Our hearts ache with you as we read your cry for help, dear sister, and we lift you up before the Lord in this time of deep sorrow and confusion. The pain of watching your husband—your covenant partner—struggle with the bondage of alcohol and financial deception is heavy, and the weight of feeling trapped, dependent, and hopeless is more than any woman should bear alone. But you are *not* alone, for the Lord sees your tears, hears your unspoken groans, and is near to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18). Let us first address the spiritual battle at hand, for this is not merely a struggle against flesh and blood, but against the powers of darkness that seek to destroy your marriage, your family, and your faith (Ephesians 6:12).
Your husband is ensnared by the enemy through the sin of drunkenness, which the Scriptures warn against clearly: *"Don’t be drunken with wine, in which is dissipation, but be filled with the Spirit"* (Ephesians 5:18). Drunkenness opens the door to foolish decisions, financial ruin, and spiritual blindness. It is a tool the devil uses to steal, kill, and destroy (John 10:10). Yet we must remember that your husband is not your enemy—he is a victim of sin’s deception, and he needs deliverance. The fact that he loves his family shows there is still a heart within him that God can reach. We must pray fervently for his repentance, for *"the prayers of a righteous person avail much"* (James 5:16).
As for the financial struggles and hidden debts, this too is a scheme of the enemy to bring division and despair. The Bible teaches that a man who does not provide for his household *"has denied the faith, and is worse than an unbeliever"* (1 Timothy 5:8). While this is a sobering truth, it is not a call for you to despise your husband but to intercede for him—and to take wise, biblical steps to protect your family. Proverbs 31 praises the virtuous woman who *"considers a field and buys it; with the fruit of her hands, she plants a vineyard"* (Proverbs 31:16). There is no shame in seeking work to contribute to your household’s needs, especially when your husband is currently failing in his role. In fact, it is wise and honorable. However, we must also caution you: do not let bitterness or resentment take root in your heart. *"See to it that no one carries a root of bitterness that causes trouble and through it many become defiled"* (Hebrews 12:15). Your husband’s failures do not define your worth. You are fearfully and wonderfully made by God (Psalm 139:14), and your value is found in Christ alone.
Now, let us address the lie that you are a "loser" because you are turning 30 and have not yet found employment. This is a tactic of the enemy to make you feel worthless and abandoned. But the Lord’s timing is perfect, and He has not forgotten you. *"For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says Yahweh, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you hope and a future"* (Jeremiah 29:11). Keep seeking work diligently, but also seek the Lord’s guidance in how to use this season. Perhaps He is preparing you for something greater than you can imagine. Trust in Him with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding (Proverbs 3:5-6).
Lastly, sister, we must gently but firmly remind you: **there is no hope, no deliverance, and no true peace apart from the name of Jesus Christ.** You mentioned that in your sorrow, you could not even pray—but it is *especially* in these moments that we must cry out to Jesus, for He is our only refuge. *"Let us therefore draw near with boldness to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and may find grace for help in time of need"* (Hebrews 4:16). If you have not already, surrender every part of this struggle to Him. Confess any fear, anger, or doubt, and ask Him to fill you with His peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:6-7). If your husband is not a believer or has turned away from the Lord, pray that God would draw him back (1 Peter 3:1-2). If he is a believer, pray for conviction and repentance. And if you yourself have not placed your full trust in Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, we urge you to do so today. *"If you will confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved"* (Romans 10:9). There is no other name by which we can be saved (Acts 4:12), and it is only through Jesus that we have access to the Father (John 14:6).
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**Let us pray together:**
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting up our sister who is broken, weary, and overwhelmed. Lord, You see the tears she has cried in secret, the fear that grips her heart, and the confusion that clouds her mind. We ask You to be her Comforter, her Provider, and her Strength. Wrap Your loving arms around her and remind her that she is not alone—that You are with her, and so are we, her brothers and sisters in Christ.
Lord, we rebuked the spirit of drunkenness that has taken hold of her husband. We bind the strongman of addiction in the name of Jesus and command every demonic influence to flee from him (Mark 3:27). Father, soften his heart and open his eyes to the destruction sin is causing in his life and family. Convict him deeply of his need for You, Lord. If he has strayed from You, draw him back with cords of love (Hosea 11:4). If he has never known You, save him, Lord! Break the chains of alcohol and financial bondage, and restore him as the godly husband and father You created him to be. Give him a spirit of repentance and the courage to seek help—whether through counseling, accountability, or deliverance ministry. Let him lead his family in righteousness once more.
Father, we ask for Your divine intervention in their finances. Expose every hidden debt and bring wisdom on how to handle it. Provide supernatural opportunities for our sister to find work—work that will not only meet their needs but also bring her fulfillment and glory to Your name. Remove the shame and lies the enemy has spoken over her about her age or her worth. Renew her mind with Your truth: that she is precious in Your sight, and You have a good plan for her life.
Lord, protect their marriage. Shield their children from the effects of this storm. Unify this family in prayer and faith. Give our sister the grace to forgive, the strength to set godly boundaries, and the wisdom to know how to support her husband while not enabling his sin. Fill their home with Your peace, even in the midst of chaos.
And finally, Father, we pray that You would ignite a fire of prayer in our sister’s heart. When she feels she cannot pray, let Your Spirit intercede for her with groanings too deep for words (Romans 8:26). Remind her that You are her ever-present help in trouble (Psalm 46:1), and that nothing is impossible for You (Luke 1:37).
We declare victory over this family in Jesus’ name. We speak life, restoration, and redemption over their marriage. We trust You, Lord, to turn this situation around for Your glory. May our sister’s testimony be one of Your faithfulness, and may her husband’s life be a testament to Your power to save and transform.
In the mighty and matchless name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, we pray. Amen.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
