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Our hearts ache deeply for you and your husband during this season of profound grief and struggle. Losing parents is a pain that cuts to the soul, and it is clear that your husband is drowning his sorrow in ways that are destroying him—and now threatening the very foundation of your marriage and family. Yet we must also acknowledge the weariness in your words, the exhaustion of forgiving again and again while seeing no change. You are carrying a burden no one should bear alone, and we want you to know: God sees you. He sees your husband. He sees your children. And He is not distant in this storm—He is calling both of you to Himself, the only true source of comfort and transformation.
The Scripture warns us in Proverbs 20:1, *"Wine is a mocker, and beer is a brawler. Whoever is led astray by them is not wise."* Your husband’s drinking is not just a coping mechanism; it is a snare of the enemy, a temporary numbing that deepens the wound rather than heals it. Ephesians 5:18 commands, *"Don’t be drunk with wine, in which is dissipation, but be filled with the Spirit."* His pain is real, but his response is leading him—and by extension, your family—into bondage. This is not the life God intends for him. The Lord desires to *restore* what has been broken, but that restoration begins with repentance. Your husband must turn from this sin and surrender his grief to Christ, who alone can bear it (Matthew 11:28).
To you, dear sister, we say this with both gentleness and urgency: Your role is not to be his savior. You cannot forgive him into sobriety, nor can you love him into holiness—that is the work of the Holy Spirit. Your calling is to pray, to set boundaries for the protection of your children and your own soul, and to point your husband to Jesus. You have shown remarkable grace, but grace without truth is not biblical love. 1 Corinthians 13:6 tells us love *"does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth."* Sometimes, the most loving thing you can do is to refuse to enable destruction. This may mean hard conversations, interventions, or even—if he remains unrepentant—seeking godly counsel on separation for the sake of safety and sanctity (1 Corinthians 7:10-11). But even in this, your posture must be one of hope, not despair, for *"with God, all things are possible"* (Matthew 19:26).
To your children, be a refuge. Shield them from the chaos as much as you can, and teach them to trust in a Father who will never leave them (Deuteronomy 31:6). Their little hearts are watching how you navigate this storm—let them see you clinging to Jesus, not to bitterness or fear.
Now, let us pray together for you, your husband, and your family:
Heavenly Father, we lift this precious sister to You, asking that You would be her strength when she is weak, her peace when she is anxious, and her wisdom when she is uncertain. Lord, she has borne so much, and we ask that You would surround her with Your angels, with godly friends, and with Your tangible presence. Remind her that she is not abandoned—You are her Husband, her Provider, her Defender (Isaiah 54:5).
We come against the spirit of addiction and despair that has taken hold of her husband. Satan, we rebuke you in the name of Jesus—you have no claim on this man or this family. Father, break the chains of alcohol that bind him. Let him taste the bitterness of his sin and the emptiness of his coping, and drive him to his knees before You. Soften his heart to receive the conviction of the Holy Spirit. Bring godly men into his life who will speak truth to him, who will walk with him through this valley. Let him encounter You, Lord, in a way he cannot ignore—whether through a dream, a word, or a moment of broken surrender. Restore to him the joy of Your salvation (Psalm 51:12), and give him a hunger for Your Word over the temporary relief of drink.
For this marriage, Lord, we ask for a miracle. Where there is brokenness, bring healing. Where there is distance, bring reconciliation. Where there is sin, bring repentance. But Father, we also ask for discernment. Show this wife when to stand firm, when to speak, and when to act. Protect her from enabling sin in the name of love. Give her the courage to do the hard but righteous thing, even if it means temporary separation for the sake of redemption. Let her children see Your faithfulness in the midst of this trial.
We declare that this family belongs to You, Jesus. You are the God who redeems, who restores, who turns mourning into dancing (Psalm 30:11). We trust You with this marriage, with these children, with these broken hearts. Do what only You can do.
In the mighty and matchless name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, we pray. Amen.
Finally, sister, we urge you: Do not walk this path alone. Seek out a biblical counselor or a pastor who can guide you in wisdom. Connect with a support group for spouses of those struggling with addiction. And above all, keep your eyes fixed on Jesus, the author and finisher of your faith (Hebrews 12:2). He is your hope—and your husband’s only hope. Stand in the gap, but do not stand in the way of the Holy Spirit’s conviction. Trust God to do what you cannot. We are praying with you.
The Scripture warns us in Proverbs 20:1, *"Wine is a mocker, and beer is a brawler. Whoever is led astray by them is not wise."* Your husband’s drinking is not just a coping mechanism; it is a snare of the enemy, a temporary numbing that deepens the wound rather than heals it. Ephesians 5:18 commands, *"Don’t be drunk with wine, in which is dissipation, but be filled with the Spirit."* His pain is real, but his response is leading him—and by extension, your family—into bondage. This is not the life God intends for him. The Lord desires to *restore* what has been broken, but that restoration begins with repentance. Your husband must turn from this sin and surrender his grief to Christ, who alone can bear it (Matthew 11:28).
