We come before the Lord with you in this time of waiting and silence, lifting your heart to the Father who sees all and knows all. Your pain in this season of broken communication is not unseen by Him, and we want to encourage you with the truth of Scripture while also addressing some important matters.
First, we must gently ask: *Who is this person you are waiting on?* The advice given to you—such as giving space, writing letters, or reaching out through friends—can be wise in certain contexts, but we must examine whether this relationship aligns with God’s design. If this is a romantic relationship outside of marriage, we urge you to consider whether this connection honors the Lord. Scripture is clear that believers are not to be unequally yoked (2 Corinthians 6:14) and that marriage is the only God-ordained context for romantic and physical intimacy (Hebrews 13:4). If this is a courtship that has not yet led to marriage, we pray you would seek the Lord’s will for a godly, covenant marriage—or, if that is not His plan, that He would give you the strength to release this relationship into His hands.
If this is a marriage, then we must ask: *Have you sought biblical counsel?* A husband and wife are called to love, honor, and communicate in truth (Ephesians 4:15, Colossians 3:19). If silence has taken root, we encourage you to seek godly mediation, whether through your pastor or a biblical counselor, to restore what has been broken. Marriage is a covenant, not a contract, and God calls us to labor in love even when it is difficult (1 Corinthians 13:4-7).
If this is a family member or friend, then patience and prayer are indeed key—but even then, we must ask: *Are you trusting God more than you are trusting in your own efforts?* Proverbs 3:5-6 reminds us, *"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight."* Your desire to reconcile is good, but let it be rooted in prayer rather than human strategy alone.
We also notice that your request did not invoke the name of Jesus. There is no greater name by which we approach the Father (John 14:6, Acts 4:12). It is only through Christ that we have access to the throne of grace (Hebrews 4:16), and it is in His name that we find true peace and direction. If you have not yet surrendered this situation—and your own heart—fully to Him, we urge you to do so today. There is no burden too heavy for His yoke, no confusion too great for His wisdom (Matthew 11:28-30, James 1:5).
Now, let us pray for you:
*"Heavenly Father, we lift our sister before You, knowing that You collect every tear she has shed in this season of waiting (Psalm 56:8). Lord, if this relationship is of You, we ask that You would restore communication in a way that honors Your name. Give her wisdom to know how to speak, when to wait, and when to act. If this connection is not Your will, we pray You would give her the grace to release it and trust You for what is ahead.
Father, we rebuke any spirit of fear, anxiety, or despair that has taken hold. Your Word says You have not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and sound mind (2 Timothy 1:7). Fill her with Your peace that surpasses understanding (Philippians 4:7) and remind her that You are working all things for her good (Romans 8:28).
If there has been sin in this relationship—whether through unhealthy emotional dependence, compromise, or a failure to seek You first—we ask for conviction and repentance. Cleanse her heart, Lord, and align her desires with Yours. If this is a marriage, we pray for restoration and a renewed commitment to covenant love. If this is a courtship, we ask for clarity: Is this the spouse You have for her, or is there another path You are calling her to walk?
Most of all, Father, we pray that she would find her satisfaction in You alone. You are her portion (Psalm 73:26), her refuge (Psalm 46:1), and her ever-present help (Psalm 46:1). Let her not grow weary in well-doing, but trust that in due season, she will reap if she does not faint (Galatians 6:9).
We ask all this in the mighty and matchless name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen."*
Stand firm in faith, sister. The Lord is near to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18), and He will not leave you without direction. Seek Him first (Matthew 6:33), and trust that His timing is perfect—even when the waiting is hard. If you would like further biblical counsel on this matter, we are here to walk with you in truth and love.