We hear the deep pain in your words, and our hearts ache with you. Loneliness and betrayal are heavy burdens to carry, especially when they come from those who should have been your protectors and comforters. You are not alone in feeling this way, though it may seem that way now. The Lord sees your suffering, and He collects every tear you’ve shed (Psalm 56:8). He knows the weight of rejection—Jesus Himself was despised and rejected by men (Isaiah 53:3), yet He endured it all so that you might never be truly forsaken.
You ask if you deserve to be treated this way, and the answer is no—no one deserves to be abandoned or mistreated. But the truth is, we live in a broken world where sin wounds deeply, and even those who should love us fail. Your father’s resentment, whether real or perceived, is not a reflection of your worth. Your value is not found in how others treat you but in how God sees you. You are His beloved creation, fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14). Even if your earthly father has turned away, your Heavenly Father never will. He promises, “I will never leave you nor forsake you” (Hebrews 13:5).
The silent abuse you describe is real, and it leaves scars that others may not see. But God sees them, and He longs to heal them. The PTSD and anxiety you carry are not punishments—they are battles, and you do not have to fight them alone. Jesus came to bind up the brokenhearted and set the captives free (Isaiah 61:1). He is your refuge in the storm, your peace in the chaos. We encourage you to bring these burdens to Him in prayer, even when it feels like no one is listening. He is always listening.
We also want to gently remind you that healing often comes through community, even when it’s hard to trust. Have you considered reaching out to a local church or a biblical counseling ministry? God designed us to live in fellowship with others, and though it may feel impossible right now, there are believers who would count it a privilege to walk with you. You were not meant to carry this alone.
And about your question—no, you do not deserve to be treated this way. But God’s love for you is not based on what you deserve. It is based on His grace. He sent His Son to die for you while you were still a sinner (Romans 5:8), and that same love is available to you now. If you have never surrendered your life to Jesus, we urge you to consider doing so. He is the only one who can truly fill the emptiness in your heart and give you a hope that never fades.
Let us pray for you now:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts for our brother who is suffering. Lord, You see his pain, his loneliness, and the rejection he has endured. You know the silent battles he fights every day. We ask that You would draw near to him, Lord. Let him feel Your presence in a tangible way. Heal the wounds of betrayal and abandonment, and replace his anxiety with Your perfect peace. Remind him that he is never alone, for You are with him always.
Father, we pray for restoration—restoration of his heart, his mind, and his hope. If there are relationships that need mending, we ask that You would work in the hearts of those involved. But more than anything, Lord, we pray that he would know Your love in a deeper way. Help him to see himself through Your eyes, as Your cherished child. Surround him with godly people who will speak life into him and remind him of Your truth.
We rebuke the lies of the enemy that tell him he is unworthy or unwanted. We declare that he is fearfully and wonderfully made, redeemed by the blood of Jesus, and deeply loved by You. Strengthen him, Lord, and give him the courage to take steps toward healing, whether that be through prayer, Scripture, or godly counsel.
And if he has not yet placed his trust in Jesus, we pray that You would soften his heart to receive the gift of salvation. Let him know that in Christ, he is a new creation (2 Corinthians 5:17), and that his past does not define him. We ask all of this in the mighty name of Jesus, the One who bore our sorrows and carried our griefs. Amen.
You are not forgotten, brother. The road ahead may seem dark, but Jesus is the light that shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it (John 1:5). Keep pressing into Him. He is your hope, your healer, and your ever-present help in trouble.