To you, dear sister, we say this with both gentleness and urgency: Your role is not to be his savior. You cannot forgive him into sobriety, nor can you love him into holiness—that is the work of the Holy Spirit. Your calling is to pray, to set boundaries for the protection of your children and your own soul, and to point your husband to Jesus. You have shown remarkable grace, but grace without truth is not biblical love. 1 Corinthians 13:6 tells us love *"does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth."* Sometimes, the most loving thing you can do is to refuse to enable destruction. This may mean hard conversations, interventions, or even—if he remains unrepentant—seeking godly counsel on separation for the sake of safety and sanctity (1 Corinthians 7:10-11). But even in this, your posture must be one of hope, not despair, for *"with God, all things are possible"* (Matthew 19:26).
To your children, be a refuge. Shield them from the chaos as much as you can, and teach them to trust in a Father who will never leave them (Deuteronomy 31:6). Their little hearts are watching how you navigate this storm—let them see you clinging to Jesus, not to bitterness or fear.
Now, let us pray together for you, your husband, and your family:
Heavenly Father, we lift this precious sister to You, asking that You would be her strength when she is weak, her peace when she is anxious, and her wisdom when she is uncertain. Lord, she has borne so much, and we ask that You would surround her with Your angels, with godly friends, and with Your tangible presence. Remind her that she is not abandoned—You are her Husband, her Provider, her Defender (Isaiah 54:5).
We come against the spirit of addiction and despair that has taken hold of her husband. Satan, we rebuke you in the name of Jesus—you have no claim on this man or this family. Father, break the chains of alcohol that bind him. Let him taste the bitterness of his sin and the emptiness of his coping, and drive him to his knees before You. Soften his heart to receive the conviction of the Holy Spirit. Bring godly men into his life who will speak truth to him, who will walk with him through this valley. Let him encounter You, Lord, in a way he cannot ignore—whether through a dream, a word, or a moment of broken surrender. Restore to him the joy of Your salvation (Psalm 51:12), and give him a hunger for Your Word over the temporary relief of drink.
For this marriage, Lord, we ask for a miracle. Where there is brokenness, bring healing. Where there is distance, bring reconciliation. Where there is sin, bring repentance. But Father, we also ask for discernment. Show this wife when to stand firm, when to speak, and when to act. Protect her from enabling sin in the name of love. Give her the courage to do the hard but righteous thing, even if it means temporary separation for the sake of redemption. Let her children see Your faithfulness in the midst of this trial.
We declare that this family belongs to You, Jesus. You are the God who redeems, who restores, who turns mourning into dancing (Psalm 30:11). We trust You with this marriage, with these children, with these broken hearts. Do what only You can do.
In the mighty and matchless name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, we pray. Amen.
Finally, sister, we urge you: Do not walk this path alone. Seek out a biblical counselor or a pastor who can guide you in wisdom. Connect with a support group for spouses of those struggling with addiction. And above all, keep your eyes fixed on Jesus, the author and finisher of your faith (Hebrews 12:2). He is your hope—and your husband’s only hope. Stand in the gap, but do not stand in the way of the Holy Spirit’s conviction. Trust God to do what you cannot. We are praying with you.
We're so sorry to hear about the struggles you're facing. It's like you're in a storm, and it feels overwhelming, doesn't it? We want you to know that we're here for you, praying with you and for you.
We understand that you've been forgiving your husband again and again, but it's exhausting when you see no change. It's like you're trying to hold back the tide with just your hands. We want to encourage you, sister, to set some boundaries for yourself and your kids. It's not about being unloving; it's about protecting yourselves and giving your husband the chance to hit rock bottom, to see the destruction he's causing, and to truly want to change.
Remember, you can't pour from an empty cup. Make sure you're taking care of yourself too. Surround yourself with supportive friends, maybe even join a support group. And please, please, reach out to a pastor or a biblical counselor. They can provide guidance and wisdom tailored to your specific situation.
Keep praying, keep trusting. With God, all things are possible. He sees you, He hears you, and He's right there with you in the midst of this storm.
We understand that you've been forgiving your husband again and again, but it's exhausting when you see no change. It's like you're trying to hold back the tide with just your hands. We want to encourage you, sister, to set some boundaries for yourself and your kids. It's not about being unloving; it's about protecting yourselves and giving your husband the chance to hit rock bottom, to see the destruction he's causing, and to truly want to change.
Remember, you can't pour from an empty cup. Make sure you're taking care of yourself too. Surround yourself with supportive friends, maybe even join a support group. And please, please, reach out to a pastor or a biblical counselor. They can provide guidance and wisdom tailored to your specific situation.
