We understand your deep concern and the unease you’re feeling about this situation, and we commend you for seeking truth and wisdom in this matter. The Lord calls us to walk in discernment, not in fear, and to test all things against His Word. It is wise to pause and seek clarity before moving forward in marriage, for it is a covenant before God that must be entered into with full honesty, transparency, and alignment with His will.
First, we must address something critical: you mentioned your *fiancée*, but we want to gently remind you that if you are not yet married, you are not truly engaged in God’s eyes unless you have entered into a formal, biblical covenant of betrothal. Too often, the world treats engagement as a trial period or a flexible arrangement, but Scripture treats marriage as sacred and permanent from the moment vows are exchanged. If you have not yet made lifelong, unbreakable commitments before God and witnesses, then you are still in a season of courtship—and this is the time to seek the Lord’s direction with urgency. Marriage is not something to enter lightly, especially if there are unresolved concerns or potential deceit.
Your intuition may very well be the Holy Spirit warning you, for Scripture tells us, *"Beloved, don’t believe every spirit, but test the spirits, whether they are of God"* (1 John 4:1, WEB). If there is manipulation, hidden sin, or ungodly motives in this relationship, the Lord will expose it—for *"there is nothing covered that will not be revealed; and hidden that will not be known"* (Matthew 10:26, WEB). We must also ask: Is this woman a believer who walks in obedience to Christ? The Bible is clear that we are not to be *"unequally yoked with unbelievers"* (2 Corinthians 6:14, WEB). If she or her family do not share your faith in Jesus, that alone is a serious red flag, for how can two walk together unless they are in agreement with God’s truth?
Another concern we must address is your prayer—while you called on God, you did not invoke the name of Jesus Christ, through whom *alone* we have access to the Father. There is no other name by which we are saved, and no prayer is heard apart from Him. Jesus said, *"No one comes to the Father, except through me"* (John 14:6, WEB), and *"Whatever you will ask in my name, that will I do, that the Father may be glorified in the Son"* (John 14:13, WEB). If you have not yet surrendered your life to Christ as Lord and Savior, we urge you to do so now, for without Him, you cannot truly discern God’s will or receive His protection.
Now, let us pray over this situation with boldness and clarity:
*"Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, seeking Your truth and wisdom for our brother in this troubling situation. Lord, You are the God who sees all things—nothing is hidden from Your sight. If there is deceit, manipulation, or ungodly motives in this relationship, we ask that You expose it fully, for You detest lying lips (Proverbs 12:22). Give him discernment to see clearly, and courage to walk away if this union is not of You. Father, if this woman and her family are not fully surrendered to Christ, convict their hearts and reveal their true intentions. Do not let him be led into a covenant that would bring bondage rather than blessing.
We rebuke any spirit of deception, control, or fear that may be at work, and we command it to flee in Jesus’ name. If this relationship is not Your will, sever it completely and redirect his steps toward a godly wife who loves You above all else. But if there is a genuine issue that can be resolved in righteousness, grant him the wisdom and humility to address it biblically. Remind him that marriage is a sacred reflection of Christ and the Church (Ephesians 5:31-32), and it must be built on truth, not secrets.
Strengthen him to seek You first, to wait on Your timing, and to trust that Your plans for him are good. If he has not yet made Jesus Lord of his life, draw him into repentance and salvation today. We declare that no weapon formed against him will prosper (Isaiah 54:17), and that You will lead him in paths of righteousness for Your name’s sake. In Jesus’ mighty name, we pray—*Amen.*"*
Brother, we strongly encourage you to take deliberate steps to seek the truth. Have open, direct conversations with her—ask the hard questions, and observe whether her answers align with Scripture and the fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23). If she or her family become defensive, evasive, or hostile when confronted, that is a clear sign of ungodly motives. Also, seek counsel from mature, trusted believers—especially married couples who walk closely with the Lord. Do not move forward with marriage until you have *full* peace in the Spirit and *zero* doubt about her integrity and her family’s intentions.
Remember Proverbs 3:5-6: *"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight."* If this relationship is not from the Lord, He will close the door—but if it is, He will bring clarity and confirmation. Stay rooted in prayer, in the Word, and in the fellowship of believers who can speak truth into your life. Do not let emotion or fear drive your decisions; let the Holy Spirit lead you.
We are standing with you in prayer. May the Lord grant you wisdom, protection, and a heart fully submitted to His will.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.
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