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mShaf2012
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My father has anger problems and is constantly yelling over things that don't even matter. My sister and I have grown up with this verbal abuse. We both go to a therapist because he causes much of my stress and anxiety. He hates that we go to therapy, he refuses to ever join us (he is always welcome) and says that it is a waste of time and money (the copay is only $5 per visit). Every time I talk to him he ends up asking me why I always want to argue with him. He gets loud and says hurtful things. I never want to argue with him, and usually I don't but he always accuses me even when I ask him something simple. He thinks I waste his time, and manipulate people because I am greedy and lazy. This makes me feel that I am not good enough. I often end up crying because of his yelling. Especially when he compares things he did at my age to what I do. He had a job, average grades, cleaned the house, swam, was in 4H, and still had time to have fun. I do not have a job, and he always gets on my case. I just wish that he would understand how hard I am trying all around. Last year we discovered that I have ADD and now I am on medicine to help me focus. I was previously a straight A student, and just because I greatly struggled last year, doesn't mean that I'm not doing well this year, because I am. I have stayed in top of all my grades so far. His unreasonable, and bias attitude is something I don't want to be around. I know he has low self-esteem, depression, anxiety, ADHD, and many other issues, but that is no excuse for him to treat his two daughters and wife like this. It has been going on for far too long. When we try and tell him to be happy he just yells more. He is the most angry person I know. Besides all of his anger, my dad CAN be nice to talk to sometimes. He is very talented with photography, but his company does not give him nearly as many assignments as he used to get. My mom is making the majority of our income, and we all agree (except him) that he has the time for, and should get a second job. Or even do something more with his skill of photography. We barely have enough money to pay for everything we need. This idea has only been brought up a few times because he always gets angry and yells when we 'tell him what to do'. My mom works so hard to keep our family together and happy. She makes appointments, works 5-6 days a week, even at home she is always working, tries to keep the house clean, and make sure my sister and I get everywhere we need to be. We are very helpful too. I would never take advantage of my mom. My sister and I often clean bathrooms, do laundry, vacuum, wash litterboxes, and clean the kitchen. My dad would never do almost any of those things. He is convinced that cutting the grass once a week is 'equal' to all that we do. I don't know what else to say but please pray for him. Thank you.