Keep praying, keep trusting. With God, all things are possible. He sees you, He hears you, and He's right there with you in the midst of this storm.
Cinu
Beloved of All
Lord, we pray for this prayer and family for blessings healing and salvation. Heal and bless. May their lives be a praise and glory unto thee.
Come to the Lord's holy presence. Seek him with all your heart. Cling to his Word and meditate on it moment by moment by positive thoughts and joy in the heart (James 1:2-4), knowing that the Lord is good and to him be all the praise. Seek first God's kingdom and his righteousness (Matthew 6:33). Even though life may feel hard, the Lord's hand will be on you, and he will answer in his time. I am praying for you. Amen.
Some resources that might help.
Needs: - But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19(KJV)
Salvation: - So they said "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved you and your household." Acts 16:31(NKJV)
Healing: - But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed. Isaiah 53:5(NKJV)
Fulfillment by the Holy Spirit: - Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the LORD unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts. Zechariah 4:6(KJV)
Persecutions: - But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. Luke 6:27-28(KJV)
Help in Prayer
Dwelling and Thriving in God’s grace where everything happens for good (Romans 8:28)
Pray that the Lord may open the eyes of the nations affected by coronavirus (Specifically forces against God’s people)
sermons
Be a Prayer Warrior: “Praying for others”
Come to the Lord's holy presence. Seek him with all your heart. Cling to his Word and meditate on it moment by moment by positive thoughts and joy in the heart (James 1:2-4), knowing that the Lord is good and to him be all the praise. Seek first God's kingdom and his righteousness (Matthew 6:33). Even though life may feel hard, the Lord's hand will be on you, and he will answer in his time. I am praying for you. Amen.
Some resources that might help.
Needs: - But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19(KJV)
Salvation: - So they said "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved you and your household." Acts 16:31(NKJV)
Healing: - But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed. Isaiah 53:5(NKJV)
Fulfillment by the Holy Spirit: - Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the LORD unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts. Zechariah 4:6(KJV)
Persecutions: - But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. Luke 6:27-28(KJV)
Help in Prayer
Dwelling and Thriving in God’s grace where everything happens for good (Romans 8:28)
Pray that the Lord may open the eyes of the nations affected by coronavirus (Specifically forces against God’s people)
sermons
Be a Prayer Warrior: “Praying for others”
The Encourager
The Encourager
I prayed that God in Jesus' name will answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. God Loves You. Thank You Jesus!!!
Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.
God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net
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Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net
Healed Spirit Soul And Body
Healed Spirit Soul And Body
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Cinu
Beloved of All
Lord, we pray for this prayer and family for blessings healing and salvation. Heal and bless. May their lives be a praise and glory unto thee.
Come to the Lord's holy presence. Seek him with all your heart. Cling to his Word and meditate on it moment by moment by positive thoughts and joy in the heart (James 1:2-4), knowing that the Lord is good and to him be all the praise. Seek first God's kingdom and his righteousness (Matthew 6:33). Even though life may feel hard, the Lord's hand will be on you, and he will answer in his time. I am praying for you. Amen.
Some resources that might help.
Needs: - But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19(KJV)
Salvation: - So they said "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved you and your household." Acts 16:31(NKJV)
Healing: - But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed. Isaiah 53:5(NKJV)
Fulfillment by the Holy Spirit: - Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the LORD unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts. Zechariah 4:6(KJV)
Persecutions: - But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. Luke 6:27-28(KJV)
Help in Prayer
Dwelling and Thriving in God’s grace where everything happens for good (Romans 8:28)
Pray that the Lord may open the eyes of the nations affected by coronavirus (Specifically forces against God’s people)
sermons
Be a Prayer Warrior: “Praying for others”
Come to the Lord's holy presence. Seek him with all your heart. Cling to his Word and meditate on it moment by moment by positive thoughts and joy in the heart (James 1:2-4), knowing that the Lord is good and to him be all the praise. Seek first God's kingdom and his righteousness (Matthew 6:33). Even though life may feel hard, the Lord's hand will be on you, and he will answer in his time. I am praying for you. Amen.
Some resources that might help.
Needs: - But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19(KJV)
Salvation: - So they said "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved you and your household." Acts 16:31(NKJV)
Healing: - But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed. Isaiah 53:5(NKJV)
Fulfillment by the Holy Spirit: - Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the LORD unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts. Zechariah 4:6(KJV)
Persecutions: - But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. Luke 6:27-28(KJV)
Help in Prayer
Dwelling and Thriving in God’s grace where everything happens for good (Romans 8:28)
Pray that the Lord may open the eyes of the nations affected by coronavirus (Specifically forces against God’s people)
sermons
Be a Prayer Warrior: “Praying for others”
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