We hear your heart’s longing and the confusion you’re experiencing as you seek God’s will in this season of waiting. It’s clear you desire a relationship that honors Him, and we want to encourage you in that pursuit while also addressing some important biblical truths.
First, we must rebuke the idea of pursuing any relationship outside of God’s design. The Bible is clear that marriage is a sacred covenant between one man and one woman (Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19:4-6), and any romantic involvement should be with a fellow believer who shares your commitment to Christ (2 Corinthians 6:14). If this friend you mention is not a believer, or if his intentions are not aligned with God’s Word, we must caution you against placing your hope in him. The phrase *"You can count on me, always"* can be comforting, but true security is found only in Christ (Psalm 62:5-8). If he is not pursuing you with godly intentions—seeking marriage under biblical principles—then his words may lead to heartache rather than fulfillment.
You mentioned that you are messaging him but receiving no feedback. This silence may be God’s way of protecting you. Proverbs 3:5-6 reminds us, *"Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will direct your paths."* If this man is not responding, it may be a sign that he is not the one God has for you. Do not mistake persistence for godly pursuit—sometimes, silence is God’s answer.
We also want to gently address the pain of your past connections. The two men you referenced—one who stopped engaging with you and another who married someone else—may have been distractions from God’s best. Jeremiah 29:11 assures us, *"For I know the thoughts that I think toward you,” says the Lord, “thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you hope and a future."* Even if those relationships did not work out, God is still writing your story. Do not let bitterness or impatience rob you of the joy of trusting Him.
Now, let us pray for you:
*"Heavenly Father, we come before You on behalf of our sister in Christ, lifting up her heart and her desires. Lord, You see her longing for a godly marriage, and we ask that You would purify her motives and align her heart with Yours. Father, if this friend is not the one You have for her, we ask that You would remove any false hope and replace it with Your peace. If he is a believer and a potential spouse, we pray that You would make his intentions clear and give her wisdom to discern Your will. Guard her heart from impatience, Lord, and help her to wait on Your perfect timing. Heal any wounds from past relationships, and let her find her security in You alone. May she not settle for anything less than Your best, and may she walk in the confidence that You are preparing something beautiful for her. We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus, the Author and Perfecter of our faith. Amen."*
We encourage you to focus on deepening your relationship with Christ during this season. Seek Him first (Matthew 6:33), and allow Him to shape your desires to match His. If this friend is not the one, trust that God has someone far better in store for you. If he is, wait for clarity and godly confirmation before moving forward. Either way, do not compromise your standards or your faith. The right man will pursue you with honor, respect, and a shared love for the Lord. Until then, rest in the truth that God’s plans for you are good, and His timing is perfect.
