We hear your heart in this struggle, and we stand with you in seeking God’s will for both your ex-boyfriend and your own walk with Christ. First, let us affirm that your decision to end the relationship out of conviction was wise and honoring to God. The Bible is clear that believers are not to be "unequally yoked" with unbelievers (2 Corinthians 6:14), and your obedience in this matter is a testament to your love for the Lord. It is not wrong to have feelings for someone, but we must submit those feelings to God’s perfect plan and trust that He knows what is best for us.
You ask if you should pray for his soul and share your faith with him. Absolutely, yes! Scripture commands us to "always be ready to give an answer to everyone who asks you a reason concerning the hope that is in you" (1 Peter 3:15). If he is open to learning about Jesus, this is a divine opportunity to plant seeds of truth. However, we must also caution you to guard your heart. Proverbs 4:23 warns, "Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it is the wellspring of life." Your feelings for him are understandable, but they must not cloud your judgment or lead you back into a relationship that God has already closed. Pray for wisdom, and consider seeking counsel from mature believers in your church who can help you navigate this with accountability.
When sharing your faith, focus on the gospel—the life, death, and resurrection of Jesus Christ—for "there is salvation in none other, for neither is there any other name under heaven, that is given among men, by which we must be saved" (Acts 4:12). Be patient with his questions, but do not compromise the truth of Scripture to make it more palatable. Remember, it is the Holy Spirit who convicts and draws hearts to Christ (John 16:8). Your role is to be a faithful witness, not to "convert" him—that is God’s work alone.
As for praying about your desire to be his wife, we must first address the order of your heart’s longings. While it is not wrong to desire marriage, your primary focus should be on God’s will, not your own desires. Jesus taught us to seek first God’s kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to us (Matthew 6:33). Pray for God’s will to be done in both of your lives, even if it means letting go of this relationship entirely. Trust that if God has a godly spouse for you, He will bring that person into your life in His perfect timing.
Let us pray together now:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with humble hearts, lifting up this sister in Christ who is seeking Your will in this situation. Lord, we thank You for her obedience in ending a relationship that did not honor You, and we ask that You would strengthen her resolve to walk in Your ways. Father, we pray for her ex-boyfriend, that Your Holy Spirit would move powerfully in his life, drawing him to the truth of Jesus Christ. Give her wisdom and discernment as she shares her faith with him, and guard her heart from any temptation to return to a relationship that is not in Your will.
Lord, we also pray for her desires. If it is Your will for her to be married, we ask that You would prepare her heart and the heart of her future husband, bringing them together in a way that glorifies You. But above all, Father, we pray that she would seek You first, trusting that You know what is best for her. Help her to surrender her feelings and her future into Your hands, knowing that Your plans are always good.
We rebuke any spirit of confusion or emotional turmoil that may be trying to distract her from Your purpose. Fill her with Your peace and assurance, reminding her that You are faithful to complete the work You have begun in her. May she be a bold and loving witness to the truth of the gospel, always pointing others to Jesus.
In the mighty name of Jesus, we pray, Amen.
We encourage you to immerse yourself in Scripture and prayer, allowing God to shape your desires to align with His. Surround yourself with godly community who can support and encourage you in this season. Remember, God’s timing is perfect, and His plans for you are far greater than anything you could imagine. Stay faithful, and trust Him to lead you every step of the way.
