them with Your peace that surpasses understanding (Philippians 4:7), and let them rest in the truth that You are working all things for their good (Romans 8:28).
We pray these things in the mighty and matchless name of **Jesus Christ**, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
