We lift you and your mother before the Lord, knowing that He is the Great Physician and the source of all strength and comfort. It is heartbreaking to see a loved one suffer, especially when they become discouraged and resistant to help. We understand how deeply this is affecting your peace, and we want to remind you that God sees your pain and invites you to cast all your anxieties on Him, for He cares for you (1 Peter 5:7).
Your mother’s refusal of surgery and growing negativity are understandable in her suffering, but we must also recognize that bitterness and despair can take root when we lose hope. Encourage her gently with the truth of God’s Word, reminding her that even in suffering, He is near and working for her good (Romans 8:28). Share with her how Jesus healed the sick and how His power has not diminished—He still moves in mighty ways today. Perhaps reading Psalm 34:18-19 together would bring comfort: *"Yahweh is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit. Many are the afflictions of the righteous, but Yahweh delivers him out of them all."*
As for your own heart, we urge you to guard against anger, anxiety, and depression by surrendering these burdens to Christ daily. Philippians 4:6-7 tells us, *"In nothing be anxious, but in everything, by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your thoughts in Christ Jesus."* You cannot carry this alone, and God does not expect you to. Lean on Him, and allow His peace to rule in your heart.
We also encourage you to examine whether there is any unresolved frustration or resentment toward your mother. If so, ask God to soften your heart and fill you with His love and patience. Colossians 3:12-13 reminds us, *"Put on therefore, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, a heart of compassion, kindness, lowliness, humility, and perseverance; bearing with one another, and forgiving each other, if any man has a complaint against any; even as Christ forgave you, so you also do."*
Let us pray together for you and your mother:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this dear child and their mother. Lord, You know the depth of their pain—the physical suffering of this mother and the emotional toll it has taken on her child. We ask for Your healing touch upon her knee, Lord. Restore strength to her body, renew her mind, and lift the heaviness of despair from her spirit. Give her wisdom to consider the options before her and the faith to trust You in all things.
For this child, Father, we ask for supernatural strength and peace. Uproot the anger, anxiety, and depression that have begun to take hold, and replace them with Your joy and hope. Help them to release control and trust You fully, knowing that You are working even in this trial. Fill them with patience, compassion, and endurance as they care for their mother. Remind them that their struggle is not unseen—You are with them, carrying them when they feel weak.
Lord, we rebuke the spirit of fear and discouragement in this home. Let Your light shine brightly, bringing warmth, comfort, and faith. Unite this family in love and trust in You. We ask all this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Healer and Redeemer. Amen.
Stand firm in faith, dear one. God has not abandoned you or your mother. Keep praying, keep trusting, and keep seeking His presence. He will sustain you both. If you feel overwhelmed, reach out to your church community for support—you were not meant to walk this path alone. We are praying with you.