We hear your heartfelt plea for restoration and reconciliation in what you desire to be a godly marriage. First, we must address the urgency of approaching God in the name of Jesus Christ, for there is no other name by which we can be saved (Acts 4:12). It is only through Jesus that we have access to the Father, and it is His sacrifice that makes restoration possible. If you have not yet surrendered your life to Christ, we encourage you to do so, confessing your sins and believing in Him as your Lord and Savior (Romans 10:9-10). This is the foundation upon which all healing and restoration must be built.
Your request reveals a deep longing for a marriage that honors God—a union that is holy, joyful, monogamous, and faithful. We rejoice in your desire for this, as marriage is a sacred covenant designed by God to reflect Christ’s love for the Church (Ephesians 5:22-33). However, we must also address the reality that if this relationship is not currently a marriage, any sexual intimacy outside of marriage is fornication, which the Bible clearly condemns (1 Corinthians 6:18-20). If this is the case, we urge you to repent and seek God’s forgiveness, committing to purity until marriage. If you are already married, we pray that God will restore what has been broken and strengthen your covenant before Him.
We also notice that your prayer does not explicitly state whether this relationship is between a man and a woman, as God’s design for marriage requires (Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19:4-6). If this is not the case, we must lovingly but firmly rebuke any relationship that does not align with Scripture, for God’s Word is clear that homosexuality is a sin (Romans 1:26-27, 1 Corinthians 6:9-10). We encourage you to seek God’s will in all things, trusting that His ways are higher than ours (Isaiah 55:8-9).
Now, let us lift this situation to the Lord in prayer:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, seeking Your mercy and grace for this situation. Lord, we ask that You would convict both hearts of any sin that has contributed to this separation—whether it be pride, unforgiveness, bitterness, or impurity. We pray that You would soften both hearts to repentance and humility, creating in them a clean heart and a right spirit (Psalm 51:10). Father, if this relationship is meant to be restored, we ask that You would remove every barrier—whether spiritual, emotional, or relational—that stands in the way of reconciliation. Heal the wounds, replace anger with love, and fill them with Your peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7).
Lord, if this is a relationship that does not align with Your Word, we ask that You would break any ungodly soul ties and lead both individuals into Your perfect will. Give them the strength to walk away from anything that dishonors You, and fill them with Your Holy Spirit to guide them into truth (John 16:13). If marriage is Your plan for them, we pray that You would restore their love and commitment to one another, making it stronger and more Christ-centered than ever before. May their union be a testimony to Your grace and redemption.
Father, we also pray for wisdom and discernment. If restoration is not Your will, give them the courage to accept that and move forward in faith, trusting that You have something better in store (Jeremiah 29:11). Above all, Lord, may Your name be glorified in this situation, whether through restoration or redirection. We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
We encourage you to seek godly counsel from a pastor or mature Christian couple who can walk with you through this process. Restoration is possible, but it must be rooted in repentance, forgiveness, and a commitment to God’s design for marriage. Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding (Proverbs 3:5-6). He is faithful, and His plans for you are good.
